i need your help - page 2
I took this post off due to all of the bad comments. i was getting instead of the help i was looking for. thank you. to all of the people that gave words of kindness .... Read More
Jul 16, '03Oh Man, I'm hysterically laughing, not at your expense VeeDot,
John, you are one funny dude!
I think VeeDot mentioned in one of the above posts that this person lived with her a short while, was not being a very nice house guest and thus, VeeDot booted her out. After that, this whole business about cheating started up.
Jul 16, '03In VeeDots defense I live in Pittsburgh, PA and discrimination against minorities and women happens a lot more than anyone here would like to admit. While I don't think that someone should automatically assume they are being discriminated against for everything, none of us can really say.
I actually had a meeting once with the Nursing School Advisor who is an older African American woman. There was a guy in front of me waiting for his turn to speak with her and when she came to the waiting area to get him, he took one look at her and very loudly yelled in a snotty tone "no one told me she was 80 and black".
I would have never thought anyone would be so small minded to say something like that. Especially someone that was close to my age (27).
Jul 16, '03Why the insult:
- Because we are being lied to.
- No school is going to throw you out - less than a month from graduation beacause of any of the following:
(Using veedot's excuses)
1. You are black.
2. Someone said you cheated.
3. They plain don't like you.
4. The school director and admin have something against you.
5. The hearing is unfair.
- Add that the accuser lives with you. That by itself would be a red flag to any administrator as a reason not to believe the accuser.
- Add to the above that veedot writes like a two year old.
- Makes me wonder if we don't have another "Mario" and if this person has mental issues or such.
- Guys/Gals, I have to just plain out and say that I think there is ALOT more to this story than we are being told.
- Bottom line -- we are not being told the truth. And when that happens -- I get ticked off -- just like Judge Judy.
Jul 16, '03I understand that, but why not just let it go? Just like I am. There are holes and I know what you mean about Mario, but it's sorta catty to say "and she writes like a two year old"
Don't mean to flame, but I just can't understand why people put each other down.
Have a good day John!
Jul 16, '03I thought it was Mario !
But, I thought , just in case it isn't, I'll give the best advice I can.
There are holes.
I think it's a stupid mistake.....
and an expensive one.
Jul 16, '03Originally posted by passing thru
I think it's a stupid mistake.....
and an expensive one.
Or one of my favorite quotes:
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
Jul 16, '03John, please learn to comprehend what you read first before you start flaming. Thank you
Jul 16, '03well sorry that some feel that my writing looks like i cant but to he up front im not use to typing or talking over the internet and for judge judy person i dont have any thing bad to say to you at all cause as i can tell you didn,t fully read my story and of course thats not the whole story i tried to make it very short but just put in the basic facts but no i didn,t cheat and yes i got kicked out one month away from graduation for what i told yawl and for you to be so ignortant to say that im trying to blame it just on the racism thats totally not true i would never say that if i didnt feel that thats what happen to me and for everyone else thank you for your kind words they were very well needed
Jul 16, '03because i feel that i know i can pass i was a very good student with good grades and all the last month of the program was just going to job fairs i got all the training i just was asking did any one with knowledge of this could answer that question
Jul 16, '03veedot, I'm not sure about your state but in Texas no one is allowed to sit for the NCLEX without completing the required number of hours and graduating from an accredited program. There are no exceptions even if you feel you have the knowledge to pass the exam. Hopefully you will be able to find another school where you can start again. More than likely however, since you left on bad terms from your previous school, you will have to start at the beginning. I am unsure as to whether your grades and coursework will be "credited" by the old school to transfer to the new. Have you considered checking to see if there is a community college program there? They are MUCH less expensive, same length of time, and many times they offer a more quality education than those expensive schools. That may be an option.
As for the school loan, it must be paid back. The government requires it (if it's a Stafford or other type of government loan) and will default you for non-payment. This can lead to garnishment of wages, law suits, etc. The best thing to do is speak with the loan office (there is usually a 1-800 # to call or speak with the financial aid desk at your school for contact info) to determine payment arrangements. Most loans agree to a period of time of six months to a year before payments begin to allow you time to find work and get settled. There is also the option of paying in a hardship status. This is where your payments would begin at a low amount and steadily increase over time. This allows you to work and pay more as your pay increases.
As terrible as you feel, you need to focus on the future and what you can do to redeem yourself. Regardless of whether you cheated or not, your reputation is tarnished and you are now labeled. You will have to work to gain the trust of any future schools and employers. If the other person did in fact lie, their deceit will come back to them and repay them.
I wish you the best and hope you are able to come to a positive resolution with all of this.
Jul 16, '03thank you for your advice. it was very soothing to my heart .to know there are some good hearted people out here .to lend there voice when needed.