Ok, here is my two cents on this.....
I recently had one of these pts. (The pt. wasn't really ICU, but Neurology just loves the care their pt's get in the ICU so much, they hate to move them when it's time......but that's another posting!
Now, if a person is needy because they are truly sick and scared, or if they just flat out don't know what they're doing, then I'll do as much as I can and it doesn't bother me a bit.
However, in this particular case, the person (also an RN) was being particularly demanding, and when she did have demands, she wanted you there "right now". But when they are needy and manipulative like this person was, I DO NOT put up with it. I kindly, yet firmly, let her know that this behavior was unacceptable and we weren't going to put up with it. Well, she finally chilled out after that and as of the next day, hadn't give either of the nurses after me any problems! (She requested to not have me back.....thank goodness)
I also agree that feeding these behaviors does the patient no good at all! The way I look at it is this....I'm a nurse, not your waitress, personal assistant, slave, etc. and I refuse to be treated like a 2nd class citizen by these people. So, if you do put up with it, then shame on you!