Anyone have a coworker like this?

  1. That has no tact, for lack of a better phrasing?

    When she asked why i was down last month, i'd said that me and the b/f had broke up. She then proceeds to tell me about her perfect 30 year marriage, then talks about her son's recent engagement.

    Even though she KNEW another co-worker had had a miscarriage a couple of days ago, her third one, she proceeded to talk about her two grandchildren, and then CONSTANTLY talked about the DIL that is expecting twins right TO this person who had the miscarriage.

    Luckily she's PRN, because i couldn't stand THIS full time.
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  3. by   bethin
    You just described a coworker of mine! She is also PRN so we don't have to deal with her too much. You can be having a private conversation with someone and she will jump in with her opinion. If I had wanted her opinion I would have asked.

    I have learned to just ignore her when she starts talking because she never has anything important to say. She's crude, uncaring, and selfish. Thank God she's PRN!
  4. by   LPN1974
    No tact or understanding there.

    I don't have a co-worker like THAT, but I do have one that will NOT shut up. She's new to our facility, and talks constantly about HER experiences at other jobs she's had, where she's been a nurse.

    The rest of us will be trying to work, busy with whatever we're doing, charting, doing nurse's notes, passing meds, etc, and she's talking about other stuff that happened from another facility.

    Just SHUDDUP, already, will ya??? Gets on me nerves!!! I've got too much to do and think about in the here and now to be listening to this junk.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    talks constantly about HER experiences at other jobs she's had, where she's been a nurse.
    We have one of those too. She's nicknamed BTDT (been there, done that).
  6. by   student4ever
    We have a nurse like that... not only does she have no tact, but she's loopy... she goes on and on and on and on and on about meaningless drivel, to the nurses she's giving report to, to the docs, etc. and forget to mention the important stuff... and she brings in new forms from her "other hospitals" and say "These are protocol everywhere else, you all should be using them," and tries to make them a permanent part of the chart! Uh.... no no no no no!!! And then when we act slightly annoyed because a task is taking so long because of her antics, she gets sooooo fake offended, and says stuff like, "have I done something to make you angry at me? You seem so distant lately." We work in a small, 19 bed ER that serves 60K plus patients a year... very very busy!!!! We don't have time for all this drama and annoyance! Thank GOD she is a traveler... we're counting down the 27 days until her contract is up!!! And she has the gall to go around complaining about how she loves it here, and doesn't understand why we didn't extend her contract when she wanted to, because obviously we need the help since we're still hiring new nurses and travellers. UGH!@!!!
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  9. by   webblarsk
    I really despise people like that. Its hard to believe that they don't know what they are saying is hurtful and inappropriate at the time. I've come across people like that and just can't believe their lack of tact. Luckily I don't work with anyone like that right now.
  10. by   yvonnemuse
    I think anyone who has been in the field of nursing for long has worked with a less than desireable person who has no social etiquette. I always have a better shift when I work with someone I like (and trust). I used to be less than obvious about my annoyance with coworkers who never seem to shut up about irrelevant topics. As I have matured , I realize I have two choices:I can gently AND tactfully point out transgressions on their parts ,suggesting ways they would be a improved workmate or I can keep my mouth shut and stew. Not all people intentionally are inconsiderate.Our backgrounds differ vastly and perhaps this is one area they never had guidance in. Personally I always thought I was an extreme introvert, but nursing forced me to be public. I made so many embarrassing statements compounded by even clumsier apologies that I still cringe. I had to LEARN social graces. I wish I had been taught a few more as a child but a few patient people assisted me to read, guage and respond to the situation. There is always the chance these people are just plain rude and self centered, in which case..its a personality trait..hard to alter.
  11. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    That has no tact, for lack of a better phrasing?

    When she asked why i was down last month, i'd said that me and the b/f had broke up. She then proceeds to tell me about her perfect 30 year marriage, then talks about her son's recent engagement.

    Even though she KNEW another co-worker had had a miscarriage a couple of days ago, her third one, she proceeded to talk about her two grandchildren, and then CONSTANTLY talked about the DIL that is expecting twins right TO this person who had the miscarriage.

    Luckily she's PRN, because i couldn't stand THIS full time.
    Marie, sorry to hear about your break up.

    In regards to your thought-less coworker... sounds like she is a very insecure person. I wonder if someone has just come flat out & told her she is only making everyone else's troubles worse by sounding off with her bed of roses, which has no thorns?
  12. by   TazziRN
    Does she do this with patients too? If yes, it would be something that should be brought up to your nurse manager.
  13. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I don't think she does, she just asks the standard preop questions.
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