A doctor asking you to give him a cup of coffee!! - page 4
Hi Everyone: I have a silly question to ask.... We have a doc who is handicap and walks with crutches. I dont have a clue what happened to him. He is always rude and mean with his patients and... Read More
Dec 3, '07thats a great one Leslie!!!!Quote from earle58i save bottom-of-the-pot-month-old-coffee, for occasions like this...
Dec 3, '07if I was in your situation I would have probably thought he was joking around and trying to hit on me.
Dec 3, '07If he had asked me where his coffee was, I'd have played stupid and asked "I don't know - where did you leave it?" then walked off.
Being handicapped IS no excuse for being obnoxious.
Dec 3, '07Sometimes you have to choose your battles.
I remember one guy many years back who was sweet as candy ALL the time, always offering to bring us a cup back from the coffee pot or fridge in the small kitchen (behind a closed door accessed from the hall not the station).
THEN someone found him in there partaking of a line his nasal "candy" in OUR kitchen! No wonder he was so "nice". He was dismissed soon after.
I believe your doc might
1. be a grumpy guy normally.
2. is a grumpy guy who happens to use crutches
3. a grumpy guy in pain who uses crutches. or just a pain in the backside guy who has gotten away with it for many years and takes it for granted.
This isn't a battle worth fighting. "I'm sorry I don't know if there is any coffee." would be my best, and then excuse me I have to: run, go to the loo, give my patient pain med, whatever.
OR go get the coffee and be done with it.
Your ulcer will thank you for not irritating it over something so trivial.
Dec 3, '07Maybe we have worked with the same doctor???
I also worked with a handi-capped doctor on crutches- he was very mean to nurses and to pts, as well. He asked me to get him a cup of coffee, once. I just acted like I didn't hear him, and kept on working.
A few weeks later when he learned that several of his pts has switched their care over to another doctor, he picked up a stack of charts, threw them on the floor and left. Everyone is glad he is now retired.
Dec 4, '07Quote from Hopefull2009Not with his sense of entitlement and rudeness.If he walks on crutches, has someone considered that he may not be able to get the coffee and bring the cup back to his table, if he needs both hands to walk?
If that is the case, I would have got him the coffee.
Dec 4, '07Having had some personal experience with walking on crutches while temporarily disabled due to broken bones, I know how pain and helplessness can cause a sour outlook. As others have already pointed out, it is impossible to carry a cup of coffee without spilling it while walking on crutches. Instead of responding to this "rude doctor" with rudeness of my own, I would cheerfully get the coffee for him, and be thankful that I can walk without crutches!
There will always be doctors who seem to delight in being unreasonable, but they are the ones who need a kind word and a smile more than anyone else. One of my favorite mentors taught me to "Kill them with kindness because it confuses the hell out of them!" Not only did it work, but those very doctors were the ones who would lean over backwards if necessary to do favors for her when she needed help.
Dec 4, '07Well I'm stuck in the hole- the littlebitty ICU with a nurse station that two people can barely fit in and yes, there's a kitchen in there too. We don't make that industrial crap at night. We bring our own and it's good; people notice 'cause it makes the whole unit smell good. We joke sometimes that when the patients get well enough to start asking for the coffee they are well enough to be out of ICU!
So anyone. I mean anyone. Patient, doctor, family member, whatever. Must be nice for the coffee. I didn't go down to the store and buy it for mean people! Neither did my coworkers! One of the nicer docs usually won't take any of it 'cause he knows we bought it, even if we offer him a cup. He can learn manners, so I guess the rest of them can too.
Dec 4, '07As I read this, I'm really and truly surprised that no one thought to say, "Sorry, doc, you know the rules -- no food or drink in the patient care areas. JCAHO, you know. "
Dec 4, '07JC is gonna have to bite me on this one. There are nights I can't leave to eat/drink and I'm not going to go 13 hours without food and/or water. Period.
Dec 4, '07Hopefull, there is still no reason to be a jerk about it! Whatever happened to "please" and "thank you"?
Dec 5, '07would i get coffee for someone who was rude to me? probably not. i'd point out where the pot was and leave him to it. if he got the message and asked me to please help him out because he was on crutches, i'd help him out. but if it were my coffee that my co-workers and i were paying for? i'd direct him to the 24 hour restaurant off the hospital lobby.
that said, i have gotten coffee for folks i like whether they be nurses, physicians, rts, or whatever. if i'm going down to the espresso bar, i'll ask everyone around me if they want coffee (and will they keep an ear open for my patient.) one surgeon used to just automatically bring me coffee when she went to the espresso bar, and i'd do the same for her. she surprised the heck out of me, because one day when i'd floated to another icu and was having a miserable shift, she showed up with a latte for me!