Family-centered care is the model that my hospital follows. We don't have visiting hours; families can stay all night if they'd like. For the most part, I like the model and appreciate the information and relationship with patient's families, but some times, it can a nightmare.
Is it ever ok to tell patient's family member that they are being inappropriate and unrealistic? I admitted a pt at 1930 and left her room only 3 times. Once was to get meds for her and the other 2 times were to check on my other patients. Each time, the daughter would call the nurese's station or come looking for me. Once she called my wireless directly and said I had to come back because her mom needed the bathroom. It took me about 90 seconds to get there and then the daughter starts yelling about how I took too long and never should leave in the first place. The mother was so anxious that I called for ativan for her, and the daughter refused to let me give it to her so the patient refused it based on the daughter. The mother was so anxious an hour later that the covering MD had to come up to the unit and tell her that the mom needed ativan right away. It worked too. Imagine that! The pt was also in RAF so I need to push IV lopressor twice and although I told the pt and dtr that bedrest was required with such a fast HR, they demanded that she be able to walk to the bathroom. The pt ended up throwing a fit like 5 year old (which is why she needed ativan), and even refused a bedside commode. The situation was out of hand and they were incredibly uncooperative.
I'll stop ranting, but how are difficult famililes best handled. Am I really supposed to endure 4 hours of this with a smile on my face? What are the best ways to respond to demanding families who clearly don't understand how hospitals work even after you try to explain it?