My husband won't let me do bed baths - page 6

I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He... Read More

  1. by   Sheri257
    I'm sorry but, I find this part of the headline hilarious ...

    "My husband won't let me ... "

    As if my husband could ever tell me what to do or what not to do ...

    He wouldn't dare, even in his dreams ...

    Last edit by Sheri257 on Sep 22, '06
  2. by   MuddaMia
    Quote from lizz
    I'm sorry but, I find this part of headline hilarious ...

    "My husband won't let me ... "

    As if my husband could ever tell me what to do or what not to do ...

    He wouldn't dare, even in his dreams ...

    :yeahthat:
  3. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from HeartsOpenWide
    I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He looked at me weird and I told him we would be in shorts and a tank top. He said "Your not letting some guy practice on you!" I told him that it was a medical professional think and that it was not like the male student would be turned on or something. He said that the guy could and that no guy was giving me a sponge bath. I asked, "what if I was in an accident and in the hospital and they had to give me a bath?" and he said "I would give you a bath" Has any one hand any problems with this? I better not tell him that eventually we will be learning to do cathaters...on males...


    He won't complain after you get your first paycheck


    Seriously - "let" is such an awful word. It doesn't belong in any kind of a relationship, unless you are in danger of harming yourself or someone else. Giving a bath doesn't qualify for that.
  4. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from RebeccaJeanRN
    Kind of off-topic, but I still wonder why the nursing school does it like this. Ours did it too, and we were just embarrassed to be in shorts and washing each other's cellulite. But seriously, I wondered why we couldn't have just done mannekins? If it was to have real person practice, then without doing the really embarrassing parts (which we didn't- thankfully!!), what new thing did anyone learn? Who on earth hasn't washed someone's back or helped a grandma put cream on her legs, or some such other related experience? What the heck did we learn from each other in shorts that we couldn't have learned on a mannekin? Seemed a silly exercise to me and about as fun and arousing as receiving an enema...but back to husband issue...best that you help him get a better idea of what nursing is all about-SOON. You won't want to be having these kinds of battles over every new skill or real life experience in nursing clinicals!

    The bath experience is two-fold, I think. One, it trains the nurse to care for a patient. Two, it trains a nurse to put her/himself in the PLACE of a patient; to know how it FEELS to be helpless and cared for that way.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Since you have already told your husband about this assignment, and he has told you what he feels about it, maybe you could switch with another to get assigned a female partner
    I don't agree with this at all. You won't be able to switch around pts. and nurses in the real world.
  6. by   rhenmag9
    your husband must learn how you will be working as a nurse....and must accept the fact of the nature of work....sponge bath,catheters...etc..
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Kinda wonder if the man knows what an enema is?
  8. by   KyPinkRN
    Quote from Corvette Guy
    Okay, here is maybe the problem... from a guy's perspective. He is being inappropriately jealous & insecure. He is probably thinking about your male classmates rather than whenever you will be taking care of male patients in the future.

    Now, from another nurses perspective... tell him not to be insecure about a classroom assignment, period! No need to lie, bend the truth, or whatever. The sooner he gets the facts straight in his brain housing group, then the sooner his inappropriate insecurity & jealousy will pass, too. *Hopefully*

    JMHO
    I agree... to lie to your husband or even not tell him the whole truth about what is going on in your class will only perpetuate the jealousy and insecurities he has AND he may eventually find out anyway which will lead to trust issues; in turn undoing your marriage. Think about it if your husband is this jealous and insecure over an assignment how understanding will he be if he finds out you lied to him about it. Talk to him about exactly what you have to do, tell him that giving baths is an important part of being a nurse and that to be sucessful in school you must do this. If he still doesn't believe there is nothing sexual about it, then you have bigger problems than seeing other men naked!
  9. by   JaxiaKiley
    Anyone who thinks they can keep me from doing something is crazy! I'd tell him exactly what he could do with his ideas!

    (But maybe that's why I'm not married )
  10. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from JaxiaKiley
    Anyone who thinks they can keep me from doing something is crazy! I'd tell him exactly what he could do with his ideas!

    (But maybe that's why I'm not married )
    I feel the same way, but I've been married for 17 years. It is funny because everyone once in a while, it seems like he ''forgets'' who he's married to and says things that make me scoff.
  11. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Made me think of the other day when i was talking to Matt about my hospital's enforcement of a stupid (non-safe) rule, and he said "well did you tell them what you though of it?" I looked at him with one eyebrow raised and he said "lol yeah, sorry, forgot who i was talking to lol".
  12. by   HeartsOpenWide
    Just thought you would like to know that last week when we did the bed baths the teacher asked for a volunteer to let her demonstrate on. She stood there for almost a full min with no one jumping up. So I said, "I'll do it." So instead of not letting a guy give me a bath, I took a bath in front of the whole class! It was fun, I even got a back rub out of it. It was totally fine, no one saw anything. I even got to show how to get on and off a bed pan (but I did not give a full demonstration with a full BM and void...:roll ...just plain demonstration)
    Last edit by HeartsOpenWide on Sep 27, '06
  13. by   blueberry21
    Just curious........Have you mentioned to your DH the nurse's role when it comes to fecal impaction?

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