im selfish? hmmm

canesdukegirl, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

You know, I just came in from cutting the grass and my whole neighborhood is now over populated with kids. I cannot get one moment's peace in my backyard. The thing is, lots of these young parents do not watch their kids, or each other's kids especially when they are under 5 and have the total run of the neighborhood. I am absolutely not going to go running out to keep one of thier kids from getting stuck or hurt somewhere. It's like these parents are just hoping someone else will do the job for them. BTW, upper middle class neighborhood, where many of the young moms don't even work. It's like they are afraid the grass in their yards will kill them if they actually step outside on to it! Ugh. Never will I enjoy the summer in my own backyard again.
Sorry that was an "off-side rant".

Clear, sometimes I think you and I share the same brain! I was in the grocery store the other day and 2 kids were running around playing tag. I had both hands full (went in to get one thing, ended up remembering a bunch more stuff I had to get-you know how it is) and was straining to keep it all in my grasp. These kids decided to run in a circle around me, using me as their barrier. I looked over at their Mom who was walking a few steps behind them, and she started laughing. I said, "I am about to drop everything on the floor. Could you please call your kids back to you?" Shockingly, her reply was, "Just tell them to move out of your way." Ummm...how 'bout YOU discipline your OWN kids, hmmmm? Just last week, one of my friends came over for dinner. She brought her 5 year old son with her. I don't mind this kid-he is really funny and surprisingly, I like to play with him (for short periods of time). He dropped his red drink on my oriental rug. I immediately went to start blotting it up. I expected my friend to come over to help clean up the mess, the spatter, etc. I look over at the kitchen, and she is just WATCHING ME!! I didn't know what to say. She didn't even offer to get him another drink. I had to do it. After I calmed down from being so irritated, I decided to make light of it by joking around. She said that it was SO nice to be able to come over and relax, not worry about anything and have someone else take over "kid duty" for a while. :eek: Dude, seriously?

OK, hijack over. Sorry, OP!

OhioCCRN, MSN, NP · Jun 12, 2011

Clear, sometimes I think you and I share the same brain! I was in the grocery store the other day and 2 kids were running around playing tag. I had both hands full (went in to get one thing, ended up remembering a bunch more stuff I had to get-you know how it is) and was straining to keep it all in my grasp. These kids decided to run in a circle around me, using me as their barrier. I looked over at their Mom who was walking a few steps behind them, and she started laughing. I said, "I am about to drop everything on the floor. Could you please call your kids back to you?" Shockingly, her reply was, "Just tell them to move out of your way." Ummm...how 'bout YOU discipline your OWN kids, hmmmm? Just last week, one of my friends came over for dinner. She brought her 5 year old son with her. I don't mind this kid-he is really funny and surprisingly, I like to play with him (for short periods of time). He dropped his red drink on my oriental rug. I immediately went to start blotting it up. I expected my friend to come over to help clean up the mess, the spatter, etc. I look over at the kitchen, and she is just WATCHING ME!! I didn't know what to say. She didn't even offer to get him another drink. I had to do it. After I calmed down from being so irritated, I decided to make light of it by joking around. She said that it was SO nice to be able to come over and relax, not worry about anything and have someone else take over "kid duty" for a while. Dude, seriously?
OK, hijack over. Sorry, OP!

:yeah:

I just have to say....

That is one of the reasons i don't like children...

I wish more people would just DISCIPLINE their little ones....

Its hard to be all 'oooh soo cute' when the kids are running circles around you and being completely obnoxious and the PARENTS think its cute...

:eek: there is NOTHING cute about an undisciplined child. Its not all 'oh they are so precocious or sooo confident' they have NO discipline.

whew... done....

netglow, ASN, RN · Jun 13, 2011

Canes OMG were we separated at birth?!?!

Get this, one of the new families just decided to drop by at 2200 in the dark a few months ago to introduce themselves! What? SHE brought two of her little ones. Fine, until the 5 yr old boy began swiping things off of shelves and before I knew it he had a knife from the kitchen. I hopped out of my chair and ran to get it from him. All the while, mom, late 20s or so AND anorexic (actually thought she was one of the kids, LOL), sat in her chair and did not lift a finger to manager her kid. UGH. I swear it was as if she brought them over for me to watch for her. Turns out her husband, whom I've never met is a young doc. AN ER DOC. Figures! could have put that one together. As far as I'm concerned she can scrape her own kids off of the pavement. ER Doc trumps RN in the "hood" (LOL) I ain't running outside to help NO-body.

(SO THERE!!!)

...Double dog hijack done!

Penelope_Pitstop, BSN, RN · Jun 13, 2011

That is one of the reasons i don't like children...
I wish more people would just DISCIPLINE their little ones

See, the thing is with me, I LOVE kids.

Can't stand parents, though...

kakamegamama · Jun 13, 2011

A child will "go" as far as the parent allows them to. It seems from some of the examples, the "problem children" really aren't the children, but the parents who don't discipline/expect respect for others & selves/etc. from their children. And, those same children will sadly probably grow up to have no respect for others or themselves. As to selfishness at not having children....only an individual can make that decision for themselves.