I've been at my hospital job for three and a half months and just received my 90 eval. The only criticism I received was something along the lines of "You need to smile more and be more welcoming to people" What the hell is that?
I am always early to work, I am professional, I get the job done, I am polite and respect my patients. Unfortunately the charge nurse is a cow that sits at her desk and gossips the entire time and does not help anyone with ANYTHING.
I'm a relatively new nurse and have been encouraged by the Director to ask questions and ask for help if I need it. The director has notified me that the charge nurse and manager of the unit have stated that I don't smile enough (am i supposed to have a smile plastered on my face all day??), that I don't ask for help and they think I am too proud to ask (which is bull because I always ask especially if I am unfamiliar with something - which I DID ON ONE OCCASION AND DID NOT RECEIVE ANY HELP), and that I don't look comfortable and appear tense (HELLO, this is a tele unit, it gets crazy sometimes, i'm not the only nurse that gets stressed out).
Basically the only criticism I received was "You need to be more welcoming to others, if this is not something that can't be worked on during the EXTENDED 30 DAY PROBATION, then maybe this type of work environment isn't right for you". I feel like i'm being picked on or something. First off, my patients love me. I have been praised by the CEO for going out of my way and doing something for a patient that was much appreciated. Yet all the good things are overlooked and me not being a fake person is going to get my fired.
I was planning on resigning in a couple of months to pursue a graduate degree in NY but I feel like this is not an acceptable reason for me to be let go. So now before this 30 day mark I think I should resign and just relax for a month before I move. Any input would be appreciated. I am just furious with this situation. Oh and get this, the director is like "I don't know how you are with your patients so I will be around more to see your interactions". This is ridiculous and I am not the first nurse at the hospital to complain about the "culture" of the workplace. So resign in two weeks then just do the school thing? I don't think it will be a dealbreaker later when I look for a job considering I am moving for graduate school in the fall. HELP
Many years ago, I was told by my boss that I always looked like I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and that I needed to lighten up a bit. Honestly, I was pretty hurt. I mean, I was new and there was so much to worry about and what if this happened and what if I didn't know enough and what if I forgot something and what if this and what if that and I DID feel like I had the weight of the world on my shoulders!
Anyway, after I thought about it for a bit I realised she was right. Nurses don't have to swashbuckle around the ward with a devil-may-care attitude but not everything is an emergency, not everyone is going to die right this minute, and it won't be the end of the world if I don't know every single thing there is to know. I made a conscious effort to try to relax and smile a bit more and it really did help. It was an act at first but soon I was feeling more relaxed as well as looking more relaxed and I found I actually started to enjoy work and even sometimes have a bit of fun. There's plenty of terrifying moments to go around, it's good if you can smile and joke with your patients and colleagues when it's appropriate.
You may not be thinking that you're too proud to ask for help but is it at least possible that you are giving that impression? If what you've said are the only things they found to criticise, I'd let it sink in for a day or so, think about it again without feeling that you're being judged, and then take it on board. It doesn't sound like bad advice to me, and it doesn't sound like a reason for resigning either.
Last edit by CompleteUnknown on Jun 1, '12
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I am sorry, but the general perception from your OP is a sense of arrogance. You received constructive criticism, nothing that indicated termination was an option.
If one patient has stated he/she perceived you are being dismissive, rude, etc. accept that your intentions are not always physically well presented.
One thing that bugs me about people is their lack of conceptualizing perception. It does not matter what you intended to do or think you may have done. When it comes to another person's perception of the individual, it's matter that should be addressed with, "sorry those were not my intentions". This passive aggressive behavior & lack of responsibility is what causes a lot of new employees to be terminated.
Now, take the evaluation and step it up. If you want to quit, don't blame the charge nurse.
Last edit by RNGriffin on Jun 1, '12