What I Wish I Could Say to My Residents and Their Families

  1. 16 1. You are NOT the only resident in this facility.
    2. Your mother is NOT the only resident in this facility.
    3. No, there is no way you can still receive Dad's Social Security check. Get a job.
    4. If you're unhappy with her care here, by all means, take her home. Here, I'll help you
    pack.
    5. Your Dad, the aphasic, bedridden, 5 yrs+ incontinent resident with advanced dementia
    said he needed to go to the bathroom? Really? Well stop the press! We are witness to a miracle! And right as we're serving lunch, too....
    6. YOU aren't paying good money for anything. Medicaid is. You're welcome.
    7. Sure, go ahead and give you're NPO Mom on a feed tube her beloved coffee. She'll
    aspirate and maybe even die, as explained ad nauseum. As if sneaking her foods/drinks by mouth when we're not looking somehow lessens the risks...
    8. No, Mom is not going to suddenly "snap out of" the catastrophic stroke she had so
    you can take her check, er...her home with you.
    9. You can cover Dad up as well as I can.
    10. AAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (As I bang my head on the desk).

    Thank you for letting me get that out. As you can see, I'm a "little" fed up with LTC. I've been a LTC nurse for almost 6 yrs now, and I HAVE HAD IT!!!!!!!!!!! Demanding/whiny/entitled residents, demanding/whiny/entitled family members, mountains of paperwork, it's crushing my spirit and making me resentful at nursing. I have many more things I would LOVE to say to residents, MD's, families, corporate CEO's, etc., but I think the above will suffice for now. Again, thank you for the rant. Please feel free to add your own.
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  3. Visit  bluegeegoo2 profile page

    About bluegeegoo2, LVN

    bluegeegoo2 has '7' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'LTC'. From 'Austin, TX area'; 43 Years Old; Joined Feb '07; Posts: 579; Likes: 872.

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  4. Visit  HippyDippyLPN profile page
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    I know it gets frustrating...but you have to remember, for some family members this is the first time they have had a family member in LTC so accepting that mom or dad has no inclination to go pee in the toilet anymore is hard. We naturally get jaded in LTC and family members, IMO, are the hardest part. Especially the ones who show up once a year on Mother's Day and want to change mom's care plan all around to ease their guilt over not ever seeing mom. I got to your frustration level and moved on to another field...maybe it's time you should consider this? LTC well it sucks the life out of you and then some. We all need a break from it at some point.
    LTCNS and Katie13LPN like this.
  5. Visit  avaloncar profile page
    1
    lmao! We all get frustrated but we have to hold our tongues and then come to AN to let it out, lol. I am happy you were able to get it out. I can imagine you still care for the residents but then again, enough is enough.
    But at some point we all have to know when to move on. So maybe it is time for you to move on out of LTC, don't want to be that grumpy, burnt out nurse no one likes. lol.
    Katie13LPN likes this.
  6. Visit  bluegeegoo2 profile page
    3
    Oh yes, I loves my people! But, alas, I am turning (have turned?) into Nurse Ratched. lol. I'm actually looking into going back to school so that I may have more options for employment.
  7. Visit  avaloncar profile page
    1
    lol! Oh man, that's funny! Oh that is a great idea. You have your ADN or BSN?
    Katie13LPN likes this.
  8. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
    9
    Quote from avaloncar
    You have your ADN or BSN?
    According to the member's profile, it reveals he/she is an LPN. LPNs are the ultimate backbone of the nursing home industry.
    LTCNS, SoldierNurse22, Katie13LPN, and 6 others like this.
  9. Visit  avaloncar profile page
    1
    Quote from TheCommuter
    According to the member's profile, it reveals he/she is an LPN. LPNs are the ultimate backbone of the nursing home industry.
    Wow...okay. Thanks for that update...
    But I was just trying to start a conversation with the poster, if I just wanted to know his/her information I would have looked at her profile. But thanks...
    Katie13LPN likes this.
  10. Visit  Glycerine82 profile page
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    I think the Commuter was just trying to be helpful while paying the OP a compliment. :-)
  11. Visit  Glycerine82 profile page
    3
    Oh my. I remember we had this wicked demented lady who was NWB BLE and incontinent x5 years or more. Whenever her daughter came she INSISTED we put her mother on the toilet. Ugh. Management allowed this, too. Suuuuch a hassle. I work rehab now and am so thankful I can say no because its a safety risk, and I do.
    KelRN215, Katie13LPN, and Hygiene Queen like this.
  12. Visit  prnqday profile page
    3
    Yes, I've been there. I loved LTC but at some point I to make the decision to leave LTC. It is not fair to you or the residents if you hate your job. A happy nurse does make happy patients, in my opinion.
  13. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
    1
    Quote from avaloncar
    Wow...okay. Thanks for that update...
    But I was just trying to start a conversation with the poster, if I just wanted to know his/her information I would have looked at her profile. But thanks...
    You are very welcome!
    Esme12 likes this.
  14. Visit  LithEruiel profile page
    1
    #1 and 2 apply everywhere... some doctors need to realize that too...
    bluegeegoo2 likes this.
  15. Visit  Bhavana profile page
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    oh do I feel your pain. My way of handling it was to completely ignore the annoying, negative, downright rude family members. I didnt waste time arguing, or justifying myself or my aides, i just pretended they were not there, that they did not exist. Since I was usually in front of my med cart, they'd come sauntering up, and start with their BS, and I'd just keep doing what I was doing like they were not even there. NO eye contact, and don't acknowledge them at all. And the beauty of it was, considering they were rude and demanding to everyone who listened, anyone in management would run in the other direction when they see them, so they really couldn't even find anyone to listen to them if they wanted to complain that I was ignoring them.


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