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- Jan 19, '12 by NickiLaughsThe worst thing that ever happened is my Dad used it as slang in my house growing up. And I'm still trying to break the damn habit. I even worked in disabled group homes for a few years. It slipped once,and I got my foot ran over with a motorized wheel chair.
And it was completely appropriate on her behalf. It hurt.
- Jan 19, '12 by fiveofpeepI don't say "retarded" but I used to say "that's so gay," and still find myself saying it occasionally and I feel SO SO SO BAD when it comes out. I'm 23 and pick it up from friends and try to reign it in but it comes out.
I wouldn't really say anything (especially not publicly) unless they are repeat offenders, because maybe they don't know they are doing it. I bet a lot of times, it's just a habit and like me they are trying to use more PC terms and break the habit and feel bad already.
- Jan 19, '12 by Ruby VeeQuote from rob72i don't have a family member who is developmentally disabled, intellectually challenged or mentally retarded. consequently i don't know the current buzzwords to describe the condition, and i might be guilty of using the term "mentally retarded" to describe someone who is profoundly challenged intellectually . . . not trying to offend anyone, but trying to describe the situation to someone who needs to know. the next shift, for example. "mentally retarded" used to be the correct and professional way to describe such a person.this is an aberration of political correctness. "retarded", literally means stunted in growth or development. it applies perfectly to 95% of political actions and better than 80% of, "as seen on tv...!", products.
it developed a negative social connotation when it became synonymous with "stupid".
from webster, online:
words have concrete meanings. when we (try to)change them to suit social or political desires, we deconstruct our language, and "retard" our society.
i, personally, am retarding. i retard ignorance, constrain it with definition, and crush it with will, wit and the light of truth!
it is so easy to be offended, and so difficult to educate with grace.
"black" used to be the correct way to describe someone of african descent and whose skin is very, very dark. and then, one day it became offensive as americans of african descent chose to be called "african americans." that term has been used to the point of silliness to describe anyone with dark pigmentation . . . the women from ethiopia traveling through our country with no intention of staying and no grasp of the english language, for example. that woman was ethiopian. the colleague who described her as "african american" was trying to allude to race without being offensive. (race was a factor in her condition.)
it's all too easy to be offended by someone who had no idea they were being offensive. who had no intention of being offensive. i wish we'd all just try to get along.
- Jan 19, '12 by mercyteapotBut no one walks through Target, looks at an ugly lamp and says "that's so African American". They do it all the time with the terms retarded and gay, as if being either of those things is so inferior that it is just fine to compare them to anything anyone else finds ugly, stupid, silly or inane. Thankfully, it isn't just family members of individuals with developmental disabilities or gay people and their loved ones that are rallying against using these terms in intentionally denigrating ways.
- Jan 20, '12 by mercyteapotThere's the MR term, and then there's the R word. People who use the term MR are just a bit out of the loop and making an honest effort to note an individual's condition. People who use the R word disparagingly are not attempting to use the term correctly. They're attempting to be funny. And those attempts are never amusing at all.
- Jan 21, '12 by vintagemotherThe point is, that people are more than a color, diagnosis, or disability. I don't call my students "special needs kids". Each is an individual, with individualized special needs. In a similar manner, I am more than my color, which happens to be black. Yes, I teach my kids not to be ashamed if someone calls them black, but I am much more than a color, that happens to be an inaccurate description of my red/ brown/ caramel complexion.Btw: what illness was related to the patients race? What about my nephews and nieces with gray eyes and skin lighter than that of some Caucasians? Would their race/color be relevant in their diagnosis?
- Jan 22, '12 by VivaLasViejasI have an awful feeling that the 'r'-word---meaning stupid or idiotic---has come back into use because a lot of us Baby Boomers used the term out of habit back in the '60s and '70s. I remember being shocked to hear MY kids throwing that word around the neighborhood some 20-odd years later. We never meant anything really insulting by it; whenever kids made fun of a "developmentally delayed" person, they usually called him/her an "M.R." instead of "retard" or "retarded".
None of that was OK. But now the current generations seem to have made further refinements to the 'r'-word ("libtard" and "f-tard" come to mind), and IMHO those are more insulting than the academic use of 'mentally retarded' as a descriptor in the case of a person of low intellect. But then, I guess I'm a product of my time, and some of the terms we used back in the day don't sound as harsh to my ears as they might to later generations.
Of course, the same can also be said of the generation before mine, to whom the 'n'-word, along with "guinea", "kraut" and other ethnically-related terms, were "just words". Nobody wants to hear those anymore. And while I think political correctness has indeed run completely amok, everyone should use some sensitivity to the way certain terms affect those at whom they are directed. Which is one of the many reasons why I don't use the 'r-word anymore.
- Apr 22, '12 by brilloheadQuote from ruby vee"black" used to be the correct way to describe someone of african descent and whose skin is very, very dark. and then, one day it became offensive as americans of african descent chose to be called "african americans." that term has been used to the point of silliness to describe anyone with dark pigmentation . . . the women from ethiopia traveling through our country with no intention of staying and no grasp of the english language, for example. that woman was ethiopian. the colleague who described her as "african american" was trying to allude to race without being offensive. (race was a factor in her condition.)
i recently saw comedian josh blue's routine in which he discusses being born in cameroon (africa). which, of course, makes him an "african-american", being an american born in africa.
i have a friend whose family is from the west indies. her skin may be "black" but she hates to have to check-mark "african-american" when filling out forms. she considers herself to be "caribbean" rather than "african" in heritage.
being politically correct in many cases means being very incorrect.