So I'm fired. Again. - page 13

I must be the worst nurse in the world. Now I need to figure out my next step. And it isn't nursing. No specific reason. They think I "could" be unsafe. Pffft.... Read More

  1. by   outcomesfirst
    Life is about relationships. Nursing, Stock Brokers, Walmart, Fire Department, Teaching, Politics, husbands, wives, second cousins twice removed, and the homeless standing by the freeway. I would encourage everyone posting in this topic to think about that before "choosing sides". What is the impact or import of the relationship on the work? How do I or you fit in? What makes you or I or Sues. happy, valid, fullfilled, contributory? Are we nurses for money? Are we truly altruistic? Narcissistic? How does that feeling effect others? I think we as nurses tend to box ourselves into one thinking mode and do not see the big picture. Getting fired is hard and it hurts. Beyond that, what is the lesson? Where does it go? How do we use it in our relationships? Our future? Our fault? Their fault? Does it matter? Are we bitter and going to get the "man"? Who "deserves" what we offer? Why do we "deserve" better? What is better?
    We must, must own who we are and what we do. It is what hope and change is made of.
  2. by   RainDreamer
    Quote from Suesquatch
    No, semele, it's okay. It's just hard - someone was determined to make me feel terrible about having been fired and wouldn';t let it go so I figured I'd give it one last explanation.

    Thanks. I've been having a good time figuring out how to get everything I need for acceptance into Stonybrook's on-line BSN program. I can do it next semester, while waiting for the CPNE. I'm going to need A&P, social psych, and chem to be accepted. Which is fine, because I want more science classes.



    And thanks to everyone who has been so kind to me. Including you.
    Awww Sue, try not to let them get to you. Some people rather sling mud at others than just give them some support during a rough time. God forbid they ever need the support. Hang in there!
  3. by   Katie91
    Hi Semele,

    I found your last post to be very sincere.
    I just wanted to thank you for that.
    :icon_hug:
  4. by   Katmandu
    A lot of the most successful people in this world have been fired several times. It's a major shocker and one of the most stressful things that can happen to you. Take good care of yourself and give it some time. You can get another job and one that suits you better. You'll come back stronger than ever.
  5. by   bigsyis
    Sue, may I respectfully suggest that it may be time to close this thread? Even though most posters are trying to help with their comments, you are still getting questions that don't help your overall self-image and self-respect. i.e. the comment about being "whale poop at the bottom of the ocean." I hate it that this has happened to you, but it seems like the only way you can start looking up and out of this situation is to quit talking and reading about it, over and over. Please start another thread so that we can see how things are going for you, but try to let this one die a peaceful death. I really think it would be good for you.:deadhorse
    BTW-all of you sleuths who think you can read between the lines-I sure hope nothing like this ever happens to you.
  6. by   Rnurse4963
    alot of really bad nursing leaders out there when you get canned for no reason which is what it sounds like get unemployment that will make you feel better and then they have to prove what you did instead of some line of crap good luck and dont give up because you didnt fit in :trout:there
  7. by   caliotter3
    Good luck Sue. Hope you can find a place where you can survive so that you can get those moments here and there where you feel good about having been able to help somebody. Too many nursing jobs drag down the morale of the dedicated employees. If more of the toxic were removed from the equation, then life would be more tolerable for those who care about what they do. They wouldn't burn out so much or have to spend their time job hunting. Positive thoughts for your future.
  8. by   SuesquatchRN
    Quote from bigsyis
    Sue, may I respectfully suggest that it may be time to close this thread? Even though most posters are trying to help with their comments, you are still getting questions that don't help your overall self-image and self-respect. i.e. the comment about being "whale poop at the bottom of the ocean." I hate it that this has happened to you, but it seems like the only way you can start looking up and out of this situation is to quit talking and reading about it, over and over. Please start another thread so that we can see how things are going for you, but try to let this one die a peaceful death. I really think it would be good for you.:deadhorse
    BTW-all of you sleuths who think you can read between the lines-I sure hope nothing like this ever happens to you.
    Thanks, bigsyis. The mods are welcome to close this thread if they'd like, but I'm no longer hurting about what happened. At least, not much. I'm moving along with school and life, and if unemployment ever comes through I'll be quite contented.



    This does seem to strike a chord with a lot of people, as I've said, and leaving it open leaves it available for others to post to, and therefore keeps it close to the top.

    As I said, though, it's up to the mods. I'm okay. And I do thank you.
  9. by   bigsyis
    I sure am glad to hear that you are beginning to feel better!
  10. by   pmw2007
    How do you continue to get job opportunities with prior firings? I am having a hard time explaining mine- they won't even let me in the door. I am real close to throwing in the towel with my nursing. Any advice will be appreciated.
  11. by   SuesquatchRN
    Quote from pmw2007
    How do you continue to get job opportunities with prior firings? I am having a hard time explaining mine- they won't even let me in the door. I am real close to throwing in the towel with my nursing. Any advice will be appreciated.
    I don't tell them I was fired. I tell them why *I* decided to leave. Here, even if they like you do one will give a reference outside of HR. And they just confirm dates.
  12. by   FireStarterRN
    Quote from Suesquatch
    I don't tell them I was fired. I tell them why *I* decided to leave. Here, even if they like you do one will give a reference outside of HR. And they just confirm dates.
    Really? Is that ethical? I didn't know people could get away with that. Wow.
  13. by   mauxtav8r
    Quote from jlsRN
    Really? Is that ethical? I didn't know people could get away with that. Wow.

    I was fired once . . . from a law firm no less, and they were more than happy to confirm my dates of employment, provide leads, references, etc. They paid me through a notice and allowed me to job hunt at the office instead of working. They were panic-stricken over a possible unemployment claim (which I ultimately drew for all of one week before finding a new job - for double the money).

    I was fired because one of the partners did not like me. I've never been fired before or since and have heard many, many times in the various careers I've had that hiring me was "the best decision the boss ever made."

    Sue, it can happen to anyone. There's a great book called Fired for Success. Has pointers on how to land on your feet. Came in handy.

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