I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job - page 8

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we... Read More

  1. by   msteeleart
    You couldn't wait until you got home or got to his/her place. Sounds like you are lacking impulse control.
    Last edit by msteeleart on Feb 1, '13 : Reason: Wrong word
  2. by   enuf_already
    Quote from PeepnBiscuitsRN
    If you're looking for a direct answer to your question- I would resign. Even if they took you back. I have a feeling you'd find your place of employment a very hostile and unplesant place to work at that point. Gossip spreads pretty fast.

    It's not much of a comfort but your "transgression" could be so much worse. I mean I'm not sure what might look worse to a potential employer- what you did, or doing something else like neglect of a patient. I guess to me the latter. If an application asks why you left this job...well I don't know. You could put "personal" and if the potiental employer inquired further, you could just be straightforward, and say you are sorry it happened, you understand the poor light it might shine on you, but you assure them that it's not in your nature to do something with such little regard for policy. (And that's not an extra jab at you, it just sounds good).

    In the mean time if you have co-workers who you feel can speak to your true character, you might need to do some pleading. Stuff happens, yes. Like the rest of the people on this forum I'm not sure why the parking lot and not somewhere off campus would have sufficed. I'm also curious as to who would have ratted you out- who would have known it was you? Were they in for a peek show or something?! I hope this all passes and you are able to move on, and for the other one involved as well.
    I don't know that anyone would have needed to "rat out" the OP if his facility is like mine. There are security cameras everywhere. Security has to investigate and report any unusual findings on the property. All they need is a license plate number to figure out who a car belongs to. It pays to remember your employer may be watching you even when you don't realize it.
  3. by   prep8611
    I hope she was at least hot... Is she getting fired also?
  4. by   elkpark
    Quote from Nurseadam
    nurses are human too, so stop judging people. I am a patient advocate in the nursing setting, but when i clock off, i do whatever i want, it's no ones business, but i misjudged this and made a huge mistake.
    I'm not going to bother piling on the judgment (I see plenty of people beat me to it ), but just wanted to point out that this statement is not necessarily true for those of us in licensed professions/occupations. By virtue of our licensure, we are voluntarily agreeing to be held to a higher standard than the general public, and what we do outside of work can be someone else's business, our employer's or the BON's business. Most state BONs still have some kind of "moral turpitude" clause in the licensure regulations (that you have to be ethically and morally fit to be a nurse and it's never really clear what, exactly, that means), and most employers have strict rules about what employees can and can't do on their property, regardless of whether they are "on the clock" or not.

    Best wishes.
  5. by   SNB1014
    Op, that sucks. Sorry, hope you enjoyed it.
    I didn't read the whole thread, but a kiss/pg make out shouldn't be a big.deal. plenty of people meet their soon to be spouses at work.
    If you were getting b@nged then yeah, that's bad.
    But my question is are you the female? What is supposedly happening to the other member of your tryst? I would hope everyone is equally to blame. Were they your superior?
  6. by   b33again
    It took a lot of courage to talk about how retarded she was... Everybody be nice and weigh in on how she can best do damage control. Don't be a meanie!
  7. by   drowningdaily
    Just had an idea. What about home care? You usually just sign up with an agency. You could get started right away. May not be your dream job, but it will prevent a gap in your resume!
  8. by   BSNbeDONE
    Quote from msteeleart
    You couldn't wait until you got home or got to his/her place. Sounds like you are lacking impulse control.
    I always said these 12-hour shifts were too long!!!!! Lol!
  9. by   drowningdaily
    Quote from BrandonLPN
    Technically, the word "god" is only capitalized in specific circumstances. If one is referring to the Judeo-Christian God, then it's a proper noun and is capitalized. But if one just means "god" as in "a god", like Zeus or Athena or whatever, the word is not capitalized. Who knows how britishnomore intended the word? ...... (as long as we're being nit-picky )
    True, there are instances when the word god is not capitalized. But, for the live of God, Buddha, Allah, or Mike, this is not one of those times.

    I never criticize a poster's grammar or syntax. I do not know if English is their first language. But, I think if you are going to call out someone for their grammar, you need to dot your i's, cross your t's and capitalize proper nouns.

    I felt for this guy. One horrible lapse in judgement and he was attacked. Instead of offering support or ignoring the post completely, it became a feeding frenzy. He didn't ask for approval or forgiveness. He asked for advice.

    Posters were quick to judge his actions, his use of the word retarded, and his grammar. Perhaps we could get him to post a picture so we can all weigh in on his haircut as well.
  10. by   CrunchRN
    That cracked me up Adam!

    I am sorry though that it is true. You made a bad decision. You have learned your lesson I am sure. It will make it harder to get another job, but you will just have to emphasize what you learned from it and how it has made you a better decision maker.

    Not the end of the world.

    We have all made mistakes at some point. If we are lucky we didn't get caught and then matured enough to alter our behavior.

    Much luck to you in the future. You will be fine.
  11. by   drowningdaily
    Quote from britishnomore

    You are right of course about that, but I also think that your point was unnecessary. The lack of capitalizing I's shows complete laziness.
    Fair enough. Maybe I should refrain from posting immediately after coming off a terrible shift!
  12. by   Meriwhen
    Nearly anything I could possibly say about this has already been said already in some way, shape or form.

    You're human. We humans make mistakes. I won't pass judgment on what you did.

    So all I shall say is:

    1. There is a possibility that HR may tell future employers why you were fired/resigned when they go to verify your employment...and they can legally do as it DID happen. Neverminding that word may spread unofficially via the grapevine, as nursing is a much smaller world than you think.

    So IMO be prepared to address this matter on future job applications. It may come up, it may not...just be prepared. Also, find a sympathetic coworker to be your reference.

    2. Best of luck in your future endeavors, whatever/wherever they may be.

    and most importantly:

    3. Learn from this.
    Last edit by Meriwhen on Feb 1, '13
  13. by   pmabraham
    Good day:

    My recommenation would be to ask for a meeting with HR and fall on the proverbial sword.

    Tell them you understand you made an extremely poor judgement choice which reflected poorly on the organization. Share how sorry you are for this decision; and what steps you are willing to take to make sure it will not happen again.

    Let them know how much you like the organization and your job (presuming you do); and that if they are willing to work with you through this lack of poor judgement on your part, you will show them your loyalty and dedication over time in thanks for their mercy and grace.

    It is possibly they may be open to putting you on probation or a form there of; and give you a second chance. If that happens, do be sure to give it your all to show they were not mistaken in giving you that second chance.

    Thank you.