Why is it so hard to make friends?

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I :heartbeat my job and the place where I work. The only :down: is that I can seem to make friends there....I know that I can still do my job and be professional but it seems like other RNs have "groups" and they go out and hang out of the hospital. I only been there 3 months but I would like some advice so that I can make some friends there. Most of the :nurse: are young....Really ANY input appreciatted. Thanks :clown:

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It takes some time I guess. You will make friends. Like you said though, don't worry too much about making friends imo.

You can probably start small talk here and there. Or ask one of your co-workers if they want to eat lunch together or something.

Sorry if I wasn't much help.

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Hey there Newin,

I moved out here myself a few years ago and noticed the same exact thing. It's definately a New England thing. Don't be too hard on yourself just give it some time.

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I :heartbeat my job and the place where I work. The only :down: is that I can seem to make friends there....I know that I can still do my job and be professional but it seems like other RNs have "groups" and they go out and hang out of the hospital. I only been there 3 months but I would like some advice so that I can make some friends there. Most of the :nurse: are young....Really ANY input appreciatted. Thanks :clown:

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a guy that I once worked with lived in california and then in boston. he told me in california he had a ton of friends but when the going got though none of them seemed to be around and he did not remain in contact with any of them when he moved to Boston. he said when he came here he felt it was very difficult to make friends, everyone was so busy. BUT when he did finally make friends he learnt what the definition of "friend" is. they are true friends for life and will be next to your side no matter what. i have another friend that got married and moved here to be with her husband from the west coast 8yrs ago. she also says that she had tons of friends in back home but here has only made a few..she also says that people here seem to like you for you not what you have or who you are they are genuine and in it for the long haul. i lived here all my life and have not personally had these experiences so dont shoot me if you are from the west coast..just passing on what I have been told and maybe it will help make you feel better. i am sure there are great friends and not so great friends everywhere.

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Specializes in Pediatric Psychiatry, Home Health VNA.

Hi New. Welcome to MA! What hospital are you working in? I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Maybe some of us metro Boston girls can get together for a mini All Nurses meet. A lot of us are around the same age anyway. Hang in there. Bostonians and New Englanders in general can be pretty icy. It's not a personal thing. We're just a very down to business, fast-paced area.

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Thanks to all of you for the input ...I am convince now that it just takes time. I was just used to make friend almost right away where I came from but it seems like here in Boston (or I should say Cambridge) it takes a little more..Thanks again :yeah:

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BUT when he did finally make friends he learnt what the definition of "friend" is. they are true friends for life and will be next to your side no matter what.

I have lived in New England my entire life and have to agree with this quote. It may take some time, but I bet you will make long-lasting friendships.

Wish I lived closer to Boston for a get-together. :heartbeat

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I :heartbeat my job and the place where I work. The only :down: is that I can seem to make friends there....I know that I can still do my job and be professional but it seems like other RNs have "groups" and they go out and hang out of the hospital. I only been there 3 months but I would like some advice so that I can make some friends there. Most of the :nurse: are young....Really ANY input appreciatted. Thanks :clown:

I worked a 6 month assignment in Boston and made some good friends.

Sometimes it just takes time....and sometimes you may be making "friends" and not even know it. I had a family emergency and needed to fly to FL during the assignment and several coworkers offered to keep my kitty for me - I got invited to spend Passover with a coworker and her family, though I did not think she really knew me that well.

Give it some time.

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Hi New. Welcome to MA! What hospital are you working in? I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Maybe some of us metro Boston girls can get together for a mini All Nurses meet. A lot of us are around the same age anyway. Hang in there. Bostonians and New Englanders in general can be pretty icy. It's not a personal thing. We're just a very down to business, fast-paced area.

Yes, it can be a mini all nurses Boston area gripe about how none of us can get jobs :chuckle

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Specializes in Pediatric Psychiatry, Home Health VNA.

NewinMA, I also work in Cambridge, right on Cambridge St. Do you work at Mt Auburn?

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