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Hi, if you are a mother with young children, please share how you are balancing nursing school and family. Thanks.... Read More

  1. by   kcozonac
    I'm the mom of 3, ages 4, 6, and 8. I'm in my last semester of prerequisites, and I've been accepted to an accelerated BSN program starting in January. First, let me say that this board has been really helpful to me. When I start my accelerated program in January my husband will be leaving for 3 months of military service. This is his first assignment, and it's a heck of a time to start! I'm pretty worried about how I'll make everything work while he's gone.

    I've been working full time while doing prereq's full time as well. I study while my kids are in school, and they have an early bedtime, so I stay up late studying too. My job is flexible, so that helps, and I'll probably stop working in January.

    One of the ways I've made it work so far is letting the little things go, to some extent. My floors aren't as clean as they used to be, I buy more convenience food (not fast food, but pre-marinated meat, packaged spaghetti sauces, and things like that) than I used to. My kids buy lunch at school every day, since that saves me 15-20 minutes a day of packing lunches. I lean on my friends, and for my kids that often means they can go to their friends' houses to play, but not have friends over very often. That helps too - when at least 1 of my children is out of the house it's a lot easier to get things done. Also, my kids take on more responsibility around the house, and I really think that's good for them. They help me with laundry, we have a lightweight vacuum, and every week one of my kids (even the 4 year old) vacuums, they take turns walking the dog, the oldest helps her brothers with their reading, and I drill them on math facts every time we get in the car. ChoreMonster.com is a big part of keeping them motivated, and I've never told them that they have to help out so I can study - it's all about working together as a family to take care of everybody - because that's what a family does. I don't want them to see my education as a burden on them.

    Last thing. I have ipods and tablets loaded with education (and non-educational) games for them. I take everyone to their after school activities, and while one is doing karate or violin or whatever, the others are playing on electronic devices and I'm studying. I don't think I could do this without redeeming those hours every week through electronic devices.

    I remind myself that this is a short-term solution to a short-term problem. Within 2 years I'll be done with school, my kids will get to see their mom graduate! And when it's time to find a job I'll be able to find a long-term solution and hopefully build my career more closely around their schedules.
  2. by   Mom2ballerinas
    Hello! I am a mommy to three little girls ages 6, 4, and 9 months old. I am in my second semester in an Adn program. When I first started the actual nursing program, my youngest was only 4 weeks old to the day. It is tough, Im not going to lie, but it can be done. Along with first grade and preschool, my girls do dance twice a week, girl scouts, ccd class, and soccer. It is a crazy schedule but it somehow works. My boyfriend is a great support, cleans the house, takes thegirls to their activities, and food shops. I do struggle with having mommy guilt and not being around all the time. There are a lot of parents in my classes as well with children of all ages too. I wish you the best of luck!
  3. by   melizerd
    I'm a mom, our son is 5.5 and in full day kindergarten. My husband works 40 hours a week (8-4). Thankfully we're in a position that I am not working while in school full time.

    We set up a schedule so that my husband does dinner minimum 1 night a week without ANY input from me He also picked up extra laundry duty around the house. And he just doesn't mind if things that are my responsibility don't always get done.

    Each night no matter what, we eat dinner as a family and do the little homework that our son has. After that we do bedtime and bath and our son is in bed at 7:15. After that I'm pretty much MIA for school reading/work but before that it's about FAMILY first.

    We're super lucky that the rest of my family lives super close and all chip in to help with our son, pick up/drop off from school on days that I can't do it. Without a LOT of family help I don't know how people do this.

    I'm done in December 2013 so I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. We just do things in 16 week blocks during the fall and spring and don't worry about the rest. It falls into place.
  4. by   Stephalump
    I'm a mommy of three kids (9, 4, and 1) and in nursing school full time. My husband works 50-60 hours a week, so we have a sitter come to our house M-F during the week. I'm not technically that old, but I've decided I'm too old and tired to stay up after the kids go to bed and study all night

    I study a couple hours a day after lecture and take clinical days "off" from studying and then dedicate most of the weekends to assignments and schoolwork. I'm very, very tired and I may not have any hair by the time I graduate, but I have all As so far and they'll have to pull my 4.0 out of my cold, dead hands to get me to give it up.

    I'm usually home by 4pm, so my oldest is only home for a few minutes before me. My middle child is in half day PreK so she only spends a free hours with the sitter and she really enjoys it. My youngest is one so I'm not really sure how he's feeling about my absence but he seems to be ok. I miss them a lot and my house is a complete wreck, but it goes by SO fast, it'll be over before we know it
  5. by   winterlights08
    I'm a second-semester BSN student: a back-to-school mom with four kids (16, 12,10, and 4 1/2). The only thing that is saving me is that my three older daughters are with their father for half of the week. I don't know if I could do this with all of them home and all the driving/homework stuff! I don't work, so that also really helps. My husband is able to work from home 2-3 days a week, and my youngest daughter's preschool offers an aftercare program, so we use that 1-2 times a week if I have a late day. I went to school over the summer and my MIL was a big help then.

    I have six classes this semester (and two clinicals) so I'm going a little but I'm managing somehow. I try and get out of the house to the library or B&N before an exam to review, and fortunately my youngest daughter puts me in line.."do your homework, you need to study!" It's definitely not easy though, and my housework has definitely slipped off..and I have fantasies about cooking a savory pot roast and actually sitting down to enjoy it..but I know it's (apparently) worth it in the end. Oh, and I am so, so, very tired. But I try and get 7-8 hours of sleep because I don't function well on less than that, but the fatigue is really getting to me. I just keep reminding myself why I am doing this and that it really isn't forever!
  6. by   Skips
    I don't work.
  7. by   HH_RN13
    Hi,

    I thought I'd reply since I have almost made it thru my ADN program. When I started my daughter was 3 months old. I was the only person in my house who got up to feed her change her burp her and put her back to sleep for the first 5-6 months of her life every 3 hours 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I had been lucky to have school from early morning to about 4-5 Monday thru Thursday. So my parents in law watch her while I'm away. However the second I step into my house I'm back to being a mom to a very very active kid lol. She won't let me read or write or do anything. She'll sit on top of my books or yell. So I do what I can to study during her naps or after she goes to bed. This semester has been a bit easier because she's 2 and she loves Elmo lol so I let her watch while I'm reading (although its never more than a couple hours a day). So yea, if u have the resources get a nanny/daycare at least when u really need to study before tests. If ur lucky with a big family who's willing to help then even better :-) I wish u luck!
  8. by   Lolita34
    Thank you all for sharing your experiences. I am looking forward to starting nursing school...hopefully Fall 2013
    Last edit by Lolita34 on Oct 17, '12 : Reason: Spelling error
  9. by   anezt2
    Thank you for your advice! Reading your post is so motivating. Congrats to you being accepted into the BSN program! Best of luck to you.
  10. by   Mslecia20
    I'm trying to finish school it is extremely hard being a newly divorced single mother of four ages 12 8 5 and 2. I don't know how I can work full time and finish school. Any advice please? I still have bills to pay
  11. by   Lolita34
    I just wanted to give an update. I was accepted to the BSN program for Spring 2013 but I deferred my start date to Fall 2013. I paid my seat deposit and I am officially going to start in August as a nursing student
  12. by   Lolita34
    Quote from Mslecia20
    I'm trying to finish school it is extremely hard being a newly divorced single mother of four ages 12 8 5 and 2. I don't know how I can work full time and finish school. Any advice please? I still have bills to pay
    Are you able to take out loans?
  13. by   Mslecia20
    Quote from Lolita34
    Are you able to take out loans?
    Yes I am the military pays my tuition

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