keep my day shift on a floor i dont have a real intrest in or go to nights on my dream fl?

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im currently working on a floor thats neuro specialized. just got a position on days! but im not truly interested in neuro. i have an opportunity to go to my dream floor on peds but its a night shift and theres a wait list of 6 yrs to get on to days :wideyed:

idk what to do, i hated nights, i never saw my husband and im a newly wed. and i would always be grumpy and short fused bc i wasnt sleeping well and i was always tired on my days off.

my husband says in time when we start a family of our own, where i work wont matter as much bc i'll have my home life that will take priority (which i do understand), he says that it's only 3x a week that i work that i should just stay where i am.

if we can afford it in the future i'd like to be a stay at home mom or atleast work per diem...but idk what to do stay on days or go to nights

any advice? thanks in advance!

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my husband says in time when we start a family of our own, where i work won matter bc i'll have my home life that will take priority, he says that it's only 3x a week that i work that i should just stay where i am.

I would say based on your post you do better on days physicially... but this statement comes across as so condescending that if I was you, I would take the peds position on nights just to spite your husband. What you do and if you're happy at work DOES matter. I wouldn't stay with someone who thought otherwise, but that's just me.

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Only you can decide whether which job you would prefer. Both provide good opportunities. You simply have to choose which choice gives you the consequences that you would rather live with.

That is what life is about -- making choices. The choices you make add up to produce your life.

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It would depend on how career driven you are. I know that PEDs is your dream position, but if you plan on having a family and only occasionally work then I'd stay on days and forget working nights if it is not your thing.

On the other hand if you love being a nurse and are thinking you want to work hard at your career and want more then anything to work years at PEDS then go for the job.

Either way is right for what you want in life. My sister in law was a nurse for less then 10 years after being married. After child number 3 she quit the hospital and worked at a retirement home. Now she has 6 kids and has hung up her nursing shoes for now. I believe she is keeping up with what she has to to keep her licence valid but she is not regretting at all quitting nursing for now.

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You've already said you don't tolerate nights well. You've done it before and know you were always tired and grumpy. I doubt being your "dream job" would change that how you feel on your days off.

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I would think that many new positons would require a time on nights. So I guess it depends on how big your dreams are!

Only you can make the decision, personally I would stay on days based on how you feel on nights and plans to start a family.

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I'm so lucky, nights is my dream job. I would go kicking and screaming and having a 3 y/o temper tantrum if I had to go to days.:p

Hubby would prefer me on days, but it is NOT his call.

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Stick with days

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im currently working on a floor thats neuro specialized. just got a position on days! but im not truly interested in neuro. i have an opportunity to go to my dream floor on peds but its a night shift and theres a wait list of 6 yrs to get on to days :wideyed:

idk what to do, i hated nights, i never saw my husband and im a newly wed. and i would always be grumpy and short fused bc i wasnt sleeping well and i was always tired on my days off.

my husband says in time when we start a family of our own, where i work wont matter as much bc i'll have my home life that will take priority (which i do understand), he says that it's only 3x a week that i work that i should just stay where i am.

if we can afford it in the future i'd like to be a stay at home mom or atleast work per diem...but idk what to do stay on days or go to nights

any advice? thanks in advance!

This may be unpopular, but I think you should stay on the neuro floor on days. You've already had a bad experience with nights, and I actually don't think it's too much to ask from your husband that you see each other once in a while. Chalk it up to a marriage sacrifice.

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This may be unpopular, but I think you should stay on the neuro floor on days. You've already had a bad experience with nights, and I actually don't think it's too much to ask from your husband that you see each other once in a while. Chalk it up to a marriage sacrifice.

Thank you

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Either stay on days or, "Honey, I want to set myself up to be able to be marketable for peds after the kids are in school so I'm going to dedicate one year to it, I'll be mature about the temporary challenging schedule without taking my grumpiness out on you and will make time and energy for our relationship."

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