Professional Misconduct

[bertita]

Hi,

I am a clerk in a public hospital.

I am the one who keeps the roster prepare the scheduling of nursing staff for in service classes and mandatory classes. Our policy is that anyone who needs it has to make a copy of it.

A nurse educator took my roster and refused to give it back to me for 3 days. In the meantime I had to accomplish a deadline by using the roster.

This nurse knows that sometimes I can have a bad temper due to emotional conditions (take medicine for that). I asked for the roster to make a copy of it for myselt. She refused to give it to me again.

We had an argument over this and I get upset and she even had the nerve to call hospital police as if I was the one at fault. Hospital police and my immediate supervisor supported her because of her status of Nurse Educator. Does this constitutes professional misconduct? Please let me know what you think. I was very aggravated by the presence of hospital police to watch me. I appreciate your comments/suggestions. Because I am clerk I should be abused? Thank you.

[DusktilDawn]

I don't play a victim. I am a victim of abuse. I don't feel abused. I am abused and biased against. I learned a lot from this experience. I learned THAT DON'T TO BE SCARED AND CONFRONT THE ABUSER IS TERRIFIC. This nurse will think twice before abusing anyone else.

Actually you put the nurse educator in the role of victim in your scenario by your behavior, it certainly wasn't her that had hospital security on her case. In fact did she not come across as the abused one in the eyes of hospital security and your immediate supervisor? You don't seem to understand that.

You actually did not learn much from this experience, you certainly didn't learn what assertiveness is or that confrontational/aggressive behavior is what landed you in hot water to start with. Assertiveness is to affirm in positive manner one's rights in a confident manner, it does not involve aggression or any act that is intimidating or threatening, or any action that would result in hospital security being called into the matter.

The nurse will think twice? Why? Did you threaten her? If that's the case, then it would be YOU are the aggressor/abuser and you might as well get well aquainted with hospital security since you will probably being seeing a lot more of them just prior to them escorting you off the premises for good.

OK. I can not believe there are so many dull people around:

1- When Did I say I handed the roster over? The nurse took it and withheld it.

2- You "forgot" to spell out OP. What does that mean?

3- Asserting oneself is getting loose? Hello?

4- The nurse should be strongly disciplined for creating a crooked work environment.

5- It was very convenient that the nurse abused me because she thought I was going to eat her abuse while very stressed out; however she was wrong.

1. That's right, the nurse took the roster and withheld it, and when asked for it back, it became an aggressive confrontation that resulted in security being called on YOU. You don't seem to understand that there are other ways to have dealt with the situation that would not have left a black mark on your record.

2. OP means Original Poster, which on this thread is you.

3. Being assertive does not involve putting the other person in a position where they feel threatened enough to call security.

4. YOU blew your chance for the nurse being spoken to or "disciplined" in this manner by your actions, you don't seem to grasp this aspect of your situation. How did she create a crooked work environment? DO you really believe you are entitled to differential treatment because of a condition? NO ONE should have to walk on egg shells around another co-worker for fear of setting them off over childish nonsense. The whole situation over this roster was childish. Her taking and refusing to give back the roster may very well have been an immature petty action on her part, how you responded to the situation was also immature. After she refused to give it back, you could have chosen not to argue with her, you could have chosen not to lose your temper. You could have chosen to bring the situation to your supervisor which would have resulted in her being in the hot seat, not you.

5. What this nurse won't think twice about is calling security on you again in a similar situation.

Perhaps the other posters and myself may be dull in your opinion, but we're not the ones who think that others should conform their behaviors to suit us. We're not the ones who have to worry about anyone calling security on us because we lack the ability to recognize the difference between assertiveness and aggression.

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Good post DuskTilDawn, however obviously from the numerous responses defending his/her actions this poster has given back to others I'm arfraid you've wasted your time. :)

It seems obviously the op is looking for support and not getting it. This thread is dead.

[JVanRN]

Cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it. Jeez. If you're so convinced you were the victim, then why bother asking for other peoples perspective then slam them for being closeminded when they don't agree with you? What exactly were you looking for by creating this thread?

[WV_heart_RN]

the nurse is 50 something and still a pea brain

i wasn't talking about the other nurse. i was trying to get a point to you. it is obvious by your posts you have some serious anger management problems along with some denial issues too.

also, you never did explain why your profile states you are an rn-phd but you are really a clerk. you see, starting out with a lie doesn't give you much solid ground to stand on.

learn to be an adult in the real world or don't play in the real world.

[DusktilDawn]

Good post DuskTilDawn, however obviously from the numerous responses defending his/her actions this poster has given back to others I'm arfraid you've wasted your time. :)

It seems obviously the op is looking for support and not getting it. This thread is dead.

You're no doubt right Tweety, and it is unfortunate that the OP does not see the situation she has set up for herself. If this nurse educator wants to get rid of her, she now has the ammo to do so, ammo provided by the OP, and all she has to do is light the fuse. :studyowl: It's wise to know when one is being their own worst enemy and even wiser people learn from their experiences, good and bad. That's not what this person wants to hear and that what makes this thread dead.:deadhorse

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

You're no doubt right Tweety, and it is unfortunate that the OP does not see the situation she has set up for herself. If this nurse educator wants to get rid of her, she now has the ammo to do so, ammo provided by the OP, and all she has to do is light the fuse. :studyowl: It's wise to know when one is being their own worst enemy and even wiser people learn from their experiences, good and bad. That's not what this person wants to hear and that what makes this thread dead.:deadhorse

I agree. :monkeydance:

[Hellllllo Nurse, BSN, RN]

I agree w/ all of the above reponses.

[JVanRN]

Since she's supposedly closed her account, it's probably best we close this thread...(um so people like me don't keep coming back to reply *blushing* "Sorry y'all").

[P_RN, ADN, RN]

I agree. Thread closed.