Need advice on leaving nursing! - page 3

I am in serious need of advice. I don't know if I'm experiencing burnout or just a cumulation of not being happy as a nurse, but I feel like I can't stand another day of work in my ER nursing job. ... Read More

  1. by   Ophelia78
    I felt the same way after going to L&D, the place I thought I was meant to be. I ended up crying every day, dreading going in, feeling depressed, and doing nothing around the house when I was home. I went to see an employee assistance counselor. Most hospitals have them. It's confidential and you don't have to tell your boss. I felt like a loser making the appointment (even though I had worked as a mental health professional for years!) but it was the best thing I ever did. She really helped me clarify what I really wanted and what steps I had to take to get it. Good Luck!
  2. by   AshestoBeauty
    [quote=KatRN,BSN;2076579]NP profession and it seemed like something I would really enjoy. Becoming an RN was a step in the process to become an NP.


    Kat, you use the word, "was" a step.... Don't stop now. If its still a goal of yours, go all the way. I appreciate your post because I also want to become an NP and your post helps to keep things in prospective. If NP is what you want, its okay to feel discouraged at times on the journey and posting allows others to help you stay focused. I'm at the LPN stage of my career and getting my BSN seems like light years away. When I became IV certified, I had some nurses question why I would get this certification because I'm only inviting future lawsuits. My point is that discouragement is a given. I have to keep my focus inspite of. So don't give up if you're experiencing a season of discouragement but also be real with yourself if this is what you truly want. Stay focused and stand your ground whether its in nursing or in a different career.
    Peace,
    Ashes
  3. by   sissiesmama
    Hey KAT!! I have to tell you, you were describing me and my situation exactly. I have been a nurse for 15 years, and I know everything changes, but it just seeme like the changes have been more negative than positive.

    I changed units when I started having these feelings and doubts, ect. That helped for a while, but it's like the same BS is everywhere. When I started working those years ago, the emphasis was on patient care, and now it seems like that is a lot lower down on the list of priorities. (And I know that other towns, other states may not be like that)

    Anyway, back in August 2006 my 15 year old cocker spaniel had to be put to sleep, and shortly after that, my doubts and questions in my head increased. I quit my job, and I mean just QUIT!! No BS about staying prn, ect. I told my husband, who is also an RN, and a nsg. sup. at the hospital where I was employed. He knew about the crap, and we realized it was not getting any better.

    And, I got on ebay and sold my 2 good littman stethescopes and all my nursing uniforms and have been a stay at home mom since September. I've been checking other options, and I am thinking about going to EMT school. I have 4 years of ER, and some trauma with it, and I had thought about EMT instead of nursing.

    I know this is way too long with my ranting, but I couldn't resist when I read your post. Feel free to pm me anytime, and good luck with your decision making.

    Anne
  4. by   subee
    Quote from KatRN,BSN
    Thanks for all of the replies. I pursued nursing as a career for several reasons. I do enjoy "helping people" and "making a difference" is really important to me in a career. I liked the options that nursing seemed to offer. I was also told that I could get a job anywhere as a nurse, which was appealing in the economically depressed area where I used to live. I learned about the NP profession and it seemed like something I would really enjoy. Becoming an RN was a step in the process to become an NP.

    I thank everyone for all of the ideas on areas of nursing to pursue, but I feel like I have exhausted a lot of options. I've applied for public health, home health, school nursing, insurance companies, case management, private duty, infusion nursing, occupational health, and office nursing positions. Either I am not even granted an interview or I am told that I do not have the experience and to contact them after I have 1-2 years of experience. It is very frustrating.

    Ashes, thank you for being so honest. I do need to stop complaining and just move forward with my life. This is not the life or the career that I envisioned having.


    Two or three appointments with a therapist might really help you focus. Sometimes its really hard to separate personal issues from work issues. Before you give up so easily on something (remember you"re SUPPOSED to be miserable the first year - some of the stressors ease with experience) that you worked so hard for. What was the "life or career" you were envisioning? Life isn't usually what we envisioned - as the ad says on TV, it just kind of comes at you. Do talk this out with a professional because you sound pretty miserable, disappointed and lost. Its hard to tell from your post what is going on.
  5. by   uk_nurse
    If you want to try another career and at this point of time you feel nursing is not for you. I say do it. You are a qualified nurse and if in the future you want to go back into nursing, you can do courses to bring you back upto date with your knowledge and clinical skills. No matter what career you chose just remember you can always go back into nursing. I dont think any job is worth getting so worked up about especially if it is affecting you and your family. You wont know till you try. Good Luck!
  6. by   cookie102
    my heart goes out to you, feeling as you do and only in the profession for one year...please explore...nursing has a multitude of avenues
    having been in nursing 30+ years i can honestly say i like being a nurse, doesn't mean i have always liked where i worked..best wishes
  7. by   AlwaysTired
    Sounds so much like my story. I'm an LPN getting ready to graduate with my ADN in May !!! I worked in Public Health for years and attended night school the last two of those to get in my core classes while still working full time. When it came time to enter the bridge program (all day classes) I had to quit the Health Dept job. My ultimate goal was to work on med/surg. Told everyone constantly that I was going to be a "hospital nurse" and that it was my destiny so I might as well go on to the hospital and get a weekend job while I finish school, right? BIG MISTAKE. I worked 3 months and liked it at first, then began to hate it. I won't go into the reasons but just wanted to tell you what a failure I felt like after bragging to my friends and family that that's where I belonged. I would go into the bathroom at work and cry, cry all the way home and cry myself to sleep. I even unscrewed the light bulb in my bedroom so my husband/kids couldn't see me crying in bed. I think I went through a depression. I was thinking to myself: you're so stupid! why didn't you go to accounting school!! My grades had taken a nosedive so I used that as an excuse to quit and got a job at an assisted living home (just passing meds-almost NO stress!!). Then one day in clinicals I had to take my patient down for dialysis and wow...I think I found it!! I WANT to be a dialysis nurse!!! I'm so happy that I'm excited about nursing again. I'm going to start sending out applications about a month before graduation (since I'm an LPN) and hope they bite (and beat my classmates to the punch, LOL). Anyway, just wanted to say that life is good again and it can be for you...just keep the faith, you'll find your niche. Have you thought about getting a business degree? Most are online and I think there's one called "healthcare administration"?? You could be the administrator of a Health Dept, Assisted Living facility, etc. That's if you're interested in admin type jobs. Also, having worked at our local Health Dept for years, there's lots of opportunity there for RN/BSN's, not much for LPN's though, you're either stuck in immunizations or Lab. GOOD LUCK to you!!!
  8. by   Diahni
    RE: Dialysis
    Isn't it amazing how some things come to us out of the blue? I always thought I would absolutely hate psych nursing, but loved the clinical. Med-surg isn't for everybody. The hectic juggling of all aspects of the job make many people unhappy. There's someplace for every nurse, I think, and you never know when you will discover it. With something like dialysis, you get to become very expert in one thing. Med-surg nurses have to wear so many hats, I get exhausted just thinking about it!
  9. by   KeithRN
    I have heard this type of story so many times in my 12 yrs in Nursing. Nursing is difficult(!) for so many reasons. I get depressed the day before going back to work, knowing what I'm in for the next day. I'm thinking about medical sales, etc. I think you need to figure out what you enjoy doing and why you enjoy doing it before you go back to school or jump into anything else. You could try the O.R.--it is so much different than the ER. I am in Telemetry, which is so stressful.
  10. by   Diahni
    Quote from KeithRN
    I have heard this type of story so many times in my 12 yrs in Nursing. Nursing is difficult(!) for so many reasons. I get depressed the day before going back to work, knowing what I'm in for the next day. I'm thinking about medical sales, etc. I think you need to figure out what you enjoy doing and why you enjoy doing it before you go back to school or jump into anything else. You could try the O.R.--it is so much different than the ER. I am in Telemetry, which is so stressful.
    KeithRN,
    I have a friend who works for a big drug company - it's demanding, but she makes mucho dinero. Her background is being a lab tech, but the companies just love hiring nurses, too. My friend is lucky enough to have a musician/house hubby, so there's always somebody holding down the fort. I would check it out if I were you! You never know.
    Diahni
  11. by   whartonjelly
    Have you ever thought of NICU. It is fascinating. Less stress on your body. Your mind can handle it if you work ER.
  12. by   Diahni
    Quote from KatRN,BSN
    I am in serious need of advice. I don't know if I'm experiencing burnout or just a cumulation of not being happy as a nurse, but I feel like I can't stand another day of work in my ER nursing job. I feel very depressed all the time and work is all that I can think about, namely how much I dread having to return. Even if I have 4 days off, all I can focus on is how many more days until I have to go back. I have dreams about being at work and they are more like nightmares. It is affecting my relationship with my husband and family, as they are so tired of hearing how much I dislike my job and how much I regret going into nursing.

    To give some background info on my situation, I have only been a nurse for about a year. Even prior to graduating, I started having doubts about my choice of nursing as a career. During my senior year in particular, I started really regreting my choice and thinking about other options. I originally went into nursing with the goal of becoming an NP. During my senior year, I went ahead and applied to a few schools for FNP and I was accepted. After a lot of thought, I finally decided to turn down the acceptance and work as an RN for a year to get some experience.

    I started out on a med-surg floor and I hated it. I was only there for a few months. After leaving, I found a job in the ED. At first, I was very excited and it seemed like a good nursing job. In comparision with many other bedside nursing jobs, it is a good nursing job. I get a guaranteed paid hour lunch break every shift. The staffing ratios aren't great, but they are better than at some hospitals in the area. I enjoy working with most of the staff. I like the variety of patients. My commute to work is only about 5 minutes and I even go home sometimes on my lunch breaks. Even with all of the positive aspects of the job, I still just don't like it and I'm starting to really dread going to work. I really think that I'm just not cut out for nursing. I hate working weekends, nights, holidays, and 12-hour shifts. I hate wearing scrubs. I hate performing most of the skills and tasks that go along with nursing. I really don't enjoy direct patient care.

    I just don't know what to do anymore. I applied again for admission into an FNP program and I am still waiting to hear back from the university. I'm not really even sure if that's what I want to do anymore though. In the meantime, I'm searching for another job outside of acute care, but I'm finding it very diffcult without that year of experience. Also, I'm worried if a move outside of acute care so early in my career could affect my chances at future FNP jobs if I still decide to go that route. I've also thought about getting out of nursing entirely and my husband is encouraging me to pursue a waitressing job, but it feels like such a waste after earning a 4-year degree. I'm also very frustrated that every other career that I've considered would involve me returning to earn another BS degree and then going onto graduate school. I already have enough loans from the first BS!

    Whew, thanks for letting me get all of this out. All of the stress is really starting to get to me. I would appreciate any advice or input.
    Kat,
    I'm reading this book, "Making a Living Without a Job," by Barbara Winter - while it's about being self-employed, it's very thought provoking by asking questions - what kinds of things should be included in the life you want, which are your favorite skills, what kind of people do you want to be around. It's worth checking out for a "reality check." I'm kinda in a flux right now, too.
    Diahni
  13. by   pie123
    Quote from KatRN,BSN
    I am in serious need of advice. I don't know if I'm experiencing burnout or just a cumulation of not being happy as a nurse, but I feel like I can't stand another day of work in my ER nursing job. I feel very depressed all the time and work is all that I can think about, namely how much I dread having to return. Even if I have 4 days off, all I can focus on is how many more days until I have to go back. I have dreams about being at work and they are more like nightmares. It is affecting my relationship with my husband and family, as they are so tired of hearing how much I dislike my job and how much I regret going into nursing.

    To give some background info on my situation, I have only been a nurse for about a year. Even prior to graduating, I started having doubts about my choice of nursing as a career. During my senior year in particular, I started really regreting my choice and thinking about other options. I originally went into nursing with the goal of becoming an NP. During my senior year, I went ahead and applied to a few schools for FNP and I was accepted. After a lot of thought, I finally decided to turn down the acceptance and work as an RN for a year to get some experience.

    I started out on a med-surg floor and I hated it. I was only there for a few months. After leaving, I found a job in the ED. At first, I was very excited and it seemed like a good nursing job. In comparision with many other bedside nursing jobs, it is a good nursing job. I get a guaranteed paid hour lunch break every shift. The staffing ratios aren't great, but they are better than at some hospitals in the area. I enjoy working with most of the staff. I like the variety of patients. My commute to work is only about 5 minutes and I even go home sometimes on my lunch breaks. Even with all of the positive aspects of the job, I still just don't like it and I'm starting to really dread going to work. I really think that I'm just not cut out for nursing. I hate working weekends, nights, holidays, and 12-hour shifts. I hate wearing scrubs. I hate performing most of the skills and tasks that go along with nursing. I really don't enjoy direct patient care.

    I just don't know what to do anymore. I applied again for admission into an FNP program and I am still waiting to hear back from the university. I'm not really even sure if that's what I want to do anymore though. In the meantime, I'm searching for another job outside of acute care, but I'm finding it very diffcult without that year of experience. Also, I'm worried if a move outside of acute care so early in my career could affect my chances at future FNP jobs if I still decide to go that route. I've also thought about getting out of nursing entirely and my husband is encouraging me to pursue a waitressing job, but it feels like such a waste after earning a 4-year degree. I'm also very frustrated that every other career that I've considered would involve me returning to earn another BS degree and then going onto graduate school. I already have enough loans from the first BS!

    Whew, thanks for letting me get all of this out. All of the stress is really starting to get to me. I would appreciate any advice or input.
    I sent you a private message.

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