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I sat there in library working on one of my many papers and projects that I had due. I was exhausted--exhausted physically, mentally, emotionally; I was done with it. Suddenly, a thought came to my... Read More

  1. Visit  multi10 profile page
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    OP, Congratulations on getting your nursing license.

    I don't need a professional to deal with me "personally" because I solved my problem through the court system.
  2. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    My point is, if you feel the need to discuss it, please find someone professional, not on AN. I am glad the courts took care of it.

    I know, your message--abuse is wrong and should be dealt with accordingly. That's fine; but, not all people with BPD are abusive like your ex.

    Anyway, I think dolce will have information soon regarding personality disorders as a whole (I believe, as opposed to only BPD), so we can all learn about them as a class because BPD is not the only one and I think personality disorders as a whole has a huge stigma.
  3. Visit  multi10 profile page
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    I don't feel the need to discuss it.

    Of course not all people with BPD are abusive.

    What is dolce?
  4. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    dolcebellaluna, member
  5. Visit  pinkiepieRN profile page
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    Quote from multi10
    I don't feel the need to discuss it.

    Of course not all people with BPD are abusive.

    What is dolce?
    She's talking about me. :waves:

    I'm working on gathering some accurate information both about stigma regarding mental illness and documented perceptions and biases nurses have against and about patients with a diagnosis of a mental illness. We as nurses surely aren't invisible to negative experiences that color our options of certain diagnoses or types of patients. It's important to keep this in mind, whether we're talking a patient with bipolar disorder or cancer. There are preventable and no preventable risk factors for nearly every illness and diagnosis out there. Education and support, as well as advocacy is crucial to the advancement of knowledge and acceptance of mental illness as just as treatable of an illness as diabetes or hypertension.
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  6. Visit  ShyeoftheTiger profile page
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    My point is, if you feel the need to discuss it, please find someone professional, not on AN.
    I mean...
  7. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    Shy, we are not those types of professionals and we do not give medical advice. We have moved on in this thread.
  8. Visit  Esme12 profile page
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    My point is, if you feel the need to discuss it, please find someone professional, not on AN. I am glad the courts took care of it.

    I know, your message--abuse is wrong and should be dealt with accordingly. That's fine; but, not all people with BPD are abusive like your ex.

    Anyway, I think dolce will have information soon regarding personality disorders as a whole (I believe, as opposed to only BPD), so we can all learn about them as a class because BPD is not the only one and I think personality disorders as a whole has a huge stigma.
    I think everyone has the need to share their personal stories and experiences that they have gone though....you sharing your experience, wml, ....made others feel comfortable sharing their stories as well.......for you created a safe environment for them to speak out and share their experience on their road to recovery. For recovery from an abusive relationship exists as well.....I think as much as you have shared on AN wml...others may have that same need to share and feel the support.

    I always have the belief....pay it forward.
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  9. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    I appreciate that, Esme. But, the reason I shared my story is because I wanted something different. I can google borderline personality disorder and find multi's story a dime a dozen. It really has become a complain fest with the family members, former lovers, etc. of people with BPD. I am sorry if someone did multi wrong, but she (?) is no longer with them (and from what it sounds like, it happen a long time ago, not recent). She does need to move on--living in the past and living with the anger she has and negativity will eat her alive. I mainly did it to show any other person with BPD on here (admittedly or "in the closet", especially the nursing students) that yes, it is possible to have the dreaded BPD diagnosis and get licensed. I did. I am also in a good place in recovery and I am what I consider a decent, productive member of society. So, thus far (do not know about the future), I am not the typical "Borderline" (which I hate the label because I am a person, not a diagnosis--I am also a nurse, a daughter, a sister, volunteer, etc.)

    If this is going to come to this, please close this article/topic because I would rather multi started her own article or thread with her story rather than ruining mine. To me, in addition to the showing others you can be successful with BPD, my article was supposed to be something cathartic and for me to be able to look back on it and see how far I have come. I feel like it's marred now with this arguing and negativity and such. I would rather it be stopped and closed than this be continued. Perhaps a better place for my story would have been my blog (I turn my comments off because I am open about my BPD and quite frankly, I don't care what other peoples' opinions are of me and my BPD. I'll be good to you, if you are good to me. Plain and simple.) Maybe I will copy and paste it into my blog and turn the comments off.

    Multi, you can talk about whatever you want. I am going to copy and paste it into my blog.
  10. Visit  ShyeoftheTiger profile page
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    I appreciate that, Esme. But, the reason I shared my story is because I wanted something different. I can google borderline personality disorder and find multi's story a dime a dozen. It really has become a complain fest with the family members, former lovers, etc. of people with BPD. I am sorry if someone did multi wrong, but she (?) is no longer with them (and from what it sounds like, it happen a long time ago, not recent). She does need to move on--living in the past and living with the anger she has and negativity will eat her alive. I mainly did it to show any other person with BPD on here (admittedly or "in the closet", especially the nursing students) that yes, it is possible to have the dreaded BPD diagnosis and get licensed. I did. I am also in a good place in recovery and I am what I consider a decent, productive member of society. So, thus far (do not know about the future), I am not the typical "Borderline" (which I hate the label because I am a person, not a diagnosis--I am also a nurse, a daughter, a sister, volunteer, etc.)

    If this is going to come to this, please close this article/topic because I would rather multi started her own article or thread with her story rather than ruining mine. To me, in addition to the showing others you can be successful with BPD, my article was supposed to be something cathartic and for me to be able to look back on it and see how far I have come. I feel like it's marred now with this arguing and negativity and such. I would rather it be stopped and closed than this be continued. Perhaps a better place for my story would have been my blog (I turn my comments off because I am open about my BPD and quite frankly, I don't care what other peoples' opinions are of me and my BPD. I'll be good to you, if you are good to me. Plain and simple.) Maybe I will copy and paste it into my blog and turn the comments off.

    Multi, you can talk about whatever you want. I am going to copy and paste it into my blog.
    You should definitely copy and paste your article into your blog and turn off the comments because you can't turn people's opinions off on AN... nor can you control the response you receive here. It is really sad that you feel your article is "ruined" and "marred" because it was definitely worth reading. I'm sorry you didn't get the response you were looking for and obviously you do care about what people think if you need to turn the comments off to block out negativity.

    In my experience with BPD, introspection goes a very, very long way. Dig deep and good luck.
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  11. Visit  MedChica profile page
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    I appreciate that, Esme. But, the reason I shared my story is because I wanted something different. I can google borderline personality disorder and find multi's story a dime a dozen. It really has become a complain fest with the family members, former lovers, etc. of people with BPD. I am sorry if someone did multi wrong, but she (?) is no longer with them (and from what it sounds like, it happen a long time ago, not recent). She does need to move on--living in the past and living with the anger she has and negativity will eat her alive. I mainly did it to show any other person with BPD on here (admittedly or "in the closet", especially the nursing students) that yes, it is possible to have the dreaded BPD diagnosis and get licensed. I did. I am also in a good place in recovery and I am what I consider a decent, productive member of society. So, thus far (do not know about the future), I am not the typical "Borderline" (which I hate the label because I am a person, not a diagnosis--I am also a nurse, a daughter, a sister, volunteer, etc.)

    If this is going to come to this, please close this article/topic because I would rather multi started her own article or thread with her story rather than ruining mine. To me, in addition to the showing others you can be successful with BPD, my article was supposed to be something cathartic and for me to be able to look back on it and see how far I have come. I feel like it's marred now with this arguing and negativity and such. I would rather it be stopped and closed than this be continued. Perhaps a better place for my story would have been my blog (I turn my comments off because I am open about my BPD and quite frankly, I don't care what other peoples' opinions are of me and my BPD. I'll be good to you, if you are good to me. Plain and simple.) Maybe I will copy and paste it into my blog and turn the comments off.

    Multi, you can talk about whatever you want. I am going to copy and paste it into my blog.
    The discussion is still a good one. You just rose to the occasion. Saw harm where none existed. Did some conclusion jumping. What about multi's post leads you to believe that she's stll carrying baggage from a past relationship?
    The girl was sharing. You just didn't care to hear it bc it portrays 'all with bpd in a negative light'. No one said it before you did. You engaged her about her own experiences...of course she responded. She was correcting you. Personally...I've dealt with one who had bpd. She was comorbid (bp 2) and hell on two feet. I mean, a complete PITA. The aides used to flip coins to decide who would 'deal with her'...and yes-I do mean 'deal with her'. Every interaction with her was an ordeal. She was abusive, mean, selfish, manipulative....even her fam didn't want to deal with her. They don't write her off. They just can't take her...all the time. Understandable....when you possess characteristics that turn ppl....off. When you behave in such a way thst makes ppl want to run from you... Now... Do i believe that every individual with bpd is like her? Uh, I dunno. How 'bout Ill let you know when I meet them all... lol i will say that you give far too much credit to these internet sites. Most ppl don't know crap about pd's. Ive never heard of the woman you mentioned...and im a psych nurse. All mental disorders are painted as being one in the same. Every disorder is viewed with a spotlight on the negatives. Not just bpd... Anyway...I respect what you're trying to do.
    Its a good thing. No need to close the thread.
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  12. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    Med, BPD gets a lot of undeserved negative light. I don't think I see much good about BPD online or even spoken.

    What makes me mad about multi is this--I really wrote the article for Mental Health Awareness Month (my contribution), for myself, and for the admitted and "in the closet" people with BPD. The only part of it that was directly at the non-BPD people (other diagnosis or non-diagnosis) was that I was hoping for people to have a conversation as in ask me (and other posters here with it) about BPD instead of these negative stereotypes. I am sorry she (?) was abused--there must have been something else wrong that person. People with BPD are violent towards themselves--perhaps he had something like severe antisocial (although mild antisocials are mostly just people who do drugs, per what my therapist told me. I asked her what they were like because I am sure they get a negative stereotype, too.)

    Like I said, I can google BPD and multi's story comes up a hundred times (by other non-BPD people, of course); I want something positive for a change. I am just incredibly exhausted with the negativity. If harm wasn't meant then I have no idea why multi connected a BPD story with abuse and whatever it was.

    My goal was to give hope and enlighten, not to bash people with BPD by connecting them with abuse. Some people with BPD might be like that, but note the some--not all.

    Google her. Randi Kreger--Walking on Eggshells. The book she co-wrote is a book people with family members with BPD have been recommended since the 80s. Then, she decided she was an expert (no healthcare credentials) so she wrote every slanderous aspect (from jobs to relationships to parenting) of BPD. It's ridiculous. Many more like her. Just haven't found anything really positive.

    I kind of like my BPD. First to say it...and it's okay. I am who I am and I am following healthy habits now.

    Shy, I am not looking for "way to go" comments. I wanted a discussion and wanted people to ask me questions and such rather than turn into the toxic BPD bashing it's always been. The thing about BPD is it has a huge stigma. Most of that stigma (99.9%) comes from healthcare providers. I wish it would change.

    Maybe I should ask multi this--what was the point of your posts? If all BPD people are not like that, then what were you getting at? I apparently missed it and automatically thought it was a bash post.
  13. Visit  ShyeoftheTiger profile page
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    Med, BPD gets a lot of undeserved negative light. I don't think I see much good about BPD online or even spoken.

    What makes me mad about multi is this--I really wrote the article for Mental Health Awareness Month (my contribution), for myself, and for the admitted and "in the closet" people with BPD. The only part of it that was directly at the non-BPD people (other diagnosis or non-diagnosis) was that I was hoping for people to have a conversation as in ask me (and other posters here with it) about BPD instead of these negative stereotypes. I am sorry she (?) was abused--there must have been something else wrong that person. People with BPD are violent towards themselves--perhaps he had something like severe antisocial (although mild antisocials are mostly just people who do drugs, per what my therapist told me. I asked her what they were like because I am sure they get a negative stereotype, too.)

    Like I said, I can google BPD and multi's story comes up a hundred times (by other non-BPD people, of course); I want something positive for a change. I am just incredibly exhausted with the negativity. If harm wasn't meant then I have no idea why multi connected a BPD story with abuse and whatever it was.

    My goal was to give hope and enlighten, not to bash people with BPD by connecting them with abuse. Some people with BPD might be like that, but note the some--not all.

    Google her. Randi Kreger--Walking on Eggshells. The book she co-wrote is a book people with family members with BPD have been recommended since the 80s. Then, she decided she was an expert (no healthcare credentials) so she wrote every slanderous aspect (from jobs to relationships to parenting) of BPD. It's ridiculous. Many more like her. Just haven't found anything really positive.

    I kind of like my BPD. First to say it...and it's okay. I am who I am and I am following healthy habits now.

    Shy, I am not looking for "way to go" comments. I wanted a discussion and wanted people to ask me questions and such rather than turn into the toxic BPD bashing it's always been. The thing about BPD is it has a huge stigma. Most of that stigma (99.9%) comes from healthcare providers. I wish it would change.

    Maybe I should ask multi this--what was the point of your posts? If all BPD people are not like that, then what were you getting at? I apparently missed it and automatically thought it was a bash post.
    Mine was in no way a "way to go comment." Your expectations for this article were very unrealistic. I hope one day you will be able to see that and gain some insight on the negative image of BPD through doing some introspection.
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