Dating for Men in Nursing/Nursing School

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Hi everyone, I'm delighted to read all of these real and heartfelt posts on this male forum!

Let me introduce myself. I am a former chemical engineer/software consultant who will start in a top 12-month Accelerated BSN program next January. Changing from a male-dominated field to a female-dominated field has been enlightening and enjoyable, and I wonder what kind of experiences the rest of you guys have had.

In changing from the male world of engineering and business to the touchy-feely world of nursing, I've sometimes missed the more analytical, let's-get-the-job-done attitude we had in our startup companies. But since I plan to enter critical care, I know I will find the right balance of analysis and empathy in my future job! :)

My question: how has your dating/social life been, for those single men out there?

The nursing school I will be attending will have a ratio of 10 women to every man. In preparing for nursing school, I also worked as both a medical assistant and a nursing assistant, and I have gotten used to being one of the few men in my classes and activities.

Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?

In several of my classes, many of the women already have husbands or boyfriends. The female majority and women in general do not bother or intimidate me in the least, and I welcome the experience. I've always been curious about how women think and have had long, great experiences with many female friends. I truly enjoy dealing with women. :)

Let's hear your dating/relating stories!

man nursing school was unlucky for me. i was probably the only guy not getting no play from the chicks in the class that were single lol

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I'm still in nursing school....i've got 42 people (5males) in my class....might be losing one or 2 people due to grades :(

anyways...my school has close to 1000 people in it...only about 15-30 males

TOTAL!

i'm 30....i've had my drinking days and one night stands....i'm done with the club and bar scene....its not where i'm at anymore....

hell, most of the females i see at this school i don't even classify as women...to me they are barely out of their diapers...i realize they are at 17/18 and just graduated HS....but they all lack the maturity and overall package I look for in a woman (KEY WORD...WOMAN!) ...generally speaking I wouldn't hesitate to say that 90% of my class is between 17 and 19 and that leaves only about 5 women who are over 20...(actually married already and 35+)...OR (24+ and married)...so any way you look at it...I may have more females at this school but as for serious dating material...I think not....hell, if i were younger and not looking for something substantial and just wanted to have sex...sure i'd go out with some of these females...you know...i've got a lot of friends at this school and obviously yes they are female, but even when i was that age, I never knew how much females think of having sex...or of how devious they can be sometimes (i'm sure guys can be too but i'm talking about females right now)...I remember sitting beside a friend of mine who was talking to a bunch of her girlfriends and they were comparing the worst thing they did to their boyfriends and laughing about it....oh yeah, they were also comparing the sexiest thing about them too...I wonder what the women in our lives would do if they knew we were sitting around comparing some T&A and comparing some "conquests" they have made ...maybe who had the best vocals? or even best orator amongst the group? to be honest, I was both shocked and amazed....and i don't judge people too much ( i really try and remain open and flexible ) but 1 of these females really dropped in my book after hearing what she did to one of her boyfriends...

anyways...i talk too much

later

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Karmyk. I totally agree with your comment about the nursing field taking a special woman to do the job. I want to make a correction though. It takes a special person (man or woman) to be a nurse. I believe the personality that you need to have to be in this field would attract two people to one another. Whether you work with them or not. I'm also a big believer in fate. If it is meant to be it will. Just one woman's opionion.

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From my own personal experience I have to agree. Ive had friends (female) who have gone through Nursing School and I believe the statistics are like 60-70% of marriages will fail/end in divorce during Nursing School (That statistic may in fact be low). I personally am in the unique position that my wife and I are going to school together, whether its good or bad only time will tell (we've had our share of problems previously already but at least we both know what the other is dealing with in school).

Just read your post and my eyes got big. My wife and I are starting an ADN in August in Elkins, WV. We are both excited and curious. How are things going for you and your wife in school? Has it been as beneficial as we've thought it might be? How have you two been handling this super challenging program together?

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XYnurse2B, don't be too concerned. I have just graduated from nursing school and preparing to take NCLEX on Monday June 4th. You are fortunate to have you wife with you (well I guess) Things are going to be weird for you probaly. Not sure if you ever been stuck with your wife for 80 yours a week doing the same thing, same time, etc., but you may find it futile to have a decent conversation with your wife.

The major differences you too will probaly have is your learning style. In our class we graduated 8 guys ( none homosexual) and 51 ladies. You are going to find out quickly that guys think completely different about everything, which you probaly know, but when it comes to you entering a "woman's world" you will have to adjust your thought's a little bit. I am 32, married with 2 kids, very fortunate to have an incredible wife that is a physical therapist and wonderful mother, which is the only reason I made it through.

I must state: BE CAREFUL!!!! Nursing students are sexual creatures and not afraid to let you know, etc. so BE CAREFUL. In 2 years we had 1 man get divorced and 9 women, not to mention the numerous affairs that occurred. The big thing is that the whole class gets very close and you know what that can mean.

Oh well, good luck in the future, I hope and pray that all goes great for you and the wife.

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Specializes in Urgent Care.
Ok, let's broaden the discussion. My original questions were:

Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?

To busy to really date (though I have spent some time with one of the girls (MUCH younger than me btw, yeah:bragging) who is 2 quarters ahead of me after she asked me out)

I have stayed single my entire way through school, by my own choice.

"The ODDS are good, but the goods are ODD." That really does explain it.;)

:yeahthat:

I'd have to say that my dating life has never been worse, but honestly, I don't notice that much. I honestly don't have time to date. I can't say that I mind being such a "minority" in class though. :-)

K

That too.

I also know some guys who think that girls immediately cross them off the pssibility list when they find out they are nurses/nursing students. I havent noticed that at all. If anything the opposite.

I would definitely steer away from dating anyone who I go to class with though. Make friends with her for now and then maybe try dating after school is over (actually acting on that plan right now)

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Specializes in OB, NP, Nurse Educator.

Stay away from the instructors! - my office mate of 13 years got fired for dating a male student - and he got flunked out of clinical because they were kissing at clinical :uhoh3: (inappropriate behavior); the students reported them to the Academic Dean. My friend never got another teaching job, and the student was never readmitted to our program - he had to start completely over at a private college.

If you don't stay away from the instructors make sure you are discreet!

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Hey Boys,

I am 4 weeks from graduating from nursing school (FINALLY!) From the beginning i've put up with the "Hey, lots of girls" lines from everyone i know. (by the way i am one of 3 boys in a class of 115) I have been against any sort of dating/flirting/"picking up" at all from the beginning. However about 9 months ago i caved. Started dating a girl in the program, and it has been phenomenal. We were friends for a while and just starting hanging out almost every day because of classes/clinicals. However, it does take a lot of work. We have VERY open communication and i thank her for putting up with the many women in my life every week, if not every day. What i have enjoyed the most is that at the end of the day i can talk about my day at the hospital and she understands what i am going through. She gets my struggles, frustrations, and excitements without me having to try to explain the unexplainable, it is really nice.

Good luck boys.

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I'm a prenursing student myself; about to start the upper division this fall. I grew up with 3 sisters, I am a former LMT (which, at least at my school, was an extremely female dominated profession), most of my immediate co-workers at the hospital I work at are all female, and then of course in school so far I've been around mostly females.

To answer your question...I would love to be able to say that my dating life has improved dramatically and that I have women beating down my door every day. But honestly, that has not been the case. Since I am about to start clinicals, I imagine that this is probably a good thing for now, since everyone says that being single makes your ability to focus in school much, much easier, and I can see it; I definitely think that that's helped me a LOT in school so far.

Perhaps being around so many females has in some ways helped give me a little perspective. It might not be something that I explicitly notice or think about, but I'm sure it's there. Although I'm thinking it may actually get a lot harder from here on out - being around girls all day, but not really being able to really pursue anything seriously, because I'm afraid for myself it would only be a distraction, at least while I'm still in school. On the other hand, you never know. I'd like to think that dating someone who's in the same boat that I am could be an advantage in some ways, as far as having a study partner goes. But then, I can also see how "study dates" could easily turn into just straight-up "dates", if ya know what I'm saying. ;) And obviously that could be a problem. Who knows.

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