Stress @ Work, No Support.

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    Lately work has been getting worse and worse. Just very busy, many days of missed lunch breaks or if lunch is able to be taken it is way late in the 12 hour shift. Stress has been getting to me and from talking with other people at work, they feel the same way. However, one of management nurses told me I was the problem and making everyone else feel this way? Another day I was upset and cried and was told need to be more positive. I am not saying I am perfect but just seems like no support or empathy from management. They have also basically stripped me of charge nurse duties which I found this out thru looking @ new schedule, not from being sat down and talked to about need for improvement, etc. I do have a dx depression/anxiety d/s which is inherited but I am currently on medications for it and am fine at home and elsewhere, just at work so it makes me seem like it is environment/situational stress.

    Looking for guidance here. Not sure where to go from here.
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    Been there, done that. Even bought the T-shirt. For starters, NurseyPoo (what a cute name) I want to let you know that I can identify with you, in hopes that the connection gives you a little peace.

    Sometimes we just have to trudge our way through a situation in hopes that it's a stepping stone to something better.

    However, if you wish to stay and fight the good fight, there's a lot of work involved. For example, begin documenting everything which can objectively be considered to be subpar. Send some of these objective reports to those who have the ability to improve the specific situation. The mere act of documenting and alerting Administrators to certain situations wil cause them to act. Sometimes changes are made. Sometimes not.

    If any Administrator has any type of complaint that specifically affects the Facilities Services, request, in writing, a formal report. Remember the old adage, "If it wasn't (documented), it didn't happen". Calling Administrators to task in these matters causes them to be more careful about what and how they choose to complain.

    Do not allow Administrators (or anyone for that matter) to proclaim that you are responsible for things which are out of your control. This is an example:

    Quote from NurseyPoo7
    However, one of management nurses told me I was the problem and making everyone else feel this way?
    No one can make anyone "feel" any way. An Individual is responsible for theirt own feelings. Confronting an Individual with this fact will often take them off balance.

    If this Introduction into a Technique to which I ascribe intriques you, feel free to keep the conversation going.

    If not, I wish you the very best.

    Dave
    Last edit by Davey Do on Nov 10, '11
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    hello nurseypoo7 first, your issues are not unique to you. doing the right thing the right way (it seems to me) is always met with negativity at some level. i think we as nurses want more out of a system that is broken and the "oh well" approach taken by others is what causes situations like you are finding yourself in. working alot and not taking breaks is what makes it worse, believe me. you lose objectivity. you can't not work and you need x amount of dollars. maybe splitting your time at different places will help. good luck,
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    Davey.... are you stealing my lines
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    You are experiencing standard management strategy to get you under there thumb.
    Of course what you are describing is the standard crappy work environment..... pretty much across the board.

    Taking charge away from you.... may seem painful, but it is actually a GOOD thing.You will have more time to concentrate on YOUR assignment. STOP focusing on anything other than your patients and
    excelling at your work.
    Yes, documenting all this b.s. is an excellent idea.. but who could you take it too?
    Please be careful .. with your history of anxiety and depression, this kind of problem can put you in a crisis

    I have been there, and done that. Feel free to private message me. I really don't want you to go this alone.
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    Let's step back a bit here. The charge nurse or team leader sets the tone for the shift. If he/she is stressed and 'on the brink', it has a negative effect on the group. So it seems that taking the OP out of that role at this time is the correct move, but it should have been discussed with her before taking action. Seems like management is really sub-par in this instance.

    OP, is your stress and anxiety associated with anything in particular? Do certain situations or events trigger it? If so, addressing those areas may provide some relief. However, it it is 'free floating' and unrelated to anything in particular - this is a real problem that needs professional help. Maybe a call to your EAP? AN is a great forum and we really do care, but you may need more than a virtual shoulder to cry on.
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    Quote from Davey Do
    Been there, done that. Even bought the T-shirt. For starters, NurseyPoo (what a cute name) I want to let you know that I can identify with you, in hopes that the connection gives you a little peace.

    Sometimes we just have to trudge our way through a situation in hopes that it's a stepping stone to something better.

    However, if you wish to stay and fight the good fight, there's a lot of work involved. For example, begin documenting everything which can objectively be considered to be subpar. Send some of these objective reports to those who have the ability to improve the specific situation. The mere act of documenting and alerting Administrators to certain situations wil cause them to act. Sometimes changes are made. Sometimes not.

    If any Administrator has any type of complaint that specifically affects the Facilities Services, request, in writing, a formal report. Remember the old adage, "If it wasn't (documented), it didn't happen". Calling Administrators to task in these matters causes them to be more careful about what and how they choose to complain.

    Do not allow Administrators (or anyone for that matter) to proclaim that you are responsible for things which are out of your control. This is an example:



    No one can make anyone "feel" any way. An Individual is responsible for theirt own feelings. Confronting an Individual with this fact will often take them off balance.

    If this Introduction into a Technique to which I ascribe intriques you, feel free to keep the conversation going.

    If not, I wish you the very best.

    Dave
    NurseyPoo and Davey Do cute!
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    have you considered the pros and cons of changing floors?
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    Quote from Been there,done that
    Davey.... are you stealing my lines
    Your username, btdt, indicates that you have learned valuable lessons from your experiences.

    It's also interesting way to say that the two of us have similar perspectives on certain concepts. It seems that people who have found a path to take or a system they utilze that works often agree on tacts to take.

    Keep on keeping on.

    Dave
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    Do not expect any support or empathy from management.

    Speaking out can get you pegged as the problem. I have experienced this.

    It seems to me that you need someone outside of work to talk to about your job related stress. Do you have a counselor or therapist you see for dealing with your anxiety/depression? If so, they can probably lend you an objective ear.

    In my mind, you have three options:

    1) Stay where you are and work for change, as Davey Do suggests, but be prepared to meet resistance.
    2) Just keep plugging away, do your job to the best of your ability, and hope things get better.
    3) Make a change to a different unit or a different type of nursing altogether (but don't burn your bridges; leave on good terms). This is what I did.


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