I belong to many forums because there are so many pieces of me floating around. Anyway, as we just adopted a baby last year I belong to a huge adoption forum.
Someone there posted that they were having trouble deciding to adopt this certain baby due in a couple months because his mother had been diagnosed bipolar. They were afraid the baby would wind up with it and they didn't feel they could handle a bipolar child.
Now I took great offense to this (doesn't help that I'm bipolar) and replied to their post that the chances of passing this on to the child is like 15% and how would they know if any other baby whose birthparents were healthy might not wind up with bipolar or other illnesses, mental or physiological. They ended up refusing to adopt the baby. This completely incensed me and just goes to show there is still a lot of stigma out there where MI is concerned.
Someone from there PM'ed me on the site and tried to explain to me that all prospective adoptive parents have the right to take on what they feel they can handle. All I can think of though is that little baby who is being judged by his mother's illness.
Am I "right" to be offended? Should I have handled it differently or tried to educate the posters that agreed with them (about 25 agreed and about 7 supported my take on the issue) or what else could I have done or said...this topic comes up a lot in adoption I've noticed, quite sadly too.
Any input appreciated!
Blessings, Michelle