Having a boyfriend while in nursing school.... - page 4

Hi folks, I'm in my last semester of core classes (Micro). I expect to enter nursing school in the Fall of 2007. I'm not dating anyone seriously right now but I would really like to have a... Read More

  1. by   pipersjo
    My bf of 2.5 years and I broke up partially because of nursing school. Not that nursing school said that I had to break up with him (LOL!), but the time constraints were not so easy on us. He worked 2 jobs, and I worked and had school--it was just too much. We were together for close to a year before I started school so it wasn't that new of a relationship.
  2. by   netty78
    First of all, I believe that you shouldn't exactly "plan" whether or not you're going to have a significant other. If you meet someone who is truly understanding and wants to be by your side just as you want to, then it is no major obstacle by any means. I am married to a wonderful man who supports my nursing career 100%. He actually helps me so much, I think it would be harder to do it on my own. I am in my last semester of my BSN and he has been with me since I was doing my nursing pre-reqs. The only difficult part about being married while in school is that I want to spend more "off-time" with him, but I'm studying most of the time. My advice to you is to focus on your nursing and keep that as a priority. However, if the love of your life comes your way, do not shut the door!! I believe that if you are in a relationship and it seems that the other person is not supportive, then you are with the WRONG person!!
  3. by   chuckg82
    well, you can say that there isn't enough time , but i know for myself(the boyfriend of 8 months today of a nursing student ) that it is possible it just takes the right guy. lol my girlfriend has a son and is a nursing student so its a possibility to make it work. Patience and love are the two main things the guy has to have in order for it to work. I only get to see her on a test week 2 days but knowing that she loves me alot and we both have a deep caring and commitment to eachother makes it work and the time spent with her , her and her son and the combonation of the 2 amazing. so yeah like i said paitence on the guys part it will work and will last and might even be better because of it . As for me i guess the patience thing comes from being a navy guy lol so yea date a guy in or formerly in the military
  4. by   mercyteapot
    I had a boyfriend my first year. It didn't last, but that's because of non-school related issues. He was pretty supportive and I think that if everything else had been okay, we would have made it work.

    Several of my friends had relationships and went on to marry those guys. It probably helped that their SOs were also in school at the same time.
  5. by   fubeca003
    I met my wife during my first semester of nursing school and we got married over the summer between second and third semester. It has not been easy. She works full time and goes to school, I work about 30hrs/week and will graduate this semester.
    I think that if you find the right person that is willing to support you, go for it!!
  6. by   beachbum3
    date a guy in or formerly in the military [/quote]


    My bf of 4 years is the most impatient person I know... and he was in the Marine Corps.


    I think its more about understanding than patience. He has to realize that when you need to study, you need to study, and its not always about him. And if he doesn't understand that he's probably not someone who would be a good partner anyway.

    As to whether or not you can make it work, I don't see why you couldn't. We live together, and have for 3.5 yrs, so that makes it easier to see each other (obviously) but I still think it could be done even if you didn't live together and it was new.
  7. by   Hazel11
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we were high school sweethearts. :heartbeat He knew from the start that I'd be away at college working on my nursing degree, and he has stuck behind me. It has been hard for me to be 1.5 hours away from home, but he knows that I am a dedicated worker and that I will focus on my studies. Communication over the phone and/or Internet has been helpful. I know that even if it doesn't work out, that I will always concentrate on my education.
  8. by   leashmarie
    I totally agree with IIG... I can't believe that people even consider comparing a relationship to an "extracirricular activity"... Yeah, i understand how difficult it is... I just tell myself that I got lucky to have someone that understands what it's like to be dedicated to my schoolwork, as well as any other goal I set.

    IIg is right, you shouldn't consider a relationship like a pet--- You can't help who you fall in love with... God's plan will unwind whether we plan on it or not... Plus, right again, if the person that you wind up with truly cares for you, they should understand that it can be DEATHLY stressful to go through with something as difficult as nursing school is on a relationship--- you just have to remind yourself that going through a Nursing program is and will not be the most difficult thing in your life... more difficult trials will come, but lemme tell ya, this will help prepare you for them for sure
  9. by   Alternator81
    Ok, if she said I go to nursing school and take care of 3 orphan children, or I go to nursing school and am an indentured servant on the side, I would say "ok, you really don't have time to have a boyfriend." But give me a break! The nursing student "I'm so busy" thing is almost becoming cliche! I am sure that she can find a few moments in her in the 168 hours in the week to spend time with someone else! She is not looking to adopt a child!
  10. by   Aislstarfish
    I actually have a boyfriend right now and I'm in nursing school. It is definitely workable.. You just have to find the right man who would understand that you have minimal free time. I am lucky because my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and now live together.. So even though I work full time and go to school at night, we are able to have at least a few hours together, even if it means laying in bed at night. I am also very lucky because we both understood what it meant when I started the program.. we just have to be patient and be together as much as we can when i'm not studying. It also means that he has to pick up the slack where i cant.. dinner, laundry, etc.

    But as for starting a NEW relationship.. it might be really difficult, especially since in the beginning of a relationship you want to spend ALLL of your time together. I agree with other posters in that, if you find a guy you cant live without and he is patient and understanding, then go for it Otherwise, just wait a little longer, at least until you get into the swing of things.. Don't worry you'll be done soon!
  11. by   Audrey28
    Quote from chuckg82
    well, you can say that there isn't enough time , but i know for myself(the boyfriend of 8 months today of a nursing student ) that it is possible it just takes the right guy. lol my girlfriend has a son and is a nursing student so its a possibility to make it work. Patience and love are the two main things the guy has to have in order for it to work. I only get to see her on a test week 2 days but knowing that she loves me alot and we both have a deep caring and commitment to eachother makes it work and the time spent with her , her and her son and the combonation of the 2 amazing. so yeah like i said paitence on the guys part it will work and will last and might even be better because of it . As for me i guess the patience thing comes from being a navy guy lol so yea date a guy in or formerly in the military
    TELL ME ABOUT IT! My bf is in the ARMY... and I have learned to have patience- the whole military motto is HURRY UP AND WAIT! We have been [back] together for a year and 1/2... He's been in the Army for 12 years now and I first dated him back in HS... We've come a long way and still have a ways to go- and I don't do this b/c I have to I do it b/c i want to and I love him and there is no one else for me... He was just promoted to Staff SGT and is currently stationed in Ft. Bliss, TX... I'm in VA. I've seen him once since being back together- but I gotta tell you that time with him- was more real to me- and I have never felt the way I felt with him and no one could come close to how he makes me feel and the way I love him. I know he would do the same for me- which is a good thing since I am going into Nursing! If you are meant to be and really love each other- then time, nor distance can stand in the way! But like some of the others said- don't plan on having a SO- when/ if you meet someone then think about all this- and if you want to be with someone else then you will find the time. JMO
    Last edit by Audrey28 on Feb 12, '08
  12. by   ally21
    It's possible to have a relationship while you're in nursing school. Your partner just has to realize that your priority right now is doing well in school. You just have to meet the right person who understands that school is hard work and requires a lot of time to study if you weren't born with the ability to automatically retain information!

    I've been in a relationship for around 2 1/2 years along with going to school. Sometimes he'll get frustrated with me because I'll cancels plans since I have to study, but lately he has been more understanding. His hobby is rebuilding his truck, so when it's nice outside and he's working on his truck we'll spend time together... he'll be working on it and I'll be sitting on my nice fold out chair studying.
  13. by   Goldie_Ferragamo
    It is possible to have a relationship while in nursing school, I know my last module in school I had no time for my boyfriend at all but I kind of figured that some modules would be like that. So for 7weeks I did not see my boyfriend at all and we barely talked during that particular module.

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