In 11 years as a nurse, I've had rough shifts, jobs I wanted to quit, etc.
But now I'm wondering why I ever went into nursing in the first place.
I love critical care, but I can't stand dealing with the families.
I work in an ICU that's frequently turned into a tele holding area with long term mrsa, failure to thrive pts that have nowhere to go.. That along with the 24/7 open visitation policy has me looking for another job. I'm so tired of taking care of critical unstable patients while being expected to also entertain the families.
I'm even more tired of the families that go along with the above mentioned long term placement problems that demand ICU care and attention from the staff long after the patient has been downgraded. By this point in the hospital stay, the families have become too comfortable with the system and are much more of a distraction than families of the critically ill. The physical enviornment and visibility of the staff nurses station in the ICU (as opposed to on a med-surg floor) encourages more interruptions by family IMHO.
The last straw came when I tried to set limits with an unreasonable family member; she complained about me to the manager. The manager backed me up on most everything she complained about, but I ended up being written up over an incident that had happened 3 weeks earlier (absolutely no harm to the patient) As a result of the write up, my first in 8 years, I was denied a transfer to the PACU.(the PACU mgr is still willing to hire me after hearing the whole story
, I just have to wait out the 90 days) Although I wrote my side of the story on the counseling form, I also have learned the hard way that there is no grievance procedure except for 'unfair dismissal'.
I am so burnt out..And so desperate to find a part time critical care position that has limited contact with visitors... Thank you all for listening.
Apr 4, '07
I soooo feel your pain. I took a 3 month LOA to rest my nerves, went back PRN, within a couple of months I quit. If family members would only realize that we are doing the best we can they could make our lives so much easier. The public has no clue of what go through and medical shows on TV don't help one bit. I'm 51 y/o and have finally come to realize that my days of hospital nursing are over. I'm retired from hospital nursing as I like to call it. After 31 years of doing what I loved, that part of my life is now over. I am enjoying home health. I have issues there too, just this week we changed to pay per visit, but it's going to work out. God Bless Hon, take care of yourself.
Last edit by DutchgirlRN on Apr 4, '07