Don't bring your misery to work!

  1. THIS IS BOTH A VENT AND A RANT SO PLEASE TAKE IT IN THE SPIRIT IN WHICH IT IS INTENDED.

    Please can we all just leave our misery at the door before we come to work. We all know that person who has a angry miserable affect who comes and complains non-stop about the assignment and the job in general. If it's that bad just quit! Life is far to short to be so miserable all the time. It's even worse when you try to take others into your misery. And if you don't think your patients feel it your fooling yourself

    I have a number of issues related to PTSD and depression and I'll admit there are days that I'd just as soon stay under the covers, But when I go to work I put my game face on and I put forth a positive attitude. I work adolescent psych which is an extremely difficult specialty. I often have 15 or more patients under my care and let's not forget that with kids the family is a patient too. We do patient centered trauma informed care and believe me we are not just sitting all shift. Every shift works hard and deserves consideration from the following and preceding shift. Please be on time, be ready to work and put a smile on your face.

    WHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!! Deep cleansing breath - time for a nice hot cup of Trader Joe's Herbal calming infusion tea that my son bought me for Christmas. I feel much better now.


    Hppy
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  2. 31 Comments

  3. by   CrunchRN
    I agree completely.
  4. by   canoehead
    If I had to herd 15 traumatized adolescents, plus their families, I'd be cranky too. You're doing the work of at least three men.
  5. by   hppygr8ful
    Quote from canoehead
    If I had to herd 15 traumatized adolescents, plus their families, I'd be cranky too. You're doing the work of at least three men.
    And they are all menstruating females!
  6. by   canoehead
    Lawd Jesus, save us!
  7. by   Davey Do
    Quote from hppygr8ful
    Please can we all just leave our misery at the door before we come to work.
    When I worked in CD tx back in the mid to late '80's the director of the program advised us, "When you come through those doors, leave your personal life outside of them, because when you come in here, you're 'on'!"

    A tough nut to crack, getting outside of yourself, but a good guideline to attempt to follow.
  8. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    Hppy, AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!

    Truer words were never spoken!!!! The job is hard enough with dealing with the constant whining, backbiting and gossip that goes with being a nurse sometimes. AMEN!!!!
  9. by   Been there,done that
    Leaving our misery at the door.. is an expectation of our profession.

    Peace to you.
  10. by   Wuzzie
    Yeah I don't understand why folks think it's okay to foist their bad moods on others. Sorry, just no. If I'm having a rough day the worst thing I do is get quiet and maybe stay to myself a little bit but just because my day isn't great doesn't give me the right to make other's miserable too. Selfish twits.
  11. by   CrunchRN
    It is actually a relief to leave your carp at the door and go do the job you are paid to do and do it well.
  12. by   NightNerd
    98% agree with this; EVERYONE has a harder time when one person allows their negative feelings to rule the way they work. However, it is not always that easy to "just quit if it's that bad." There are many people who get stuck in a rut just trying too support themselves, and it's hard to see a way out sometimes when this miserable job is how you can eat every day. Even when people work really hard to move on, it still takes time. How many of us are pushing ourselves through BSN, MSN, and DNP programs, all the while just trying to get through the next shift without losing our cool? Even though I'm not getting paid to be therapeutic with my coworkers, I try to at least be understanding. Life is hard for all of us, often more than we immediately recognize.

    I say all of this as someone who genuinely likes my job most of the time. I do work with people like this, and it can be demoralizing, but at the same time, I'm learning to not let their negativity invade my own calm. Send their problems right back out the door with them; you're not leaving your issues with me.

    Enjoy your tea, hppygr8ful, and I hope your workplace party poopers take it down a few notches. That is never pleasant to work with!
  13. by   SpankedInPittsburgh
    I agree that everybody has a bad day occasionally. These nurses deserve support. However, if the nurse has a bad day all the time & brings it to work then they need BS called on them. We are all adults and professionals and need to carry the weight of our own decisions
  14. by   Wuzzie
    Quote from CrunchRN
    It is actually a relief to leave your carp at the door and go do the job you are paid to do and do it well.
    Personally I find it easier to leave my trout at the door!

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