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- Jun 30, '12 by Super UltraThank you! Somewhere inside I was thinking just this, but being completely new and not exactly knowing what to expect I wasn't sure if I was just not working hard enough, not smart enough, etc.
- Jun 30, '12 by caliotter3Do not worry. Your time will come. Meanwhile, continue to look for work. Perhaps you will find something that will be better.
- Jun 30, '12 by malamud69A veteran ER nurse friend of mine gave some great advice to anybody starting out in most health care jobs: If you can afford to do it, work more than one Per Diem job...you can find the fit that works for both sides...no B.S., you are not tied to something if it doesn't work out etc...makes common sense. You may also get to practice a variety of skills in different settings.
- Jun 30, '12 by malamud69Quote from Cupid21Seems like a perfect reason to support unions.Hi I have been an LPN for 16 years and you are probably a lot younger then me but nursing is one of the hardest jobs you'll ever do. I guess my skin is thick in one way but in another I am so so so sick and tired of the abuse that goes on in nursing. I would love to tell you the grass is greener on the other side but most of the time it is not. I am always asking questions when I do not know something and it does take time to catch on how to manage all those patients. It is an exhausting job. You are always learning and things are always changing. I agree with the other writer he is making you feel small so that he can control you, it does happen to nurses all the time. You see there aren't any laws that protect nurses like the biggest problem patient ratio. But the truth is the amount of patients that is given to one nurse is really impossible to do everything that is asked. Your boss knows that. You will always be told that the facility can't get more nurses or they will have to shut down which is a bold face lie. Someone is making good money off of our backs big time. So you are made to feel inadequate so you will take on the responsibility and work you fingers to the bone to fulfill their unrealistic expectations. I wish you the best!
- Jun 30, '12 by CherylRNBSNThe best way to deal with this? STAY.
And I mean for the short term. If you let this a** run you off, your confidence will take an even greater hit. He cannot make any meaningful judgement after two days! Period. (Unless you were clearly unsafe. And then he should have fired you. You need/deserve time to DEVELOP.)
Time to step up your game, Missy.(Spoken maternally) Take this as a challenge! Because it surely is. Do not let him undermine your confidence. You are a NEW nurse, and shame on him for not giving you concrete, helpful advice and NURTURING you.
I consider it very important to be able to lead, as well as to be led. This guy is not leading you! But I think, if you have faith in yourself and just SHOW UP (a great part of life is about just showing up), you will develop your skills and your confidence.
Please consider fighting thru this difficult experience. If you give up, you'll never know TRIUMPH.
And their are some fantastic nurse leaders/managers out there! Show this guy what your made of, while you search for another job. BUT DON"T QUIT THIS ONE! YOU CAN DO IT! Avoid the gap on resume! (And I know of what I speak).
Good luck! It will get better.
- Jun 30, '12 by proud nurseI've worked in LTC for the past 7 years as a night shift charge nurse (LPN). Working in LTC is stressful and overwhelming, even when you develop your own routine. Don't let this person get into your head and doubt your abilities. He doesn't sound like someone I'd want to work for or with. There's usually a reason why that door revolves. You'll know when it's time to move on.
- Jun 30, '12 by CapeCodMermaidYour story reminds me of an experience I had when I was new. I was on orientation working 3-11. The supervisor who was orienting me spent most of the evening elsewhere. Most of the patients didn't have name bracelets so it wasn't easy to tell who was who. There was one resident who lookedlike she was in her 30's but according to the MAR she was 100. The meds included Stelazine and Thorazine....the supervisor screamed down the hall "you are too SLOW". I told her I didn't intend to give medications to someone I couldn't identify and then I added "if THAT woman is 100, I'm going to start taking thorazine!"I finished the shift and resigned. That was in 1982. Since then I've worked in many different places....some good some bad. I am the director now of a large facility. I do not allow any one treat a new or not so nurse badly.Don't give up. There are good places WITHOUT unions with reasonable, respectful bosses.
- Jun 30, '12 by Isitpossiblesuperultra! dont you dare for one second that the problem is you-- i too am a NEW grad in a LTC.. i am receiving FIVE weeks of orientation...five weeks i repeat... two days is ludricous, and like someone else mentioned that fact that they have that many openings and promoting new nurses to charge already says alot about that company... thank God you are Per diem only! relax and try and learn as much as you can...refuse to let him or anyone else make you feel incompetent... seek suport from any experienced RNs who are understanding of us newbies...
- Jul 1, '12 by Super UltraI went back today for a 12 hour shift and I will say that the great majority of my coworkers are extremely understanding and helpful. That's a bright spot at least!