I did not make it into the ADN program for next year and I am waiting to be admitted to my nursing program in fall 2006..I have completed all my pre-requisite courses and I have locked in my admission.
My husband have been married 3 years and were planning to wait until I finished nursing school to have our first child, but now with this entire next year free...I am having conflicting thoughts about which would be better...getting pregnant now while i'm waiting and having a few months to adjust before I go back to school...or waiting another agonizing 3 years to start our family. If I wait i'm wondering if it might be harder to go through a first pregnancy and adjust to a new baby when i'm just starting my career? I'm just afraid of struggling, I know that school will be demanding..and I don't want to miss out on those precious moments, but is it doable..and is this a choice someone should knowingly make? Please help
I did not make it into the ADN program for next year and I am waiting to be admitted to my nursing program in fall 2006..I have completed all my pre-requisite courses and I have locked in my admission.
My husband have been married 3 years and were planning to wait until I finished nursing school to have our first child, but now with this entire next year free...I am having conflicting thoughts about which would be better...getting pregnant now while i'm waiting and having a few months to adjust before I go back to school...or waiting another agonizing 3 years to start our family. If I wait i'm wondering if it might be harder to go through a first pregnancy and adjust to a new baby when i'm just starting my career? I'm just afraid of struggling, I know that school will be demanding..and I don't want to miss out on those precious moments, but is it doable..and is this a choice someone should knowingly make? Please help
My husband and I are in the same situation. We agreed to start a family after I graduated but the temptation still exists and some days I want to forget about the plans and start one. I won't graduate until 7/07, and the time seems to go slowly. I am debating too if we should wait until then (and start a career with an infant) or now and finish school with an infant.
I know it is a tough situation and decision. I cannot tell you what I will do, because plans may change. I think either way it will be tough. If you go through school with an infant or start a career with one. It is up to you and your spouse to decide. I don't know if I'll continue waiting somedays while others I say I am. Best wishes to you and everyone in the same situation. :)
My husband and I are in the same situation. We agreed to start a family after I graduated but the temptation still exists and some days I want to forget about the plans and start one. I won't graduate until 7/07, and the time seems to go slowly. I am debating too if we should wait until then (and start a career with an infant) or now and finish school with an infant.
I know it is a tough situation and decision. I cannot tell you what I will do, because plans may change. I think either way it will be tough. If you go through school with an infant or start a career with one. It is up to you and your spouse to decide. I don't know if I'll continue waiting somedays while others I say I am. Best wishes to you and everyone in the same situation. :)
It really is tough, it seems a lot of people are in the same situation. Nobody can make the decision for you, but it is nice to hear input from different perspectives. I think it makes it tougher now that birth control is so effective that you basically are left with this mental war trying to plan the perfect time to start a family..I'm not sure there is ever a perfect time..life is hard, and can change with no notice..It's hard to knowingly put yourself in a position for such struggle, when you know that you are embarking on a demanding program~ physically, mentally, monitarily..especially when you know that time to enjoy a first child is precious..i'm not sure that's something nursing students who also have to work have a lot of.
I'm in the same boat. I'm 23, been married 3 years, and have thought about the baby issure several times. I'll be 27 when I graduate. Not when I thought I'd be trying to have the first child, however, There'd be no way (financially) that we could swing both school and a baby. I don't want to have a baby the first year I work either so I'll wait until a year after. The national average for a woman to have her first baby is 26-27 these days (yup, I looked it up!) so I'm not really freaking out about it. I only want one though so it's not as big of a deal as it might be for you. I just know if I don't go to school now and I have a baby I'll won't be as likely to go back. Anyway, that's why I'm waiting. I just keep telling myself...all you have is time.
I'm convinced money is the root of all evil..every which way I try to crunch the numbers..I still don't know how we are going to make it through 2 years of me going to school like that, but i'm so determined to reach my goals I just keep pressing forward.
I know it's going to be tough I'm used to carrying 12 credits and having class even up to five days a week on top of working full time..They suggest not working more than 15 hours a week once you begin your progam..I don't see how people can make it through..I'm praying for money to rain from the sky!
So I guess I know the answer to my question..I just don't like it..I never was very good at waiting, but babies require both time and money both of which I won't have a lot to spare.
I am one of the older students who went back to school at 30 with two boys, ages 5 and 10. I went to school full time and worked full time too. I had my kids young and don't regret it at all. However, times were lean sometimes too. However, now at 46 (oops I originally typed 466 years), our sons are now 25 and 20 and basically independent. I have my MSN, and while money isn't rolling all over, we take nice vacations, we drive newer cars and our only bills are mortgage and my student loans. Many of my friends have delayed their kids until their 40's but as the child of older parents, it's not what I would want for my kids.
I also know how stressed out I am now with just work and school. Having the stress of raising a baby while doing this would put me over the edge I think.
For me, being older probably makes the decision a little easier. I'm 30, nearly 31, and I have medical issues which will probably make it a bad idea to wait too long. It's either have a child while I'm in school, or have a child right after I graduate. I also struggle with the financial and time issues, but I have really thought alot about this, prayed about it, and sought advice from others and finally I've decided that there is no pefect time, there will never be enough time or money, and I'm just going to go for it.
Hopefully, I won't regret that :))
Good luck to all of you in making a decision...I know how hard the decision process can be. It seemed to take up alot of my energy when I was working through what to do.
I think its funny so many people worry so much about planning their pregnancies. When Where What time, what stage in life. Before I get too old and all those other questions.
My wife and I never worried about it a bit. Maybe 7 kids is a little excessive by todays standards, but it worked for us. My wifes last one was in her early forties and we didnt worry about that either,
I also know how stressed out I am now with just work and school. Having the stress of raising a baby while doing this would put me over the edge I think.
I know while I was doing my pre-requisites I had 12 credits a semester..and worked full time I was going right from work to school studying on my breaks and lunch and every spare second..I feel like I lived and breathed school..it seems like once you enter your program it would be even tougher!
For me, being older probably makes the decision a little easier. I'm 30, nearly 31, and I have medical issues which will probably make it a bad idea to wait too long. It's either have a child while I'm in school, or have a child right after I graduate. I also struggle with the financial and time issues, but I have really thought alot about this, prayed about it, and sought advice from others and finally I've decided that there is no pefect time, there will never be enough time or money, and I'm just going to go for it.
Hopefully, I won't regret that :))
Good luck to all of you in making a decision...I know how hard the decision process can be. It seemed to take up alot of my energy when I was working through what to do.
Good for you! I've been really struggling..but i'm continuing to pray for an answer. Just keep your eye on the prize and you'll reach your goals. :)
I think its funny so many people worry so much about planning their pregnancies. When Where What time, what stage in life. Before I get too old and all those other questions.
My wife and I never worried about it a bit. Maybe 7 kids is a little excessive by todays standards, but it worked for us. My wifes last one was in her early forties and we didnt worry about that either,
Well I can only speak for me..but I'd like to make sure I don't have a kid that's completely neglected because i'm racing around like a chicken with my head cut off working and going to school. And also that I can provide for that child. People worry because it's a subject that's very close to their heart. I'm glad you didn't have trouble figuring all that out, it's not that simple for all of us. :)
I am looking at a similar situation. I am 26, which is young enough to wait, but my husband is 38 and I don't want to wait until he is 40 or 41 to start having kids. I guess I just want him to be young enough to enjoy them and still young enough to get out and do stuff when they move out. I want to have kids, but I'd like to finish school first. Fortunately, my husband (great guy) says he doesn't mind waiting and whatever I want is fine with him. :1luvu: However, I can go to school anytime, but I can't stop my husband from aging while I'm doing it or make him any younger once I've graduated. I've considered doing the LPN thing first and then doing an LPN to RN when the baby is about a year old, but am not sure if this is a good idea or not. Does anyone have any opinions?
Hi! This is a decision that I too am faced with. I am 30 y/o taking prereqs. Like some of the others, it is a little more urgent for me because I suffer from unexplained multiple miscarriages, and my chances of having a baby are getting more & more slim each time. Although I am determined to get into nursing school and complete it, I am even more determined to be a mommy! We have one more option of trying to have a child naturally and we will be trying that later this year. If this attempt is successful, the baby would be born just before nursing school starts. I know that it will VERY difficult, but it is a challenge that I am will to accept. If for some reason I find that I cannot handle it, school will just have to wait for a little while. Hopefully with a great support system and determination, I will be able to successfully achieve both without putting anything off! Everyone's situation & input will vary, this is just what is on top of our priority list given our ages & individual situation. As another poster mentioned, the time is never perfect, you just have to choose which is more important to you at this point in your life...Good luck in whatever you decide!! :kiss
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My husband and I are in the same situation. We agreed to start a family after I graduated but the temptation still exists and some days I want to forget about the plans and start one. I won't graduate until 7/07, and the time seems to go slowly. I am debating too if we should wait until then (and start a career with an infant) or now and finish school with an infant.
I know it is a tough situation and decision. I cannot tell you what I will do, because plans may change. I think either way it will be tough. If you go through school with an infant or start a career with one. It is up to you and your spouse to decide. I don't know if I'll continue waiting somedays while others I say I am. Best wishes to you and everyone in the same situation. :)