Pissed Off!!! - page 4

:( Ok, well im 18 years old and along with 3 other girls in my class, we are the youngest. The four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. Well....first off, this woman has... Read More

  1. by   Love-A-Nurse
    "the four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. well....first off, this woman has been trying my patience since the first day i met her. we were all sitting together talking and she asked a very personal question ( i feel it was just plain rude ) she said, "do you have sex in your parents house?!" my question is, since you said the four of you were talking, did you leave the door open for her to ask the question? i am trying to understand why anyone would ask such a question to another but especially if said parties just met.
  2. by   shabookitty
    EEEKKKK!!! When did 30 become OLD???

    I am 29...trying to run from 30... Not too old to run!
    I am not the oldest in my class, yet it is filled with younger people. And YES it is so hard to speak with them. Younger folks develop cliques (been there before) and it is hard to worm your way in. I think with age you lose that "group" comraderey (sp?). I just crave a genuine person to talk to in class...I don't want to feel the competiton of being accepted.
  3. by   RNIAM
    I am 37 years on this earth and have never had a problem meeting anyone. I have no problem talking to anyone. I don't care if there is a clique or not.If I have a wuestion I ask. If I want to speak to ahyone I do. I guess I have become bolder. I know I would never ask anyone about sex or anything else personal. That is just me. I would suggest that you keep your distance she obviously rubbed you the wrong way and I have a feeling you do the same for her. Happy schooling and please feel free to continue to share your feelings about your school experiences.(both good and bad)
  4. by   nurseleigh
    AGE IS IRRELEVANT

    Both of the comments made by this woman were rude and uncalled for. If it were me, i would have probably had a few choice words for her as well.

    Leigh
  5. by   RNIAM
    Leigh
    your right it was uncalled for and the retaliation was also uncalled for. remember two wrongs don't make it right!
  6. by   researchrabbit
    Originally posted by shabookitty
    EEEKKKK!!! When did 30 become OLD???

    But it's not! Just ask anyone who's 40...

    I never ask my adult patients how old they are...I always ask "how young are you?"

    Since I will be 46 in November, I have been practicing for 50 (when someone asks my age, I say "50" so that when it gets here I have already been doing it for several years and it won't surprise me!).
  7. by   kathylorr
    Geeesch, now you all are making me feel really, really old! I'm 20 years older than the next oldest student, and he is 34 (do the math)
    But I sure can't imagine asking such a question of anyone, regardless of circumstances.
    Kathy
  8. by   bbnurse
    Age is irrelevant and rudeness calls for patience. Not that I think the question was appropriate but I wonder why she would ask it.
    My first instinct was to say that sort of confrontation was very childish on everyone's part. However, one must defend themselves. I think with time and with the suggestions you have read on here, you might agree that there are other things you might have said that were more gracious and less cruel which would have strongly made your point. Sometimes this type of experience helps us learn to practice the skills taught in nursing in all avenues of life, not just in the clinical arena.
    Just for the record, not as a criticism,why is the word "disrespected" used? There is not such word but I hear it a lot. Is this slang common among the people in nursing now?
  9. by   l.rae
    Originally posted by researchrabbit
    But it's not! Just ask anyone who's 40...

    I never ask my adult patients how old they are...I always ask "how young are you?"

    Since I will be 46 in November, I have been practicing for 50 (when someone asks my age, I say "50" so that when it gets here I have already been doing it for several years and it won't surprise me!).

    LOL...l thought l was the only one who did this!:roll
  10. by   NCTraumaNurse
    Just makes my joints ache, thinking about how OLD I am....
  11. by   Love-A-Nurse
    Originally posted by Michigan Nurse
    Just makes my joints ache, thinking about how OLD I am....
    :chuckle
  12. by   Robin61970
    Nurseleigh and Rhona......I think that unless we were flies upon the wall for this entire confrontation from beginning to end we will not know what really happened....and before I get jumped for my comment....there are always 3 sides to a story.....it is just that people view things so differently. If you take 3 people and have them view the same confrontation and then ask them questions about it you may get three different things as to what happened or three different opinions as to what or who was wrong or right. We don't know what was discussed to make this question come up or what made this woman think she could ask this question.....we don't know so many variables of this story that I feel all of us(myself included) have made unfair judgements about this woman and Melisita......so I guess what I am saying is we weren't there and many things could have happened that we weren't aware of or not.....there are too many things to just make snap decisions so I say now......just try to get along because nursing school is long and hard....you may need the help sometime......good luck to you..........
  13. by   rebelwaclause
    ON 2nd thought...Maybe the woman was being "Mother Superior Older and Wiser". If there wasn't a hint of just trying to fit in but just not knowing how...Take her to the edge of the city and stone her.

    ....Just kidding....

    The different views posted are real interesting. I would've never thought she could've been probing in an attempt to find out more info on her own teenagers. Nevertheless, if she was offensive, it's best to tactfully let her know, at least for her to explain or fix it. If she doesn't "come clean", leave her alone. It's not worth adding more stress on top of the stress endured while going through school.

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