Has Nursing Made You a Homebody? - page 3

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I currently have a sick animal at home...Him being sick has stressed me out a lot the past 24 hrs or so and that has led me to write this post. My husband has recently made remarks of how much more of a "homebody" I have become... Read More


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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    My withdrawal from others is kind of a coping mechanism for me. I'm being drained all day with needy, whiny, nasty behaviors... and it takes every ounce of energy and self control to remain calm and professional.
    true statement!

    on more than one occasion my husband has (nicely!) asked me to get him a drink, do this, please do that, and i just SNAP.

    "you are able bodied, babe! you arent sick, do it yourself!"

    "NO!! im tired, do it yourself!"

    or, when his stomach didnt feel so hot and was going to drink juice , i grabbed the bottle right from his hands and chastised him, "no no no, not on your stomach. nothing acidic, sir!"

    his eyes were like WTH? lol

    12 hours of pretending to care, keeping my mouth shut over stupid complaints "my left finger is tingly the past day or so.....i dont want that maxapime, i must be allergic", makes me hardened when i want to come home to my husband and take care of him and his stupid little complaints :-)
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    Nursing and "life" has made me a homebody - I don't have friends, don't go out other than with my spouse and that is ok by me. I too have pets and they too are my kids (don't care if anyone understands that or not!) and I prefer to spend time with them or at home. Is depression part of it? Yes. Anxiety? Yes. But, when dealing with people as nurses do, in the ways that we do, needing a break from humans is ok..you grow, you change, your priorities change, life events change you..I miss some of the "old me" but this is who and where I'm at now..as one person posted - be who you are - not who you were - and don't apologize for it.
    Last edit by Marshall1 on May 21, '13 : Reason: spelling
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    LOL, have you all ever told a family member not to talk up the new neighbors too much or offer to lend them stuff because you are thinking, "Oh, God now they'll want to talk to ME all the time, ugh!!!" ...then you hear them calling your name as they cross the yard... you quickly lock the screen door and go off to finish the laundry hahaha!
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    Reading these comments has made me feel a little better. I thought I was the only one who was a homebody. I'm not married and don't have kids...well 6 furry ones. Yes, I do feel some depression, anxiety, and some loneliness. However, I always seem to prefer being home. My friend is constantly trying to get me out of the house. I'm not a drinker, don't smoke, don't dance (anymore).... I'm happy lying on my couch on Friday nights..although this will probably change... I'm in between jobs and was just offered a night position which I may take (still have 2 more interviews). Perhaps we should start some kind of "group"? The Nursing Homebodies or something like that.
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    I work in a home office and one of the things I cherish about it is the solitude. I am overwt and deconditioned as hell and sometimes in the winter I don't even set foot outside the house for days and days and days, but by god my head feels better than I did for years. I love my cats, I love my sweet husband, I love my children and grandchildren, I love my telephone and online friends, and I adore the rare vacation, but I am perfectly content being here at home.

    This is me all over (no, I'm not Susan Cain, but she is describing me and my childhood and my present choices )


    Susan Cain: The power of introverts | Video on TED.com
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    My husband is more of a homebody than me, but I am doing 2 week day/night rotations, which I loath. I am hoping to go to straight days so I can be a mommy again. My kids are 9 and 12 ans my husband has been wonderful about being a true partner in child rearing. He works a 0400 to 1400 job so he never wants to do anything. With summer coming, I hope we can do some more things with the kids. I am exhausted though. I am older and have had my partying, but not dead yet Starting online RN-BSN in the fall. oy. I do love my DVR, though!!!!
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    My mother in law is convinced that someone in the family has "offended" me..In reality my husband and I have been married for 23 years and I have spent plenty of holidays with them and now when I work all day on T-giving or Xmas the LAST thing I want to do is get dressed and go out.When I am off a holiday the last thing I want to do is get dressed and go out.There is a trend there-it's the LAST thing I want to do-the families of the folks that I care for are sucking the life out of me for 8 hours a day,I don't have much left.And they are not as much fun as they used to be----but then again one could say the same thing about my husband and me....
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    I totally agree with you. I'm a little older then you, but after working 24 hrs. in 2 days all I want to do is chill. In fact, after coming home after a 12 hr. day, I don't want to talk to anyone. I have a friend who lives in Providence and also owns a condo in Chicago. She comes here monthly and is up and running. She expects me to do the same, however, I'm exhausted. I appreciate this post as I thought it was just me. Thanks for all the comments.
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    I've been shy & introverted since the day I was conceived (as far as I remember!). I have always loved being alone because I was scared of people the first half of my life. I was OK at work because I was confident in what I was doing & communicating with patients was easy for me. When it came to my personal life, not so much. Now that I'm older (56), I really just enjoy kicking back in my recliner & watching the boob tube. My name is KarenfRN & I'm a TV addict! I just like having time to think & rediscover who I really am after so many years of trying to be what everyone else thought I should be. It's also nice to be able to do things for myself after so many years of caring for my dad. I don't regret a minute of the time I spent taking care of him, but it was very exhausting on top of working 36 hours on nights every week.
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    I can completely relate to this. I've been a nurse for 4 years now. 2 1/2 of which have been spent on night shift. I was never an outgoing person anyway, but since becoming a nurse I have descended farther into hermitville.
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