Pissed Off!!!

  1. Ok, well im 18 years old and along with 3 other girls in my class, we are the youngest. The four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. Well....first off, this woman has been trying my patience since the first day i met her. We were all sitting together talking and she asked a very personal question ( i feel it was just plain RUDE ) She said, "Do you have sex in your parents house?!" (we were talking about our parents and rules that we have since we are still living at home). Keep in mind that this was one of the FIRST times that i had ever spoken to the woman. I feel that she thought it was ok to ask such an INAPPROPRIATE question because of my age, therefore showing me no respect. I mean i dont think she would've asked a woman her age about there sex life! I feel i was disrespected because I am so young.
    Well, TODAY...we were learning how to feed a patient, so we paired up and fed eachother ( it was real funny!)...well, the woman turns to me and another one of the 18 year old students and says, " Doesnt this bring you back, way back when, you know like 2 years ago...hahahaha". WELL...i turned right to the B*T*H, and said..."At least Im not OLD" ( shes always saying how old she feels) the other girls looked at me like " OHMAGOD!" i really wanted to TELL HER OFF tho!!! im gonna stand up for myself, im not gonna let her think shes better than me just because she got some years on me. im mean WHERE DOES SHE GET OFF!?!?!?!!
    ...well thanks for listening to me complain, and if anybody has any advice or comments about this...let me know..thanks
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  3. by   MelH
    :kiss melisita, although this woman is trying your patience I would try and avoid her at all cost! Don't stoop to her level! Maybe this woman feels inferior and feels that she has to get a rise out of you in order for her to have a good day! Who knows....just stay away from her if at all possible and focus on your duties so you can get out of school! Good luck to you!
  4. by   OzNurse69
    Ok, here's a thought for you.

    What if this woman has been plucking up the courage for years to get out of a dead end job and do something she has always wanted to do? And what if she started the first day of nursing school thinking to herself "Oh my God, I'm one of the oldest in the class. I wonder if I will be able to keep up with all these young, fresh minds?" And what if the first person she tried to fit in with, and join in a conversation with, gave her a withering look, and rolled her eyes, and called her old, just when she was feeling at her most vulnerable and terrified.

    Now, how would you feel if this person did not come back to school, but went back to her dead-end job, because she had been made to feel completely humiliated when she was just trying to be "one of the crew"?

    If you are commencing your nursing life with that small an amount of compassion in your soul, maybe she is not the one who needs to reconsider their choice of career. After all, though the technical side of things is important, the ability to empathise with other people will take you much further in life.
  5. by   sanakruz
    Dont let others get your goat! when you are out there working you'll have so many people as your collegues that are not your age, sex, social background, cultural background, etc. that your head will spin! And your patients will be even more varied! Just look at it as part of the learning experience( maybe the hardest part...)
  6. by   shygirl
    Originally posted by OzNurse69
    Ok, here's a thought for you.

    What if this woman has been plucking up the courage for years to get out of a dead end job and do something she has always wanted to do? And what if she started the first day of nursing school thinking to herself "Oh my God, I'm one of the oldest in the class. I wonder if I will be able to keep up with all these young, fresh minds?" And what if the first person she tried to fit in with, and join in a conversation with, gave her a withering look, and rolled her eyes, and called her old, just when she was feeling at her most vulnerable and terrified.

    Now, how would you feel if this person did not come back to school, but went back to her dead-end job, because she had been made to feel completely humiliated when she was just trying to be "one of the crew"?

    If you are commencing your nursing life with that small an amount of compassion in your soul, maybe she is not the one who needs to reconsider their choice of career. After all, though the technical side of things is important, the ability to empathise with other people will take you much further in life.

    Said with pure class!

    Shygirl
  7. by   RNConnieF
    I hate to say this cause I know it's gonna hurt your feelings but....you sound just like a teenager. Perhaps she didn't intend to disrespect you at your first confrontation, maybe she was just trying to fit into the conversation, and since you ARE in nursing school usual taboos don't apply. I was the oldest student in my RN class (only the instructors where older than me, and that was only 2 of them) and I can tell you how hard it is to fit in. I was always the odd man out at school. The life of the older student is even harder than it is for the young students, we don't learn new content easily hence we need to spend MUCH more time studying, we forget things more quickly, we don't have the physical reserve to stay up studying and still get to class on time, and on top of all these challenges, we are lonely, when after studying for 20 hours for a test our classmates don't celebrate our success, they ridicule us for being "teacher's pet". A college campus is not a friendly place for the older student. I'm not trying to hammer you, I'm just asking that you reevaluate your interpretation of her statements from a kinder perspective.
  8. by   DebsZoo
    Very nicely put, OzNurse and Connie..........
  9. by   RNConnieF
    I should have added the non school challenges older student face. I was in school full-time, working full-time, parented 4 kids, took care of the house and all the cooking, was band parent president, VP, co-president (depending on the year), was Cub Scout den leader, volunteered at 3 schools, helped out a disabled mother, and in my spare time I tried to sleep. The life of the "non-traditional" student is HARD, even harder than for the traditional student. I don't think I would ever do it again if I knew what I was getting into.
  10. by   Robin61970
    I also say very well put Oz and Connie......I agree with everything you guys said. We were not privy to the conversation that was going on prior to the comment and do not know the turns it was taking or what was being discussed. My classmates and I freely discuss sex and everything so I would not have felt it a rude question.......anyway if you get offended that easily you may have a rough time in school.......good luck to you.....
  11. by   maire
    Dang...I'm old.
  12. by   sunnygirl272
    Oznurse & Connie took the words right outa my keyboard...lol...
  13. by   Gator,SN
    Melisita,
    I have one in my class just like you described, and so I just stay away from her. I am not the oldest or the youngest in my class, but age aside, I would be offended if anyone, that I hardly knew asked me about my sex life.
    AGE...is not an excuse for bad behavior on either side of the fence. I may not be the most popular person here on this thread, but IF this lady is older and afraid of not fitting in or making friends, then maybe she should try a little more manners and not insult people by joking about their age........bottom line,
    Don't dish it out if you can't take it!
    Also, If this woman runs back to her dead end job because someone in her nursing class said something she didn't like, or insulted her, then she would have never made it as a nurse anyway. Nursing takes guts...and a bit of a thick skin. Melisita, You yourself may have a bit of a chip on your shoulder about being taken seriously because of your young age, if so, then lead your peers by example! Be nice to her if you can, and don't allow yourself to get into anymore personal conversations with her.....don't talk about your home life or the "rules" or whatever around her. Be respectful of her when you are around her, because even though her comments IMHO are childish, one of you has to be the adult!
    Good Luck!
    Gator
  14. by   kimmicoobug
    Well said, Gator

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