i peeked at your profile and see that you've been a nurse for sev'l yrs.
i mention this because i was a bit surprised at the perplexity of family members not being at bedside.
the posts previous to mine, are all right on...in that everyone has different coping/defense mechanisms to trauma.
i've been doing hospice for many yrs, and you'd be stunned to learn how many families aren't
i believe this too, is part of one's coping strategies, that sometimes (often?) it is 'easier' to care from a distance.
whether it is r/t feeling frightened, overwhelmed, anxious...catastrophy tends to bring out our most vulnerable qualities.
i definitely agree with that it'd be helpful if you could placate the son.
every little act of love, can only be therapeutic.
now, when they start imploring for you to give that dilaudid q 10 mins, perhaps some limit-setting may be in order.
but as it stands, it is certainly a benign request that'll definitely keep dad safe, and the son at ease.
heck, you could even suggest that he do prom on dad.