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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    Thanks, everyone. I am still experiencing stress induced mental fog, and I have an even greater fear of starting over. I know I am not ready to start over yet. We can afford another month or so without my income. I'm am getting all the help I can, and working on rebuilding my self confidence. I'm so happy to have support on here������������
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    This is old, but I wanted to share the update. Manager went out on leave in Sept. Now resigned on disability. Director resigned, neither replaced, 2 of the 3 immediate coworkers are vying for the mamnagers spot. Both are horrible choices. In December, I gave 2 weeks noticed and started another job. It was a challenge learning a new hospital's charting and computer system from scratch. I didn't learn like the 20'something new grads in my orientation, class, but I got it with time. Just when I was about to be assigned to night shift, a huge family crisis exploded. My drug abusing 27 year old son started back with threats and thefts. I didn't feel safe at home. I stayed at a friends house. I couldn't focus or concentrate at work. I mentioned the situation to my preceptor. His answer went like, ' home problems can suck, but we are responsible for lives'. I called the EAP, and used every resource and then some. I did not pass the probation. 2 days after I handed in my badge, my son overdosed in the bathroom at home and died, his middle brother found him. He did not carry out his threat to do it live on FB and implicate his brother for putting him up to it. When he made that threat, he spent a week in a psych facility, and my mental health took a nosedive. My confidence is in the toilet, I lost a son and a job in the same week. I have applications out, but am not being aggressive job hunting. I kick myself for taking such a big risk with the familie's livelihood. I have been advised to take time off..couple months, before working again. I'm considering home health, as SSI disability for psych issues does not look promising. This is just the continuation of 10 years of dealing with the cycle of addiction in the family. We tried everything and then some. Encouragement needed, advice welcome, but I'm done being 'yelled' at.
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    Kooky, i didn't ask the manager how she would effect an attitude adjustment because I was fighting tears at the time, and did not believe I could contribute anything positive. The Barker DOES bark at me frequently. The manager attempted to have a meeting with the 4 of us, which was disrupted when patients came out and we had to tend to them. i became furious when lies were told to the manager regarding my patient care. Wouldn't that bother any of you? i am avoiding gossip and trying to take care of my patients ; I mind my business and doing the right thing by he patient, and try to be a team player when needed.
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    Cali, yours is a good back up plan. Thanks.
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    Folks, I am going to try your plan. It will be a challenge,but what is there to lose?
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    Yes, please.
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    Dysfunctional Unit?

    I've had problems with one fellow RN in my unit which I posted about in the past. I started by confronting her, speaking to the manager...meetings were held, I started a paper trail about her interfering with my care in front of patients. Then she made a remark that I didn't like the color of her skin. It was suggested that I contact ethics, which I did to protect myself if she pulled the race card again. I asked only that the racial remark be reviewed, and not the rest of my paper trail. Long story shorter I was told she received appropriate disciplinary action in HR. So so about a month ago she told our manager that she had to stop me from taking a patient with a saturation of 88% to an unmonitored floor from the PACU. This was a blatant lie. She walked by a couple minutes after I took the patient's O2 off for a brief trial of room air. Of course I told her I was replacing the O2 and got a tank to transfer the patient. I documented everything I did. The next day I started telling the manager about the patient, and when I was done she told me what this nurse had said. I was furious. I told her that I could file an ethics complaint and confront her right now, or she could talk to her and if it happened again I would file the complaint. The manager discouraged me from confronting her and said she would talk to her. I have the specifics set aside if needed. Another co worker on a different occasion told he manager at I medicated a patient with a pain level of 3, and then had to give the patient a fluid bonus to bring up her blood pressure. I asked for the name of the patient so I could review my charting, and conviently no one remembered. Again I was furious. I was not written up or told that any of my care was not appropriate by management. RN #3 has recently started speaking very sharply to me. I told her several times not to talk to me in that tone with no behavior change. Our manager told me that this nurse 'barks' at her as well when I finally approached her, after much hesitation. So she spoke to her and her side of the story was was that I had spoken to her that way as well. ? The only other RN's on our unit are per diem. The first 2 have worked with this manager for almost 20 years. I've been there 2 1/2 years, but am NOT a new nurse. So now I go in and interact as little as possible. I try to mind my patient's and concentrate on work. Last week nurse 3 was barking at nurse 2. I mentioned this to the manager informally and she said "This is a dysfunctional unit". I asked her what could be done about it. She replied that everyone needed an attitude adjustment. I chose not to ask her how this could be done. Bottom line is my mental and physical health are suffering from the stress. The work itself is manageable, the environment is becoming intolerable. I am the major breadwinner and don't have the luxury of quitting. Starting over terrifies me because difficult people are everywhere. Thanks to those of you who read my rant.
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    Patients family in the medical field

    Like any patient, I try to meet them where they're at (educationally if possible), answer questions and provide explanations. I'm much more terrified if a family member is in the LEGAL profession, to be honest. I don't advertise that I'm an RN when I'm a patient, though they sometimes pick up on it by how I speak and the questions I ask. I've worked adult ICU and PACU, so I didn't have any input for my son's dialysis nurses, for example. (Thank God it was a brief acute episode that resolved in a few months. I drove myself nuts trying to understand the renal diet.) I am definitely no dietician either. Some people are just going to badger you and try to run the show no matter what their profession. It's usually out of guilt, need for control, or they're just plain mean.
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    I'm ready to start a paper trail.

    So earlier this week I showed my manager my email before I sent it. I also detailed other incidents tha occurred while she was away. Before I started talking to her, out of the blue(?) she told me she thought I was doing a great job despite what some people have told me. After she read what I wrote, she said she concurred with what I wrote, then I sent it to her and my director, with whom I don't have much interaction. The manager told me that the director had stated in the past that this nurse was creating a hostile work environment for me. She has been spoken to by the director about this previously. I don't know if they spoke to her as yet. She hasn't been speaking to me much..... So now I wait and see what happens next. We do have a union but I never joined as I live in a right-to-work, employment-at-will state, and I don't know that they'd be much help. I got good advice from all of you. I think the code of ethics is pretty universal as posted above.
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    I'm ready to start a paper trail.

    Her way is the only right way, she is worse when I have the last patient, but 2 RNs have to stay until the last patient leaves. She says my problem is that I think I'm right, and I don't listen to her. I told her that SHE thinks she knows everything, to which she replied, "I do know everything". Any nurse that thinks they know everything is SCARY!
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    I'm ready to start a paper trail.

    Yes. Her duties do not include telling us how to do our patient care, however, though she and one other RN orient new staff. Those 3 have worked there 16+ years.
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    I'm ready to start a paper trail.

    It's a PACU in a small hospital. I am one of 5 RN's in the unit including the manager. She has no authority to reprimand anyone, but she does take a charge role with one other RN when the manager is not there. She takes care of staffing, scheduling, and the flow of patients through the unit. She is not my superior. We have 1 or 2 patients at a time in close quarters.
  13. This is long and could be considered a rant. I will start by saying that I am not a new nurse and I have several years experience in my specialty. I feel like I am being bullied by a co-worker for most of the 10 months I have worked in this job. At first she seemed helpful while I was orienting to the unit, and she loved to teach. However I noticed she is difficult to communicate with and NOT because English is her second language. I first approached her asking how we can communicate better with no resolution. Then I spoke to the manager after noticing no improvement. The manager agreed that this nurse does have communication difficulties and is not easy to get along with. She has had clashes with other staff and treats others similar to how she treats me. I just can't bring myself to confront her in front of patients. Over the last several months I have had 2 sit down informal meetings with this nurse and the manager. I have sensed no effort on her part to improve our working relationship. At the end of the last meeting, the manager told us we were to work the issue out ourselves, and if she has to get involved, she would escalate the process. The last straw was when this nurse came back from a vacation of 2 weeks and I couldn't believe the difference in the atmosphere in the unit while she was gone. The manager also noted the difference and commented on it to me. I was able to do my job and take care of my patients without her telling me what to do on a non-stop basis. I was in heaven. So her first day back is the manager's first day of a 2 week vacation. This nurse proceeded to once again interfere with my care, and begin telling me what I should do. She criticized me in front of an awake alert patient, and insulted me in front of the patient as well. I did not confront her in front of the patient, as I believe it is unprofessional. I had a private talk with her the next day we worked together and told her not to criticize me or insult me in front of patient's again. I told her my patient care was excellent and I did not need her to tell me what to do. If I need her help, I will ask for it. She disagreed with my way of caring for the patient, and the conversation quickly deteriorated into a verbal argument with no resolution. The manager and my evals state that my patient care is appropriate. The next day we worked together, she again felt the need to tell me what to do step by step for my patient care as though she did not believe I could come up with the ideas on my own. She would tell me to do things I had already done, or was in the process of doing. So the E-mail to my manager and director is in my drafts folder at work; I am going to edit it some more before I send. it. I don't want to write anyone up, or threaten anyone's job, I just want the bullying and incessant criticizing to stop.
  14. Just an update.. I didn't want to leave anyone hanging. I'm still out here. I was sent to the ER by a mental health provider on Monday. It was not a very therapeutic environment, however, I am stable. I got home this afternoon and am doing much better. My husband promised me we could have a peaceful home without active addiction going on. I also talked to my boss, who seems willing to help me identify what is making me appear stressed at work, (as I wasn't aware that I was projecting that.) One day at a time and lots of slow deep breathing. Thanks for all your support.
  15. Finally got through to suicide prevention's chat. Had to wait 40 minutes. I am safe and calm now, if just for tonight. Thank you for responding.
  16. I lost my job of 4 years in April. I believe the reasons were personal. I had over 3 1/2 years of good evals. (I'm a nurse almost 20 years) It took me 4 months to find a new job. Now on my 3 month eval I was told I need to work on not appearing frustrated. I was not aware that I did. I've seen a counselor, called suicide prevention where I was on hold for 10 minutes before I gave up and called a relative. Their chat site would not open on 2 browsers. Long story shorter... The bottom line is I CANNOT and will not go through loosing another RN job and suffer unemployment. The pain and stress is unbearable already. I am ready to swallow pills. At first I thought I could just learn a few new tools, deep breathe, and meditate my way through this. Then I had a huge meltdown and the suicidal feelings came. The only thing keeping me from acting is my 16 year old son. My husband has enabled our heroin addicted 24 year old son so many times that if he allows him in our home again I will have to get the 16 year old into a safer environment. I can't do this without steady stable work. Sorry this is so desperate and long, but that's where I'm at.