Is attending a patient's funeral overstepping "the" boundary? - page 7
by BostonTerrierLoverRN 13,184 Views | 67 Comments
I have a young man that has frequented the ER, and this small hospital (pediatric), that I saw come into this world, and fight for the short time he had. There was a small incident with EMT/Paramedics, NO ONE knows what... Read More
- 1Apr 29, '12 by PinkmeganQuote from UK-HCAWhat a load of rubbish!!!! I am almost a professional mourner after working as a nurse since 1989.Here in the UK it is considered absolutely inappropriate to attend a patient's funeral. We are supposed to remain professional at all times and once the patient has left the building, that's it; no further contact with that family is allowed as it would be unprofessional.
Not that I like it though!
We don't attend random funerals but, if I have built up a relationship with a patient, and their family, I would feel extremely guilty if I did not attend. At most of the funerals that I, and my colleagues on our unit, attend, positive mentions are made about us! Sometimes we are asked if we will speak at the funerals.
I don't know where you work but, wherever it is, I feel that you should consider your future there as it sounds to be a cold and uncaring environment.
- 1Apr 29, '12 by caliotter3I was deeply disturbed when I finally found out that a patient had passed. I told the staffing coordinator that they should have informed the nurses. They did not even tell us when the Director passed away. It was like it was a big, deep secret that needed to be kept. I found that to be deplorable and a reflection on the individuals involved.
- 1Apr 29, '12 by Lynx25I have gone to several, enough that I went out and bought my "funeral clothes".
I generally stay towards the back, give my condolences to the family members that I recognize, and try not to attract attention.
The family members have always, without fail- really appreciated the gesture. I have one family who STILL visits every once in a while, and the daughter hunts me down to give me a hug each time.
- 1Apr 29, '12 by blondy2061hI went to one funeral of a frequent flier guy that was my age and whom I had many mutual friends with outside of work (though I was never personally friends with him). Many of my coworkers went, but it felt very awkward and it's not likely something I will do again.