Am I an ogre? Or is it just me? - page 4

Alright, after several months of posting here in relative peace, I am now about to have people angry with me. I can feel it coming on.... Is it just me, or are all of these "help me!!" threads... Read More

  1. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by sunnygirl272
    right on, sistah!!! can i hear a "woot"?
    WOOT! WOOT!
  2. by   litepath
    ~~~you're not being an Ogre...just recognizing what I am putting up with in nursing school!!


    HAHAHA!!!

    Thanks for all of the wonderful help you give tho, helps souls like me better understand what it is that we're not hearing in school!!

    ... ~~~ ...
  3. by   fab4fan
    I really hate those posts that ask for diagnoses. Another one that really cheesed me off was someone who posted on another nursing site," I need a nurse to help care for my handicapped son when we vacation at the beach...yada, yada, yada." This person was not even a nurse, just trolling around looking for a private duty nurse. I had to sit on my hands to keep from just going nuts.

    I don't mind helping someone think through a problem, e.g. giving hints/suggestions, but just recently someone posed a question, and when I suggested thinking through a couple of things, got a really whiney "poor me, my life is so hard, I'm a new nursing student..." Well, BOO HOO...there was no freakin' internet when I was a student. You hauled your butt to the medical library and LOOKED IT UP!

    Sometimes students need to take a little responsibility...getting info takes work, it's not an entitlement. Thinking things through, doing research...that's how you develop critical thinking skills.
  4. by   MelRN13
    Can I say something from the "student" side of the fence? Since I've been coming to this site, I've asked one question about a clinical project, which I posted in the appropriate area (OB-GYN). I can not speak for others, but being a cardiac nurse, I was just trying to get some ideas of what OB nurses would find as an interesting topic for this project. Some of the return postings I got were things like "try google.com" and "there are wonderful search engines to use".........I was not trying to find someone to DO my work for me, just some good ideas that would make my report something that would be interesting to learn about, and interesting for my classmates to learn about. I can say that for myself, I do not want or expect ANYONE do to my work for me. I thought that such a diverse group of nurses could bounce back some ideas for me........I'm not sure about how other students are posting these threads, but I'm sorry if I offended anyone by asking for some "ideas".
  5. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by TeleNurse_02
    Can I say something from the "student" side of the fence? Since I've been coming to this site, I've asked one question about a clinical project, which I posted in the appropriate area (OB-GYN). I can not speak for others, but being a cardiac nurse, I was just trying to get some ideas of what OB nurses would find as an interesting topic for this project. Some of the return postings I got were things like "try google.com" and "there are wonderful search engines to use".........I was not trying to find someone to DO my work for me, just some good ideas that would make my report something that would be interesting to learn about, and interesting for my classmates to learn about. I can say that for myself, I do not want or expect ANYONE do to my work for me. I thought that such a diverse group of nurses could bounce back some ideas for me........I'm not sure about how other students are posting these threads, but I'm sorry if I offended anyone by asking for some "ideas".
    Excellent post TeleNurse! Point taken!

    But please see our side of it too. There are almost 25,000 members here now. What percentage of those are students? If each of them asks just once for an idea, suggestion, etc..... just understand how that begins to feel for us.

    Heather
  6. by   Glad2behere
    Stargazer,

    Did you prefer natural or minted?:chuckle
  7. by   hoolahan
    Telenurse_02...agree w Heather PLUS yu have posted and participated here in other areas of the bb, sometimes these posts are people who only post once and never even come back to say thanks for the ideas, like someomn else mentioned.

    (Besides, as a cardiac nurse myself, and a nurse who stays away from OB/GYN lie the plague, I KNOW you weren't talking about me dissing ya )
  8. by   MelRN13
    Heather-

    I understand where you are coming from too...just wanted to stand up for the students/continuing ed nurses.......I know how frustrating it can get Being a LPN, continuing on for ADN, work, school, kids........with all of these things going on, I think sometimes we underestimate the power of our words, and people can take how we say things the wrong way(asking for help in the "wrong" sense of the word)..............I love everyone on this website, and am glad that we can talk about these things without having a "catfight". But people who ask questions every five minutes about things that they could have just as easily looked up themselves is quite annoying. Maybe we should just ignore those types of posts.
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Originally posted by TeleNurse_02
    Heather-

    I understand where you are coming from too...just wanted to stand up for the students/continuing ed nurses.......I know how frustrating it can get Being a LPN, continuing on for ADN, work, school, kids........with all of these things going on, I think sometimes we underestimate the power of our words, and people can take how we say things the wrong way(asking for help in the "wrong" sense of the word)..............I love everyone on this website, and am glad that we can talk about these things without having a "catfight". But people who ask questions every five minutes about things that they could have just as easily looked up themselves is quite annoying. Maybe we should just ignore those types of posts.
    Understand. But like I said, students having access to internet resources have a lot more than to go on then I ever did in school, and yet I made it w/o having to get others to tell me where to go. And yes, I suffered the frustrations of all-nighters writing care plans, doing reports, yada yada while raising a family with a miltary husband who was not home half the time to help me w/the kid. However, That is what nursing is; critical thinking (hate or love the term, it's true) and figuring things out and working against unbelievable adversity just trying to get your job done. When I point someone in the right direction, I don't expect back yet ANOTHER question about what/where/how ....it's up to them.

    I am not lumping all students together...just as you would not lump all responding nurses together. It just has gotten really out of hand lately, and tiresome. Guess it's the old case of the old nurse kinda like the older person who says: "well back in the day when I walked to school for 3 miles in 4 feet of snow...etc" .......we can forget how tough it can be, sometimes. Its tough on both sides, really.:kiss
  10. by   Tweety
    I don't mind the "I need a few ideas" posts, I think as seasoned nurses we forget how overwhelming some of those rediculous nursing projects were, and that those of us without internet access still asked around for help and advice and suggestions.

    But the "give me the answer" ones are not appropriate.
  11. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by canoehead
    Although if one more person starts a men in nursing, or BsN vrs RN thread I swear I'm gonna delete it just because it pisses me off.....(piss)...is that a swear word? uh-oh.
    Or how about. A "should I get my LPN or my RN first" thread. Or how about just not allowing any new people here ask any questions at all, so as not to piss you off, if you're that delicate. hehehe....
  12. by   RN2B2005
    I'm a student, and even I know to check my pharmacology references and to Google whatever I'm looking for before staggering over and posting a drug question here.

    The posts that bother ME the most are the people who post the questions that are clearly fishing for grounds for litigation. People who are, for instance, "sick and pregnant". No other posts bug me so much as those ones...
  13. by   Hellllllo Nurse
    When I was a student, I went to a school where competition was so intense, that all of the nursing students treated each other rather badly, and formed small, nasty cliques. So, while on Christmas break from school, I started a nursing student web site to meet some other students, share advice and commiserate. I did get a few message board posters who were interested in interacting with other students, but I mostly got people who wanted their homework done for them. I spent a lot of time posting recommendations and reviews of my favorite care-plan books, study resources, etc. But, some students could not be bothered to click on the links. I would get asked over and over "what's a good care-plan book?"
    It got to be really time consuming and annoying looking things up for people, and saying "see the site menu to the left? Read the link titles and click on one."
    I even had people asking me to post my care-plans, in printable versions!


    So, I closed the message boards on my site. The site still has plenty of resources, advice, hints etc for students. But they have to click on the links themselves.

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