Worn out with 2 jobs and school

Virgo_RN, BSN, RN · Nov 15, 2009

Give a written two weeks' notice and stand firm when they try to guilt you. Write the notice in the most positive manner possible, thanking them for the opportunity to learn, grow, and serve, and expressing regret at having to leave. Leave on good terms with the door open for some day down the road in case you do need that job or their reference. But stand firm if they try to entice you to stay.

Aymese · Nov 15, 2009

What did they do or say to make you feel guilty about leaving when they know your circumstances? An employer that truly cares about you should say, "Well we will certainly miss you but understand you have to do what is best for you. You will always have a job here should you choose to come back." Period. If they say anything otherwise, you know you won't (or shouldn't, at least ) be looking back. Good luck to you with all that you are accomplishing! :yeah:

KY RN · Nov 15, 2009

I tried to put in my 2 week notice when I got the hospital job. My DON wouldn't let me submit my letter of resignation. I've tried to tell her that I will work one or two days a month and she keeps scheduling me 3 days a week. She says she can't find good staff that come to work and then I feel guilty for leaving her and my residents short handed. I am very passive and not very aggressive. I have a hard time telling her no.

Virgo_RN, BSN, RN · Nov 15, 2009

Mail it to her by certified mail.

Rio, ASN, RN · Nov 15, 2009

Ok... *poof*... you now have the assertivenss to quit the LTC job. This magic spell is only good for 3 days so do not procastinate... Now come here have a hug.... good, now go away.

Aymese · Nov 15, 2009

Grrr...he/she is a BAD director. I think what the above poster said about submitting a formal resignation letter, also including your goals you are working towards (school) and the time commitment that it requires is a very good idea. This is America and she can't REFUSE your resignation letter on the basis that she has "no good staff" or on the basis of anything else unless you are involved in some sort of contract. Well, tough for her. Maybe in the future she could contribute to creating a better work environment that entices staff to stay. She doesn't care about you and that should be enough of a reason to think about yourself at this time. You have way too much going on to miss out on time with your family or to let your grades suffer. The residents and their families will understand.

Aymese · Nov 15, 2009

Ok... *poof*... you now have the assertivenss to quit the LTC job. This magic spell is only good for 3 days so do not procastinate... Now come here have a hug.... good, now go away.

You're so funny! You made me laugh outloud! :yeah:

mamamerlee, LPN · Nov 16, 2009

Develop a backbone. NOW. ***POOF*** You have a backbone! Now go tell them you will finish out your two weeks' notice. This spell is concurrent with the assertiveness spell!!!

Midwest4me · Nov 16, 2009

give a written two weeks' notice and stand firm when they try to guilt you. write the notice in the most positive manner possible, thanking them for the opportunity to learn, grow, and serve, and expressing regret at having to leave. leave on good terms with the door open for some day down the road in case you do need that job or their reference. but stand firm if they try to entice you to stay.

well said, virgo!

kaiasunshine · Nov 16, 2009

My advice is don't doubt saying goodbye to the one job. Don't say "well I really think it's best if I go...", don't even think it. Think "I have to leave. I have no choice, staying is not even close to an option for me right now. My future depends on me quitting this job and my future is worth more to me than making everything easy for everyone at work right now."

They will cope without you. They always cope. It won't fall to pieces and collapse like a bridge, people will pick up the slack and they'll figure it out! Only only only think about you, you take a job to meet your needs and now your needs have changed so the job must too! Give her your two weeks notice in writing, hand it over and explain all of the above to her and say "I'm sorry, but I need to do this. I don't have a choice right now." and leave. Go to the bathroom or escape somehow if you want to avoid it, but once the resignation is in her hand or on her desk you are DONE, honey-pie!

dreamon · Nov 16, 2009

Your well-being and health must be a priority. As a person who also succumbs to guilt trips (traps) laid out by others, I feel your pain.

However, there comes a time where you can no longer be a doormat. G-d forbid you pass out from exhaustion one day and end up in a hospital bed. Who will take care of your children?

If you need to, think of them and how they would fare if you weren't around whenever your boss is being selfish, which she is. No one can look out for you better than yourself!