Overcoming for Mario - page 3

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  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Mario, you learned your lessons; they were HARSH. So is learning in nursing----G-d forbid we make a mistake. Learning lessons in nursing can be devastating, as you know.

    I am glad you are back and I feel that with iron determination, you will make it. I know you will. Don't get discouraged. Are you NOT in Portland, OR, or in the vicinity? If so, You have MORE then ONE choice of schools to attend. You don't have kids; you are not married, right? If so, perhaps you could travel to attend school? Now, I am NOT saying it would be easy, but hey, I went thru school with a family and military husband, and if I can do it, you sure can! Don't get down, get BUSY!!!! In nursing, you can't spend too much time licking your wounds before you move on, having learned a lesson from an error or mistep. You now know how important follow-through is. So, Start NOW researching the schools out there---and I agree with the above---BSN is THE way to go. I am so glad to see you back; now GET TO WORK, gaining entry into a good school someplace.

    Someday, I will see you return here as Mario, RN, BSN--- OK? YA HEAH????!!!! You have my best wishes!
  2. by   BMS4
    [QUOTE]Originally posted by Furball
    [B]
    Originally posted by altomga
    Sorry to hear about he rotten luck you had....


    It wasn't "rotton luck"... it was not handing in assignments on time and handing out meds without your clinical instructor's presence...big no-no. Just calling a spade...a spade here.
    I agree.

    Mario, I'm glad to see you are moving on, but it doesn't sound like you have taken responsibility for your actions. You continue to blame someone else.

    I wish only the best for you. Good luck.
  3. by   Mattigan
    [QUOTE]Originally posted by Furball
    [B]
    Originally posted by altomga
    Sorry to hear about he rotten luck you had....


    It wasn't "rotton luck"... it was not handing in assignments on time and handing out meds without your clinical instructor's presence...big no-no. Just calling a spade...a spade here.
    Listen to people. You were the one responsible for the outcome. Noone did anything to you but hold you to the same expectations as the other students.Get a clue and don't make the same mistakes over.

    I would say good luck but luck has nothing to do with it. Just hard work.
  4. by   ageless
    [QUOTE]Originally posted by mario_ragucci

    Being failed for the clinical portion was under the control of a single nursing instructor.
    you were in control of your pass or fail status



    I didn't deserve to be dropped like that
    the truth is..yeah, you did




    So now I have to start getting myself into reality
    best advice you could give yourself!!!!
  5. by   KaroSnowQueen
    Mario, I believe you have the passion and ambition to do this.
    BUT, remember nursing is in some respects, a big game of CYA.
    Be sure your butt is covered in ALL situations. That means, think first, think again and rethink ANYTHING that you do, especially in school, they will NOT cut you any slack as you have found out.
    Mario, you don't say how old you are, but I get the idea you are fairly young. Curb some of that impulsiveness and the trustingness you placed in the floor nurse (she should have told you to ask your instructor first), and learn to be calm and slower to act in a clinical situation.
    Apply to a zillion schools. My daughter applied to two, never has heard from one, last year she was on the list at the other, this year she is accepted. There are more schools than just the one you were at.
  6. by   Furball
    Maybe I'm wrong... but I vaquely remember Mario moaning about the profs not understanding that students who work FT need some slack. You have it easy Mario...no wife and kids to worry about...or let's make it even worse...thank the heavens that you aren't a single parent, working, going to school, caring for a couple kids...you know ...the people you show soooo much empathy for, in the past, because they actually have to use daycare rather than stay at home in your fairy tale world?

    Mario is 40-ish and should know by now that life is rough for everyone...not just him.
    Last edit by Furball on Jun 4, '03
  7. by   ShandyLynnRN
    Mario, you AGAIN, have been given good advice. Work hard, don't give up, but MOST importantly,

    LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES! In order to do that, you HAVE to own up to them. Stop blaming the instructors! Stop saying that you didn't deserve this! Stop saying it wasn't your fault! If you continue to think in this way, then you WILL continue to fail, and continue to blame others instead of looking in the mirror for the cause of that failure.

    I am in NO way meaning to flame you. I just don't understand how you can start threads like this over and over again and hear people telling you the same things, and still not get it. For the love of my sanity, PLEASE start taking responsibility where it is due.
  8. by   Mattigan
    For your own good - you need to listen to people even when it's something you don't want to hear.

    This is not being mean or trying to start a flame war but IMO it would be mean to mislead you and not point out the obvious which you seem to be having a really hard time seeing for yourself.
    Last edit by Mattigan on Jun 4, '03
  9. by   Lausana
    Thanks for saying what needed to be said. Many did not see that we've been there/done this a couple months ago a couple times.

    When a smart bunch of folks give you advice and support, take it, out of respect for their wisdom on the subject.
  10. by   Mattigan
    Originally posted by Lausana
    When a smart bunch of folks give you advice and support, take it, out of respect for their wisdom on the subject.
    ... or not, it's your life but please, stop whining about it- if you don't.
  11. by   mario_ragucci
    Originally posted by BMS4
    I agree.

    it doesn't sound like you have taken responsibility for your actions. You continue to blame someone else.

    I wish only the best for you. Good luck.
    No, you got that wrong. See, I am not denying anything. I'm just getting back into the change mode and want to release negative feelings. It don't matter now because I have to get back into nursing school again. It's similar to the feeling of finding a job when there is no jobs...when you are unsure of yourself.

    I ain't denying that I did make errors, but it was harsh to extend punishment. Okay, if you put other students in my clinical predicament with the same instructor, maybe then.

    But hey, others have had bad nursing experiences, and surely the entire universe is full of greater and lesser energies we can run into as we all pass through time together. Now I know. :-)
  12. by   susanmary
    Originally posted by mario_ragucci
    I ain't denying that I did make errors, but it was harsh to extend punishment.
    Mario, I recommend you look into a different career path. You failed to hand in required papers on time. You failed to follow procedure and administered a narcotic to a patient without your instructor's physical presence. You flunked out of nursing school because of your actions (of lack of) and it was not harsh of your clinical instructor to "extend punishment." Honestly, you would not make it through the orientation period on my unit -- if you did not get your paperwork done & did not follow hospital procedure regarding medication administration -- you'd be gone.

    You are very enthusiastic and want to make a difference. I'd suggest meeting with a career counselor to look into other careers. Whether in nursing or real life, Mario, you need to move on and let things go. The world is not out to get you. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
  13. by   ShandyLynnRN
    ---I ain't denying that I did make errors, but it was harsh to extend punishment.---

    See, Mario, that is what I am talking about. You admit that you made a mistake, yet still cannot admit that it was YOUR fault that you failed. I believe that THAT is what everyone here is trying to get you to see.

    Try repeating after me: I screwed up. *I* failed. It was MY fault. *I* am the only one to blame. My instructors were only doing their jobs in failing me for something that was MY FAULT.

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