Well, as a former hospice nurse...... to start with, DNR/DNI (tatooed on my chest). I'd like to be cared for in home hospice by a team trained to care for terminally ill. Also, I'd like comfort measures only; not everyone has the same idea as to what constitues comfort. I'll have it clearly stated in POA and living will.
Besides O2, I'd like adequate amounts of MSO4 or whatever works best to control my pain and by the best route. I'd like ativan for anxiety, and other meds as necessary for symptom control; bearing in mind that there are many non-pharmaceutical symptom control interventions. But, a good practictioner can/will work w/ a good pharmacist who has ideas.
I'd like to be cared for by those who care, those who will provide me with the comfort they'd like; with few exception, lay persons can be taught care. If I'm hungry, they can be shown how to feed me, but NO force-feeding. Mouth care, lotion, and massage are things I feel necessary (hey, we healthy folk can hop into the shower). I'd like to be clean, have a bath, fresh sheets, have someone wipe the sweat off my forehead and face if I'm too weak. I'd also wish that I'd have opportunity to discuss this life and concerns I may have with others(friends, family and members of hospice team).
Having said that, I know that some of us need our own time, time away from others, and I'd wish to be asked if that was something I needed-even if only for 15 minutes daily. Please surround me with people and things I love, things that have brought me comfort in the past; animal, vegetable, mineral...you get the jist. For me, its people, and lots of them.