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I have a problem and I need some advice... I am a non traditional adult college student (I'm 39 years old). After raising my daughter, I felt it was time to go back to college and complete my nursing degree. Currently, I'm in the 4th semester of a ADN Nursing Program at a local community college. I'm supposed to graduate this coming May 2018 (only 3 or so months away).

The Spring 2018 Semester just began a couple weeks ago. Our instructors made it clear they didn't want to see anyone on their cell phones. If a student is caught on their cellphone in the middle of class, the student would be asked to leave. Today, I had our Pediatrics class, which is taught by my favorite instructor. Being the oldest student in the nursing class, I got a seat in the front row almost in front of the instructors desk. Before class was started, I turned my iPhone on silent and placed it in a pocket located on the bottom front of my shirt.

About 40 minutes or so into the class, I hear my phone alarming. I thought to myself, "Oh No! That's MY phone alarming! I know it was on silent, how can it still be alarming!?" I didn't know that, even if an iPhone is on silent, it will still alarm. So I grabbed my phone really quickly and pressed all the side buttons, praying one would shut off the alarm. As I pressing every single button on the sides of my phone, I glanced up and noticed my instructor giving me a look that, if looks could kill, I'd definitely not be breathing right now. My instructor put her hand out and I placed my phone in her hand. She uses my phone to point at me and say, "Next time I will ask you to leave!" I apologized and told her it wouldn't happen again. She walks over and places my phone on her desk. After a few minutes, it dawns on me that the alarm probably has "snooze" on so it was going to be alarming again soon.....and I was right! My phone did start to alarm again. I immediately attempted to explain to my instructor that, when my phone went off initially, it was an alarm and now it's alarming again due to snooze being on. I apologized to her again and told her she was more than welcomed to turn the entire phone off. Before I could finish my sentence, my instructor picked my phone up from her desk, grabbing it by a corner and threw my phone at me! Had I not caught it, it would've hit me pretty hard in my lower face and neck area. I was extremely surprised that the instructor had thrown something at me in anger. The entire class went very quiet. The instructor told us to take a short break.

I understand completely that I should've ensured that my phone was completely off. I wasn't texting or even looking at my phone. Had I been blantantly disrespecting my instructor, I could've somewhat justified what happened.

Now, I feel I will be targeted by this instructor. I have clinicals for 12 hours every Monday with the same instructor. I don't feel comfortable having clinicals with this particular instructor. She has failed students on the spot during her clinicals and I feel I will more than likely be one of the students she will fail this semester.

Does anyone have any suggestions??

I agree with the majority here, that the situation should not be escalated and the OP should leave her phone in the car if that is what it takes, and focus on graduating.

Also meet with the instructor and apologize. Explain what happened. The odds are very high that she will also apologize.

Welcome to nursing. There will be other times when you will have to eat poop in order to remain in the game.

Just wondering, was it an overhand or underhand pass? :banhappy:

I'd just keep on keeping on and graduate. You already have witnesses if needed.

If it wasn't for your lightning quick reflexes it may have been more injurious. :jester:

You could've owned that college! :specs:

Instead you'll go high for peace of mind when she went low. Maybe she does have some issues. Take her a little note or something to show some love. :inlove:

Think how bad it could have been...

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or back in the day...

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Next time you better just use your banana handset in class.

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I don't think this is something to "talk with the professor about"; it should be escalated. She could've seriously injured you or another classmate by throwing your phone. Her behavior is absolutely disgusting

I so agree. The instructor's reaction was not acceptable and would have infuriated me if it had happened to me. To throw your phone at you was absolutely uncalled for. No way would I want to speak with her privately with hopes of an apology or to smooth things over.

hmmm..Sometimes I feel like people on this forum do not realize that every student isn't 18 or 19 years old.(Not that there's anything wrong with that either) Many have have significant experience in healthcare, the military, and just life in general, so they know what it's like without a phone. The OP did the right thing and turned off her phone...unfortunately, the alarm was still on. Stuff happens! I do agree with leaving your phone in the car when possible. I also understand why you would want to just get through these 3 months and move on..I might be tempted to do that too. I am surprised at how many people are excusing this, and saying she got off easy. It is never to throw something at other person. Ever. And, no..it's not acceptable discipline either. They talk about lateral violence in the workplace...you shouldn't have to put up with that at work or school. IDK..I'm torn and I feel for the OP. As a classmate, I don't think I could ever stand by and not say something if that happened. If I was the victim, I would be tempted to get through the next 3 months and get out! I worry people would tolerate this behavior in a workplace. It's not okay, and it's not normal and just accepting it is why there is an uptick in healthcare violence. Whatever you choose, I'm sorry this happened to you.

I just want to thank you for taking up for me and for being a voice of reason. I'm deleting my account because I have "RN" at the end of my username and was told I had violated the websites terms and conditions.

This seems to happen a lot. Around here, they take "RN" very, very seriously. As they should. Good luck

I mean, delete your account if you want to, but you should be able to change your username to delete the RN. It's under Edit Login/Password.

Just for the record..You can be an RN or LPN, and a student! I like this forum, but people can be a little too quick to judge and assume.

Specializes in 15 years in ICU, 22 years in PACU.
Just for the record..You can be an RN or LPN, and a student! I like this forum, but people can be a little too quick to judge and assume.

Nope. Not a student or a graduate nurse either. Not for the official record anyway.

You're not a nurse until a licensing board says you're a Nurse. (i.e. pass boards)

Ok. You can be an LPN..and be a student going for your RN. You can be a RN and be a student going for your BSN. That's my point. You can be a nurse and student.

Ok. You can be an LPN..and be a student going for your RN. You can be a RN and be a student going for your BSN. That's my point. You can be a nurse and student.

Except in this case the OP is not an RN.

...After raising my daughter, I felt it was time to go back to college and complete my nursing degree. Currently, I'm in the 4th semester of a ADN Nursing Program at a local community college...

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Specializes in retired LTC.

Just thinking - would any of us really be content to just 'hang low' and 'wait it out' if this type of inappropriate behavior occurred between a nurse manager and a staff nurse? Or nurse to nurse? Or if OP was YOUR mother? Or a dtr?

If the details of this post are true, then there is a bigger issue here. There's an anger and aggression problem with that instructor, a person in a position of authority taking advantage of someone in a lesser position. Not to be done in the business world, law enforcement, the military, etc.

Not being the moralist here as it is not my business, but what does that instructor do at other times? And what kind of example is being set about taking the moral upper road less taken? Are there circumstances when it's OK to let someone be a "bully" and establish a 'hostile environment'??

Generally, I am such a wimpy wimp. But I'd be danged if I sit quiet and let someone throw a phone at me in anger.

I think the school would have more to lose than OP in this situation.

JMO

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