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there's a nursing student in my lab group who is wishy washy. he talks to everyone in class but me. or if the teacher hands him some sheets to pass around to other students, he'll hand it to everyone except for me. don't understand why he's bullying me. never had a disagreement or said anything controversial or radical. its giving me a bit of anxiety

Specializes in Neuro/EMU, Pediatrics, Med Surg.

He is acting like a grade school kid who is mean to a girl he has a crush on....If he behaves that way in nursing school, how is he going to act out on the unit? How annoying. Tell him to grow up and exhaust his energy on studying.

With that said, you should try to not let it get to you. If anything, take it as a learning experience because when you start working as a nurse there WILL be people you don't "mesh" well with. ALWAYS. Nursing requires a thick skin for not only dealing with co-workers, but patients and their families as well.

Don't this this guy distract you from nursing school. Good luck!!!! :-)

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

Eh...so he's a goof...as long as he's not your instructor, let him smirk and act like a middle schooler. It's annoying, :yes: however, I agree with using what the other posters stated if it starts to escalate.

By the time you get halfway through the semester, there will be so much going on, you may not even notice him anymore.

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If he is acting immature in nursing school who knows who else or were else he will take that behavior. very high school and very passive aggressive person. I would mention that "I don't appreciate the attitude you are putting out towards me. you have made your point it is very clear. If there is something that bothers you please let me know if i could stop of apologize for. but while we are working together you need to be professional. and not act passive aggressive or make me guess if there is a problem" he does sound like a bully.

if he tries to get defensive and say he does not have a problem mention that you will report this behavior. It is a duty of nurses to report wrong behavior. at least it says so in my school handbook.

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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

This is what people count as bullying now? Bunch of wimps.

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At this point in life you need to be able to deal with situations like these on your own. Leave the teacher out of it.

I agree with all of the others in saying something as he does it. Acknowledge that he's missed you and that it's NOT okay with you. Nursing school is a great time to grow a stronger backbone that will only help you in your career.

There was a few select members of the class that I just couldn't stand, but hey after graduation you never have to see them again!

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It can be very distracting to have someone acting in this way toward you. I have a feeling that his behavior takes away from the 100% that you shoukd be able to put into learning while you are in class.

I suggest the same as some other posters - loud enough for everyone, especially your professor to hear, state that he did not give you a paper. After a few times it will be obvious that he is doing it intentionally. If your prof is there during skills while he snickers, I honestly think the prof is not managing their students very well. We are supposed to behave professionally with each other, not as little mean girls/boys. When that happens I would clearly ask him what his problem is, in front of everyone, this should sort of force your prof to address this ridiculously childish behavior.

I have to assume you are both young. Everyone can't like us- we can't like everyone. We can be respectful of everyone and act like adults.

I'm sorry someone is behaving like this towards you, it stinks.

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... Really?...

I think my first question would be. How old are YOU? I only ask that because honestly - who cares how someone acts to you in a class. Your grades don't depend on that person. Why not kill it with kindness?

Or maybe I'm just past that. If someone's mean or rude to me, OH WELL. Be nice, smile, and move on cause I ain't got time to waste making sure everyone likes who I am.

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Ignore him. Screw him. Make other friends. It burns me up when people are rude for no reason. Grow the hell up. Your are in nursing school to be a compassionate caring person, yet you are acting like a 5 year old. Don't even let it bother you (although its easier said then done) and make different friends.

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Specializes in Psych ICU, addictions.
Maybe he likes you? ;)

That was my thought. You always pull the pigtails of the one you love.

I agree with the previous suggestion, the "Hey, you missed me!"

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Specializes in Med/surg, Quality & Risk.

I'm sorry but for you to call this bullying tells me you don't have much life experience. He's ignoring you. Whooptie doo. How does it affect you? You have to get a paper from someone else. Are you going home crying and writing in your journal every day because someone passes over you when passing out papers? Feel like killing yourself over it? It's not bullying.

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A few more years and you'll realize that people like this are everywhere. How do YOU feel about YOU? Don't worry so much about someone who's so wrapped up in other peoples business that he behaves that way. And don't stoop to his level by allowing it to stress you out. Easier said than done, I know. His actions will speak for themselves and karma will get him eventually. Whether you call him out on it or stay on the quiet path, just stay true to yourself.

Other posters have already mentioned that his behavior is rude and immature, but not bullying. I just wanted to drive the point home. Because the distinction is important.

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Specializes in Public Health.

There's this girl in my classes that is notorious for being outwardly rude, condescending and just generally a terrible person. She tried it with me on the first day, I wanted to slap her so badly. But, there was no way for me to respond to her without it reflecting poorly on myself, especially in clinicals.

My advice is to mention that he forgot you. Second, during skills practice you need to speak on his snickering right when it happens

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