Step away from the old nurse! - page 3

Now reaching my 34th year in the nursing profession I am experiencing some humorous, interesting and distasteful situations where comments have been made that honestly offended me to the quick of my being. "Back in the day" as... Read More

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    Quote from babyRN.
    Can I ask what is wrong with calling people ma'am? I spent a couple of years in Georgia when I was growing up and it was expected of me to call anyone older than I was that.

    Now in my mid-twenties, I still do that, and it's a sign of respect and deference...or at least it is from my point of view..?
    I am from the South and have no problem at ALL with someone calling me "Ma'am." It's being called "Mama" from colleagues that I have a problem with.
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    I dont mind being called Ma'am, what I do mind is the condescending tone that is sometimes used. Sometimes by people who know better.
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    Quote from ebear
    What really infuriates me is when the younguns call me "Mama"!!!!! The last one to call me that was told calmly but firmly, "I'm not your mother but if you ever choose to call me that again, I WILL get my switch." Word spread. Most of us can still work circles around these disrespectful snot noses.
    I see nothing wrong with being called "ma'am" in respect, or even "Mama" in love and respect. Many of the CNA's in my last 2 jobs over 15 years (and a few nurses) called me 'mama'. It can be a title of endearment and respect, as in your own mother, acknowledging intelligence, experience, fairness, discipline, and caring all in one person. Your quote sound to me like you have no respect for them, so they give you none in return!
    I have 5 children and 'Mama' is MUCH better than being called "Ohhh Muuuuuuuuuther!" or other names.

    Quote from Nikki 1984
    It seems that the younger generation have little to no respect for themselves, much less for anyone else. It's really a shame too. I worked in a LTC facility in the south where manners used to be something they were very proud of. Now they are pretty much non-existent. Years ago, when my supervisor "requested" I do something for her I would practically run down anybody who got in my way. The last time I asked over the intercom for my CNA's to report to the nurses station I ended up having to go look for them because they never showed up. This was common practice at many of the facilities I've worked at over the years.
    I did not demand respect from those I supervised, and from some I got none, but I did try to earn their respect. And I did earn it from most over time. One day (I usually worked 3-11) when I called 'all CNA's to the desk please" I was laughed at by the nurses and told none would come. The nurses were totally shocked when every one of their CNA's showed up for me. I told them it was because I do not call them for every little thing and I give them the same respect on the job that I want to receive. Most CNA's worked OT from 3-7pm or 3-11 and knew me from then.
    To me it is much like the concerns sometimes expressed over "I am an RN ....ASN, DN, BSN, MSN, or whatever other hot shot titles" that seem more important than caring for and about others. With age I had to quit nursing due to physical and memory problems, but I am very proud of the career and names I have had since 1972.
    Last edit by jalyc RN on Oct 20, '11 : Reason: Bold part of quote.
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    jalyc, I'm sorry you had to give up the profession . Looks like we lost an outstanding nurse.
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    When a well-seasoned hospice nurse came to visit my boyfriend's mother, he asked her "Shouldn't you be on hospice?" Luckily she had a sense of humour. If I had been present when he said that, I'd have seen to it that HE would NEVER need hospice.

    But he did admire her greatly and had the utmost respect for her experience and professionalism. I'm sad I never got the opportunity to meet her myself.
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    I work in SICU/CVICU/CCU areas and am 59 years old. I've never minded being called Mom or Mama or anything of that sort; I take it as a compliment and believe that's how it was intended. I really care for the people I work with, whether younger or older, and I think they care about me, too. I do think young ones need more protection--and guidance--than older nurses. But, as someone else has already mentioned, they also teach me the new stuff and have some really fresh, good ideas about so many things. I enjoy us all.
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    I address most adults with 'yes sir' or 'yes ma'am'. I find it is a sign of respect and have been addressed as ma'am myself. I do not feel that it is mocking or referring to a person as old. I currently live in in Pacific Northwest and although some regions in the USA are more common to use these terms I find that most people take it with a positive outcome.
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    Quote from ebear
    What really infuriates me is when the younguns call me "Mama"!!!!! The last one to call me that was told calmly but firmly, "I'm not your mother but if you ever choose to call me that again, I WILL get my switch." Word spread. Most of us can still work circles around these disrespectful snot noses.
    I had a CNA call me "mama", and even tell me she had to go "potty" ( that was the clincher) ..... we had a chat about my purposeful lack of children and total disinterest in her bladder issues. She didn't last.

    I don't mind "endearing" as long as there's a relationship to support it. "Ditz" doesn't count
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    POTTY????? geez.....
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    To me, there is nothing respectful or loving about someone, other than my children, calling me mom or mama. If anything I find it highly disrespectful to their own mothers that they would diminish her title in such a way.
    My children's friends learned very quickly that I would not tolerate their calling me mom and I learned almost as quickly that the kids who would do so were more often than not being manipulative. The same has proven true of coworkers.
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