I quit my first nursing job in med surg due to being mistreated.
I was there for almost 8 months and I felt like I was being targeted by some charge nurses. They would yell in the hall, refuse to help me, told the director I asked too many questions,
The director said they had all given up hope on me and did not want to help me.
I had good evals, no write ups. Patients liked me and I suspect
I was not getting credit for good patient reports. My coworkers seemed to like me. I never made a med error or assesment error. Even the drs complimented me and said i was a great colleague.
The straw that broke the camels back was a minor paperwork error, in that I forgot to fill out one of the forms which isn't even a part of the actual record! And to be fair, I was not the only nurse responsible for this form! But they acted like I was. My charge had been going thru my chart, found that form and took it right to my director. They called me into the office, berated me and told me all those bad things above. They said i needed to go on a work improvement program because my iv start skills were not good either. I feel like I am about average for a new grad on iv starts. I was in tears, and she told me to put my big girl panties on and deal with it, that this was just a part of nursing.
I do ask a lot of questions, but that's how I learn. I still have new grad insecurity.
And I always want to make sure i am doing things right. But I guess they saw it as a sign I was not progressing?
I feel so discouraged , I see my classmates from nursing school all talking about how much
They love their jobs and they are friends with co workers on facebook. I never had that at my old job. As I interview for new jobs, how can I tell that a new workplace will be supportive and friendly? I want to have a wworkplace "family" where team work is valued. Many managers will say they are supportive but then they end up the opposite.
Mar 5, '13
Quote from Jeweles26
Ok, two things offhand. First, I get the impression you are very defensive and possibly not being realistic about your issues. It seems like instead of taking what they told you as constructive criticism, even if it didn't come across as such, you are kind of playing the victim. I mean, as a new grad straight out of school, asking lots of questions would be appropriate, and their comments were probably a lot more relaxed. But I can easily see how after 8 months with them and not enough autonomy and improvement they might get more impatient with you. Take a step back and try to see this objectively.
I will also agree with Tait's advice. I had a new grad LPN that was consistently assigned to my team because I was the only one who could tolerate her constant questions. I mentioned to her once that it is completely normal to have questions, especially when you are new and inexperienced. As a preceptor, or mentor, or wtv you want to call it, it helps US to help YOU if you present us with a possible solution to your question. We can evaluate your thinking, specifically your critical thinking. We can see where you are going wrong, or right. And heck, it might even help build your confidence, because if you approach me with a question and a solution, and I tell you that you are completely right, you will start to see that you don't need constant supervision and assistance.
You make a fabulous point about how to ask questions. It does sound better to first offer a plan or idea of how to proceed, instead of just asking. I'll def use that in the future.
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