My kids are sending me to the psyc. ward

[nurse-in-boots]

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!! (sorry.. having one of those days)

maybe because my hubby is gone (week #1 out of 5 mos).

maybe because they are only 2 and 5 yrs old.

maybe because Im too scared to beat the tar out of them in public

Tell ya what, I came close to tonight... Took my two "angels" out for pizza for dinner. As soon as the door opened to go inside, they take off running inside. Running toward the video games, I calmly tell them "no, lets wait untill after we eat". The 2 yr old is already sitting at the race car game, when my 5 yr old SHOVES her out of the seat. Both are screaming bloody murder. I swear everyone at Pizza Inn stopped and stared...

Then... I get a table, wrangled the angels up... and attempt to put the 2 yr old in a high chair. She starts screaming AGAIN! Legs spread wide open, flairing around. Refuses to sit in the chair. She wants to sit in the real chair. No big deal youd think, but she wont sit there either. She constantly gets up and runs around. Hence the need to STRAP HER DOWN.

She still refuses, so I give in (tired of making a scene). She takes one bite of pizza, and starts running around the table in circles. Im PLEADING with her to please sit and eat. MORE SCREAMING!

UGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!! My 5 yr old just sits there and laughs. I felt like crying. Completley lost my appitite, start nagging the 5 yr old to hurry and eat so we can leave. I am completely embarrased by now. Felt like crawling under the table. Complete strangers were patting me on the back as they left. Telling me Im a trooper... blah blah blah.

Now that we are home... My 2 yr old sneakes the whole 1/2 gallon of ice cream into her room and is eating it/smearing on the carpet.

I NEED A VACATION FROM THE KIDS ALREADY. ONLY BEEN 1 WEEK WITHOUT HELP FROM HUBBY.... ONLY 2 MORE MONTHS TO GO. I swear as you all as my witnesses that I will NEVER take these children out to eat again.

Please tell me Im not alone. Please give me hope that most kids are like this. Please give the the dream that I will once again, one day, get to sit down for a nice dinner in public, and actually enjoy myself. (p.s. will I have to wait untill they are 18 and OUT OF MY HOUSE?)

Im sending the kids to bed and having a beer. Thank you for letting me vent.

[nimbex, RN]

PS., if the above advice does not work... I'll visit you in the psyc. ward.

[nimbex, RN]

PS., if the above advice does not work... I'll visit you in the psyc. ward.

[Liddle Noodnik]

Originally posted by nurse-in-boots

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!

I feel for ya girl! I had the same trouble with my Thomas and his father was off somewhere drinking for a year and a half and having a great time (well, not REALLY, but I sure did resent having to do it alone!) I learned NOT to even eat at the same time as my son it was that bad! I would feed him first, love him to death (just about) and make sure he was about to pass out before I would eat (that desire to kill you were talking about? That is what I felt when after ALL that he STILL interfered with my meal!)

Take heart, mine is going to be 16 Thursday and he STILL makes me crazy! Altho' I CAN take him out in public to eat now and he doesn't scream quite as loudly...

[Liddle Noodnik]

Originally posted by nurse-in-boots

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!

I feel for ya girl! I had the same trouble with my Thomas and his father was off somewhere drinking for a year and a half and having a great time (well, not REALLY, but I sure did resent having to do it alone!) I learned NOT to even eat at the same time as my son it was that bad! I would feed him first, love him to death (just about) and make sure he was about to pass out before I would eat (that desire to kill you were talking about? That is what I felt when after ALL that he STILL interfered with my meal!)

Take heart, mine is going to be 16 Thursday and he STILL makes me crazy! Altho' I CAN take him out in public to eat now and he doesn't scream quite as loudly...

[zudy]

nurse-in-boots, I know just how you feel, my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself". It really does get better! At that age, when I wanted to take them "out to eat" I would usually go pick up burgers and picnic at a nearby park. that way they could be messy, run around , scream, and burn off a little energy. Then dump them in a bath with all their bath toys till they were prunes. THAT would usally get them tired enough to go on to bed(but not always!). Hang in there! And come here and vent when you need to.

[zudy]

nurse-in-boots, I know just how you feel, my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself". It really does get better! At that age, when I wanted to take them "out to eat" I would usually go pick up burgers and picnic at a nearby park. that way they could be messy, run around , scream, and burn off a little energy. Then dump them in a bath with all their bath toys till they were prunes. THAT would usally get them tired enough to go on to bed(but not always!). Hang in there! And come here and vent when you need to.

[Snakum]

I remember what this can be like, though mine (both boys) weren't as rowdy as most, thank heavens. It has been my experience that once they hit 13 or 14 and you're facing all sorts of new problems, you'll look back wistfully at the toddler stages.

Just take pleasure in knowing that your sweet "revenge" will come when they grow up and have children of their own!!!

My poor old Mom always wished this one on me, because I was an absolute TERROR of an adolescent (anger problems and having the wrong friends). Unfortunately for her, my sons are fine young men who've never had to learn the life's lessons the hard way, like I did. I have one headed for college this Fall (18yo)and the younger one (16yo) will most likely enter the ministry. Just awesome!

I tell my poor Mother, who worships her grandkids, that "Sometimes life just ain't fair."

Minh

[Snakum]

I remember what this can be like, though mine (both boys) weren't as rowdy as most, thank heavens. It has been my experience that once they hit 13 or 14 and you're facing all sorts of new problems, you'll look back wistfully at the toddler stages.

Just take pleasure in knowing that your sweet "revenge" will come when they grow up and have children of their own!!!

My poor old Mom always wished this one on me, because I was an absolute TERROR of an adolescent (anger problems and having the wrong friends). Unfortunately for her, my sons are fine young men who've never had to learn the life's lessons the hard way, like I did. I have one headed for college this Fall (18yo)and the younger one (16yo) will most likely enter the ministry. Just awesome!

I tell my poor Mother, who worships her grandkids, that "Sometimes life just ain't fair."

Minh

[Snakum]

my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself"

He should have gone and done something else to himself ... sort of 'be fruitful and multiply', if you know what I mean.

I adopted my boys when their mother and I married, and I'm the only father they've ever known (poor kids even look like me). When we divorced, the thought never entered my mind that I'd go do my own thing. I made a commitment ... and I honored it ... end of story. I'm not special, I just did what I had to do. Fathers who bail out on families are scumbags ... period.

Minh

[Snakum]

my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself"

He should have gone and done something else to himself ... sort of 'be fruitful and multiply', if you know what I mean.

I adopted my boys when their mother and I married, and I'm the only father they've ever known (poor kids even look like me). When we divorced, the thought never entered my mind that I'd go do my own thing. I made a commitment ... and I honored it ... end of story. I'm not special, I just did what I had to do. Fathers who bail out on families are scumbags ... period.

Minh

[purplemania, BSN, RN]

I was shopping with my friend, also a nurse, and her 2 yr old when the baby threw a tantrum. She picked up the baby without a word, walked outside, got in the car and went home. When the child calmed down and begged to go to the store again, her Mom said "We will go when you are big enough to control yourself". I will never forget the control MOM showed, which was a big lesson to the child as well. Of course, without another adult to provide babysitting, etc. this method would be hard to practice

[purplemania, BSN, RN]

I was shopping with my friend, also a nurse, and her 2 yr old when the baby threw a tantrum. She picked up the baby without a word, walked outside, got in the car and went home. When the child calmed down and begged to go to the store again, her Mom said "We will go when you are big enough to control yourself". I will never forget the control MOM showed, which was a big lesson to the child as well. Of course, without another adult to provide babysitting, etc. this method would be hard to practice