Gay male nurse concern about male patient care - page 4

by Devon Rex

Hello everyone! I will be joining the nursing workforce in a couple of months specializing in urological needs (I am not going into med/surg). As a gay male, I am concerned that some male patients will react adversely when... Read More


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    Quote from ♪♫ in my ♥
    I really wonder... how does anybody know whether a nurse is straight or gay?

    Some of my coworkers know I'm straight because I've mentioned my wife in casual conversation but for the most part, unless someone is acting out their sexuality, how would anybody else ever know their personal proclivities?
    The sad truth is that most people automatically assume males who work as nurses are gay because of the social construct of it being a "womans" job.
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    Quote from strings85
    The sad truth is that most people automatically assume males who work as nurses are gay because of the social construct of it being a "womans" job.
    *** "most" people assume we are gay? My experience during two decades in nursing in no way supports that. It's happend a very few times that a person assumed I was gay since I was a nurse bt those where very old men, some of whome were blind. Far, far more common is to be flirted with my female patient family memebers of patients and comments about my wife or other comments indicating they assume I am strait.
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    Quote from funfunfun550
    just my personal opinion here that any man that does not want a "gay" man taking care of him probably would also refuse a "straight" man also...given that they have homophobia and lord knows if a man touches their penis they would somehow be violated
    That's been my personal experience... it wasn't about orientation, only gender.

    He didn't even want a male doctor.

    He was given the choice... me and the male doc now or back to the waiting room to wait for what he wanted... after some time debating about going AMA, he decided to settle for us.

    His excuse: "I don't want some guy touching me."
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    Quote from PMFB-RN

    *** "most" people assume we are gay? My experience during two decades in nursing in no way supports that. It's happend a very few times that a person assumed I was gay since I was a nurse bt those where very old men, some of whome were blind. Far, far more common is to be flirted with my female patient family memebers of patients and comments about my wife or other comments indicating they assume I am strait.
    Well congrats. Yoy must live in the most understanding town in America.
    superchungus, myospasms, and Paco-RN like this.
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    I go to a nursing school and there's about 3 gay students in class. Being gay has nothing to do with nursing and your profession. It feels like you're saying "I'm gay therefore I can only work in urology" trust me if you do your job professionally then that wouldn't even matter. All nurses are held to a high standard, if you maintain that high standard then others will respect you for it.
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    Your sexuality is a non-issue in what you do. It's none of the patient's business.
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    Professionalism, man. It goes a long ways.
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    Quote from strings85
    The sad truth is that most people automatically assume males who work as nurses are gay because of the social construct of it being a "womans" job.
    Is this a joke?

    Some people are blatantly homosexual. It isn't an insult, but there are no shortage of flamboyant homosexual men.
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    Quote from veggie530

    Is this a joke?

    Some people are blatantly homosexual. It isn't an insult, but there are no shortage of flamboyant homosexual men.
    No it isn't a joke, and I don't recall saying it was an insult. Sure there are a lot of flamboyant gay men in the nursing profession, however, there are just as many non-flamboyant gay/straight men. My point was that we are still trying to correct the stigma attatched to men in the profession being gay. Because we all know that isn't the case. I'm sure it isn't as bad as it was, say, 30 years ago. But the discrimination is still there. For all men. Maybe more in some areas of the country than others.
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    When I worked as an aide, I was given alot of crap about that. Well needless to say I married the charge nurse lol. Anyway who cares what people say, this is a different time gay or straight except it and go on!!!!


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