Dating for Men in Nursing/Nursing School

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    Hi everyone, I'm delighted to read all of these real and heartfelt posts on this male forum!

    Let me introduce myself. I am a former chemical engineer/software consultant who will start in a top 12-month Accelerated BSN program next January. Changing from a male-dominated field to a female-dominated field has been enlightening and enjoyable, and I wonder what kind of experiences the rest of you guys have had.

    In changing from the male world of engineering and business to the touchy-feely world of nursing, I've sometimes missed the more analytical, let's-get-the-job-done attitude we had in our startup companies. But since I plan to enter critical care, I know I will find the right balance of analysis and empathy in my future job!

    My question: how has your dating/social life been, for those single men out there?

    The nursing school I will be attending will have a ratio of 10 women to every man. In preparing for nursing school, I also worked as both a medical assistant and a nursing assistant, and I have gotten used to being one of the few men in my classes and activities.

    Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?

    In several of my classes, many of the women already have husbands or boyfriends. The female majority and women in general do not bother or intimidate me in the least, and I welcome the experience. I've always been curious about how women think and have had long, great experiences with many female friends. I truly enjoy dealing with women.

    Let's hear your dating/relating stories!
    Last edit by Raymond CA on Sep 19, '06
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    I've been a nurse for a couple of months now and working in NICU I certainly am outnumbered when it comes to gender. However, I don't ever see myself picking up dates from the workplace. First, it would be way too risky - if it doesn't work, you will have the great pleasure of seeing that person every single day. Second, I don't know how anyone in critical care would ever have time to do any flirting on the job. At least at my hospital, they keep us pretty darn busy just taking care of the patients.

    In summary, I'd have to say it's had no effect on my status as a single male. I love my job, but if I were in it to get girls, I would find that aspect of it woefully lacking.
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    well i tried to stay single thru school but now that im 2 months away from the end i have hooked up with a class mate. maybe not the best idea but im young and still enjoy having a good time!
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    First, it would be way too risky - if it doesn't work, you will have the great pleasure of seeing that person every single day. Second, I don't know how anyone in critical care would ever have time to do any flirting on the job. At least at my hospital, they keep us pretty darn busy just taking care of the patients.

    I'd have to second that. Work is already stressful enough. Throw a relationship into that fire is asking for trouble down the road.
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    Ok, let's broaden the discussion. My original questions were:

    Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?
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    Quote from Raymond CA
    Ok, let's broaden the discussion. My original questions were:

    Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?
    Yes dating is easier. I have learned a great deal about women and how to interact with them as a result of being in this field. Would I want to date another nurse? NOOOO THANKS! Frankly, you're better off dating friends of coworkers than coworkers themselves. My colleagues always invite me to occasions where I can meet their female friends. Not bad. I will say that nursing school is hell and most relationships will end. Also, going back for the BSN is usually analogous to serving divorce papers.
    I'd like to get married and stuff, but haven't found the one.... Lots of interesting dates though. Being in nursing as a man will educate you about women, men, and humanity....Thus, your social value will definitely increase as a result.
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    Thanks for your excellent dating posts, man! (I've added you as a buddy.) I looked through some of what you wrote on other forums too, and it's exciting to see what I envisioned coming true for someone like you. I also am planning to go the ICU/CRNA path.

    Quote from ArizonaICU
    I will say that nursing school is hell and most relationships will end. Also, going back for the BSN is usually analogous to serving divorce papers.
    Hmm...that's sad. Did you personally observe a bunch of your classmates breaking up? Sounds like the difficulties couples have when someone is in med school, too. Any suggestions on avoiding wrecking our relationships while in nursing school? How about when we are working as a nurse---does life get more manageable for relationships?

    Why would you NOT want to date a nurse again?
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    One of my favorite sayings is:

    "Never get your honey where you make your money!"

    Just wanted a chance to use that line.
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    Quote from Andy_HRtoRN
    One of my favorite sayings is:

    "Never get your honey where you make your money!"

    Just wanted a chance to use that line.
    Ditto That!
    Its not the issue of dating a nurse, but of the workplace issues that may arise if breakup occurs. Date a nurse who I don't work with? OH YEAH!

    I don't know really how to survive nursing school without breaking up. I think its important to fully convey to your s.o. the fact that you will be completely unavailable 91% of the time. That way if its not solid, you can break up right away and save yourself the strain during school. If they really support you and are committed, they'll be willing to accept this and will understand.

    And yes, med school is like this too, i've heard. You either go in to med school with a solid s.o. or you stay single and focus on work. Either way there's no time for relationships.
    Last edit by ArizonaICU on Apr 13, '06
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    Hi, I am in a class of 15 females to 4 males..I dont find any of my classmates as dating material at all..The women who I associate in class with are just my friends, and just that..There is nothing sexual about it..The bottom line, none I would date and I guess from me ignoring them, they probably do know it..If I ignore the women, they know I am not interested in them..And that can be a good thing because the women know you are there to learn how to be a nurse and that is it..Nursing school is not a pick up place..If you want that, go to a bar or somewhere else..
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