Out With It - page 4

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I sat there in library working on one of my many papers and projects that I had due. I was exhausted--exhausted physically, mentally, emotionally; I was done with it. Suddenly, a thought came to my mind to kill myself. I finished... Read More


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    I advocated for his future change by getting a great lawyer, suing him, and exposing his pathology. One person at a time.
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    Quote from multi10
    So true, but it was hard to provide education to him when he had his hands around my neck.
    I can only imagine how scary that was for you and what he did was not right, mentally ill or not. I certainly wouldn't say it was your sole responsibility to educate him nor was it your fault that he behaved as he did. I just don't think he's an exemplar of someone with borderline personality disorder, and certainly not someone who is treatment compliant.
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    dolcebellaluna

    It was beyond scary. I thought I was going to die as he was strangling me. He used "excessive efforts to avoid abandonment".

    The OP didn't live inside the home of the object of her desire, the one she stalked. Unfortunately for me, I lived with, and was engaged to, the BPD, the stalker, the one who said, "If you leave me, you'll never be anything but a dog catcher in this town." (He was a well-connected person, or so he thought. He isn't anymore.)

    To which I replied, "I'd rather be a dog catcher than live under the same roof with you. At least I'll only be bitten and abused by dogs."

    So I know he was a borderline and a batterer.

    Do you want to know how I got him off of me when he was trying to strangle me? Simple.
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    Again, multi, I am sorry for your experience. However, I do not feel it is right to judge a whole disorder by one person. I am really confused about what you are posting--in one post you said he was diagnosed BPD (that's cool if he was legit diagnosed BPD) and in two others, you said you just knew he had BPD. I do not like the arm chair psychiatry stuff--that is what gave BPD a terrible name to begin with. Randi Kreger (Walking On Eggshells book) comes to mind. She makes a living off of bashing people with BPD and NPD and has zero healthcare credentials to her name. She refers to herself as an expert on BPD, yet the only thing she goes by is her experience with her mother, who must have BPD, I guess. She has done so much damage to people with BPD, it is unbelievable.

    When I was looking online for support and information; all I found were stories like yours. Most of these people were playing arm chair psychiatrist--they looked online at the diagnosing criteria for BPD and said 'oh, that sounds like so and so. I know what's wrong with them now." Then, they proceed to post nasty things about people with BPD, without even knowing whether the person that is their experience with BPD legitimately has BPD. They even said that the person was not legitimately diagnosed, they just fit the description. I have a legit diagnosis of BPD.

    multi, this article thread took a turn for the worst somewhere; I am sorry for your experience, however, I do not want this to be closed because of all of this. So, please move on...you are away from him now.
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    He was an abuser, a violent man I don't think it was because of BPD rather because he wanted to control you and was a sociopath with a conduct disorder. I don't think blaming it on BPD is the true cause of his behavior. From what I know about BPD it sounds more like an abnormal maladaptive coping behavior many times brought about by childhood abuse or trauma and probably has more in common with PTSD than being a stalker or sociopath!
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    I don't want this thread to be closed either. Information is important. Information is power.

    There is an official diagnosis ("Officially", by a psychiatrist) of a person diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

    I am not "playing arm chair psychiatrist", OP. I made it clear that my stalker/batterer was diagnosed, officially, by his psychiatrist of many years, as a Borderline.

    I'm not moving on anywhere. I'm a nurse and this is an AN site.
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    brandy1017,

    You had an abuser too? Are you talking about your situation?
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    Quote from multi10
    I don't want this thread to be closed either. Information is important. Information is power.

    There is an official diagnosis ("Officially", by a psychiatrist) of a person diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

    I am not "playing arm chair psychiatrist", OP. I made it clear that my stalker/batterer was diagnosed, officially, by his psychiatrist of many years, as a Borderline.

    I'm not moving on anywhere. I'm a nurse and this is an AN site.
    With all due respect it sounds like multiple diagnoses, not just BPD. I am sorry for all you had to go through. Sounds like you were lucky to get out alive
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    multi, look, please stop. I said move on as in move on with your life. I am not looking for an argument. This article was about my experience with dealing with my own BPD and how I still went on to get my nursing license.

    If I am understanding correctly, your experience took place many years ago--I am sorry you were abused, but I think that is better dealt with by professionals who know you personally.
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    OP, Congratulations on getting your nursing license.

    I don't need a professional to deal with me "personally" because I solved my problem through the court system.


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