I am not a live-in nurse (although I am still a student). But I am in dire need of advice from your perspective.
I have hired live-in nurses to care for my 88 year old grandmother who has some early signs of Alzheimer's among many other medical conditions. The problem is that my grandmother keeps firing them all. There are no real reasons, just irrational things like "she was sleeping in my house", or "she was getting paid too much."
I have gone through 3 frustrated nurses in less than 1 month, and now it looks like I have to hire another. I try to reason with them, but eventually they get fed up with grandma.
Has anyone had experience with this type of situation? Anyone have advice for me? What is a nurse supposed to do in a situation like this?
Please help, I am desperate and don't know who better to ask than the nursing professionals themselves. Thanks.
I would tell the nurses that they work for YOU, not her, and only you can fire them. If there is a dementia diagnosis- she cannot logically make these type of high-stakes decisions. I feel for you- dementia is so incredibly difficult to deal with.....
Last edit by meanmaryjean on Aug 12, '13
If it's her home and the individuals are there to care for her, she is within her legal rights to refuse care and order them out of her home unless she has been found to lack capacity to make those kinds of decisions or ruled incompetent by a court and a guardian appointed. If her condition is expected to continue to decline, guardianship may be the way to go.
Tough situation -- best wishes!
Last edit by elkpark on Aug 13, '13