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Specializes in CTICU.

Just found out my mum has malignant mesothelioma. It is a very aggressive and nasty cancer, and she'll be lucky to get 1-2 years. She had shortness of breath and got admitted with a pleural effusion when they found the ca.

I am such a mummy's girl, always have been. It is so hard to be all the way across the world and totally helpless. I am flying home Saturday - my boss and school have been wonderful in letting me cut out with no notice.

Don't really know why I'm posting... just sitting here by myself and thinking how I'm not ready to lose my mum. Are you ever?

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I am sooo sorry.. make this time with her the best you can.. and I hope she remains pain free. Prayers to her and all the family!

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Specializes in psyche, dialysis, community health.

I'm sorry to hear it. That sucks. I wish I could put it more gracefully than that, but... well... yeah. There are much less healthy responses to impending grief and uncertainty than posting on the boards. We go where we feel supported. If that's here, perfect.

You're never "ready" to lose anyone. And they're not lost yet. You're doing the right thing flying back there. I lost my Dad about 2 months ago to a massive MI. As of 2 weeks ago, I could finally look at a radiodye without freezing up. I could finally look at ST elevations and not catch myself holding my breath. Go see your Mom. That's what's ultimately gonna answer the swirl of questions slamdancing around your in your head right now.

This is gonna sound ironic but - Dont let anybody tell you how or what you're supposed to feel like. Just be there.

I'll keep both y'all in my prayers,

dig

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Specializes in DOU.

I'm so sorry. She must be quite a wonderful lady to have raised such a devoted and caring daughter. My thoughts are with you both.

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Specializes in tele, oncology.

I'm so sorry to hear of this. I'm glad to hear that you're able to go and be with her. Hugs to you both.

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Specializes in School Nursing.

so sorry for such bad news. believe in miracles. we have a miracle working god.

you and your mom will be in my prayers.

praiser :heartbeat

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Specializes in Dialysis.

I cannot imagine what your going through but it's good your going to see her. I will pray for you and your family.

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Specializes in cardiac/critical care/ informatics.

I am so sorry to hear of your news. My died 2 months after being dx with Lung Cancer.

My advice spend as much time as you can, and talk about her wishes and desires. Don't think it is too early or you have enough time. Because you really don't know.

Feel free to PM me.

((((((HUGS)))))) and prayers for you and your mom.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your dear mother. No matter our age, it is always very difficult when our wonderful Mom is ill. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you and her! :heartbeat

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Specializes in Medical and general practice now LTC.

I am so sorry to hear this, I don't think we are ever ready to loose a close member

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I'm sorry to hear that:( My prayers are with you and your mom.

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