Single Mom and Night Nurse??
- 0Mar 21, '11 by akaRNmleI just need to find somebody out there that has some advice or something for me.
I am currently working as a RN on a med/surge unit. I work weekend option nights (friday-sunday nights). I am doing this and I am a new single mom. I'm going through a divorce and have a 6 year old son. Right now my mom picks him up from school on fridays, watches him most weekends and then drives him to school monday morning. His father watches him at least a few days a month.
I am attempting to start my life over and am looking at moving to another state. I live in Virginia now and I want to move to Pennsylvania, about 4 hours away. I have been trying to figure out what I am supposed to do about daycare for my son. I really like the night/weekend pay, hours, and the fact that I have all week off to be with my son. My son has Aspergers and has Dr appointments, play groups and various other things that we do during the week that I'm afraid that If I get a 9-5 or even 7-3 job there are lots of things that I won't get to do. I also hate the idea of working 5 days a week, I really enjoy the 3 12 hour shifts.
I am just trying to figure out how it will be possible to continue to work AT LEAST nights. I love working nights at the hospital. I really don't want to give it up because i'm not sure if I can afford rent, student loans and medical bills without the extra money that the shift differential brings in. But what do people do for babysitting? I am moving to an area where I will not know a single person so I can't depend on family/friends. I was looking at nannies and babysitters on sittercity.com and it seems to cost about $12-20 an hour to hire somebody to babysit! PLEASE I am trying to brainstorm some ideas.
If it's not possible to continue working at a hospital nights and/or weekends then I am trying to figure out what other jobs I can do that pay well. I have 3 years experience as a RN on a tele/med surge floor. For 2 of those I worked as Charge Nurse (Resource nurse). I am NIH stroke and tele certified have my BLS and associates degree. I make between $28-37 depending on what shift i am working. That is pretty much my only working experience. I'm 27 and was a stay at mom/student since high school.
Any advice or ideas for jobs/childcare?
- 3Mar 21, '11 by rockabyeJust curious.... so why are you leaving your son's father and grandmother to move 4 hours away where you know nobody?
I knew a coworker who was single and also worked weekend nights. Her neighbor would watch her kids on the weekends in exchange for her watching her neighbor's kids during the week. It helped that the kids were friends and close in age.
- 1Mar 21, '11 by BrookeeLou_RNYes, I too wonder what is in PA that would have you uproot your whole lifestyle and support system? And to go to a place where you know no one.. I have done that and loved it but did not need childcare. I know that locally and I live in a fairly small country place.. a daycare just opened for 24 hrs.. Now I imagine nights is more $$, just due to staff but kids are asleep. That could be an option or hiring someone locally to come to your place or your child to hers.. Looking on line gets you the pricey places.. you need to find out via perhaps schools, daycares etc where these people advertise or how to reach out.
But if possible when not stay in VA until your child is older and you have better plans> Best of luck
- 2Mar 21, '11 by SkipsI am not a nurse (yet), nor am I a single mother - but I must admit that I agree with the two above posters. Would it really be better for your son to be 4 hours away from his grandmother and father? I have the opinion that you should probably wait until he is older to move. It sounds like it would be inconvenient for both you and your son. I wouldn't do it.
- 2Mar 21, '11 by dralbeeI know you are wanting the magic answer but there isn't one. After a divorce with a young child it is not the time to move away from your support system. Starting YOUR life over is one thing but uprooting a special needs child is another. Have patience and continue to do what has worked well for both of you. Your new life will come to you when you least expect it.
I wish you the best!
- 0Mar 21, '11 by akaRNmleI am moving because I have always loved to travel and I like change. I grew up a military brat and moved every year or so. I like packing it up and moving. I have lived in Va for the last 10 years but still continued to change cities every few years. My ex was aware of this before we got married and we always decided that we'd leave Virginia after I became a nurse. Our intention was to move to the west coast but then I decided on PA because it is still within a few hours drive of family. I am continuing with my plans, just leaving the husband behind. The Ex and my mom are very supportive of the move, they just want to make sure that I go visit a few times and research schools and such before the move. I am planning on moving next summer so I have a year to plan everything.
- 5Mar 21, '11 by rockabyeI'm no psychologist, but are you really keeping your son's best interest in mind with this move? He has Asperger's and even though you enjoy moving and changing, it could have negative effects on him since I know children, especially one's with special needs, crave routine and stability. He already has family where you live and his weekly play groups. Moving away may cause him more trouble in his therapy and social interactions. So you are just planning to find complete strangers to take care of your son while you work because YOU wanted change?
- 3Mar 21, '11 by BrookeeLou_RNQuote from akaRNmleYou really should re-read what you just wrote above. Many "I" statements but what about your son? Since you showed enough concern about how to 'do' this...to post here..maybe waiting another few years would work out better for your son. Could you just move to a new home instead of a new state?I am moving because I have always loved to travel and I like change. I grew up a military brat and moved every year or so. I like packing it up and moving. I have lived in Va for the last 10 years but still continued to change cities every few years. My ex was aware of this before we got married and we always decided that we'd leave Virginia after I became a nurse. Our intention was to move to the west coast but then I decided on PA because it is still within a few hours drive of family. I am continuing with my plans, just leaving the husband behind. The Ex and my mom are very supportive of the move, they just want to make sure that I go visit a few times and research schools and such before the move. I am planning on moving next summer so I have a year to plan everything.
Do not get me wrong, I too love to move, parents always joked I moved "just to avoid spring house cleaning!" but I always made sure any move was good for all of us in the family..be it husband and kids or just me and kids.
So I am not judging you, just want to make sure you have a plan ahead of time
- 0Mar 22, '11 by someday1012While I do somewhat agree with some of the stuff stated in other posts..I also see where you are coming from. I live in Maryland and will be starting an LPN program in PA in July. What part of PA are you looking at?
I've heard stories where people do trade off babysitting. I know that there are some in-home setting daycares that do have non-traditional care. Maybe you could try contacting pennsylvania child care something or another that could direct you to some certified in home care's. You could call around and see if those people would do over nights.