Being Judgemental Doesn't It Give Nurses A Bad Rap?

[buildingmyfaith57]

isn't nurses supposed to be loving understand and caring instead of down sizing their patients,co-workers etc etc. wouldn't it explain why so places are short of help? have you see anyone who just walk off the floor because they couldn't taking anymore they just got tired of the b.s. ?

[bagladyrn, RN]

Of course I'm judgemental at times. It would be impossible not to be - being human and seeing the things we see every day. The best I personally can do is recognize when I am judging and not let it affect the quality of care I give to my patients or the way I interact with my coworkers.

[leslie :-D]

dang, how i hate these stereotypes.

i especially hate the one of nsg: the angels of mercy. ugh.

hey, i'm hot-tempered.

does that make me italian? or a redhead?

nevermind, i am a redhead. :)

but i digress.

any qualities i possess, i have earned myself and not by virtue of some silly stereotype.

leslie :balloons:

[buildingmyfaith57]

i can see giving quality care to the patients. you have to be judgemental there. but do you have to be so judgemental toward your co-workers. im serious would any you like to be around someone who is just totally mean and nasty?

[casi, ASN, RN]

i can see giving quality care to the patients. you have to be judgemental there. but do you have to be so judgemental toward your co-workers. im serious would any you like to be around someone who is just totally mean and nasty?

You'll find these kind of co-workers in any profession you go into. It's not exclusive to nursing.

[kadokin, ASN, RN]

Some nurses are so judgmental, I think they make a life just harder for themselves. I personally took many reports from people, spending half of the report time describing what kind of idiots are that particular pt's family members, and describing every tatoo on pt's body. I just don't want to waste my time on such things. I don't have a problem giving pain meds if they are prescribed and pts asks for them. I've seen nurses who would refuse to give pain meds because they decided so, and will fight with the pt because of that, and will make their day a hell. I never understood it. Maybe, its a control issue for some, who feels its the only thing they can control in a powerless nursing, I don't know.

And, forgive me for bringing this up, but I have witnessed a small subset of nurses who use judgmental/critical behavior to secure their own positions by making others look more fallible than they are. It seems supervisory personnel tend to eat this sort of thing up and are always willing to listen to a chronically "squeaky wheel" rather than take the time to find out what is REALLY going on. Sorry, I understand a supervisor's job is difficult and they have way too many things to do, but I have seen this happen too many times.

[LydiaNN]

i can see giving quality care to the patients. you have to be judgemental there. but do you have to be so judgemental toward your co-workers. im serious would any you like to be around someone who is just totally mean and nasty?

Surely in your many years of experience, not all nurses have been totally mean and nasty. What you are calling being ''judgmental'' may in fact be an RN delegating work or evaluating work performances. Or it could be a genuinely unpleasant disposition. I am unaware of any code of ethics that says nurses are ''supposed'' to be loving, particularly towards one another. What we are ''supposed'' to be is professional.

[PANurseRN1]

I'm not even sure what the point of this thread is.

[ortess1971]

I also think that there is an unreasonable portrayal of nurses as "angels of mercy", who don't ever think of themselves, only of others. We're human and nursing is rewarding but brutal some days. That being said, I have run across some judgemental nurses(but I think whatever career they were in, they'd be just as bad). Every job has people who are just PITAs