What is WRONG with this??

My guess is you give it all at work and need to recharge when you're home. It's not a sin, or a shortcoming- you just need to set your priorities. I do volunteer work at the SPCA on my offtime, and I'll do most ANYTHING except I don't deal with the public on my off hours. I get enough of that at work.

They have never taken anything I've told them seriously in the past anyway.

That's funny as hell, and so true.

LOL..very true. That has been a huge thing w/ my addicted in law. She is a good example of why Ill never work in psych or with drug addiction as far as a career. Ive watched her deplete my inlaws retirement funds to virtually NOTHING and be as selfish as one could possibly be. Drugs come first...but they have always enabled her to do them...even bought her meds for her at multiple pharmacies....For over 2 yrs I had to listen to them ask about what to do what to do.....til I finally just gave up and quit wasting my time. Id had enough and I just came out and said...just keep feeding her the xanax. lorcets, ativans, phenergan and stadol til you just come home and find her dead from OD....thats whats gonna happen eventually. They have since avoided this topic with me as much as possible because unlike my husband and them....I cant tolerate her. I choose not to. Shes told me so many lies about why she "needs" her pills.....bunch of BS. The inlaws always said. "well...shes our only daughter...".....umm...yea but shes also 43, able to work and able to get help at her choosing while the rest of us have to pay for it with our taxes....geez. Can you feel the love there between us? :) I have found that pretending to be dumb helps when ppl ask for advice......has worked for me several times. And I think you are right..about recharging while at home. Im always so exhausted between work home and a toddler. I dont know how I can manage to get so much done at work and so little done at home. Taking the trash off is a huge challenge for me lol. Laundry is worse!

OMG!!! your post was too funny and so true at the same time...lately i have just wanted to stay at home....and not have to "dea;" with stuff... like my inlaws....my mother in law has been failing for the past few yrs and i know it is dementia..but her sons(not my husband) will not admit to it....my father in law is just now starting to see it....they are both 83.....i havent stopped by there house in weeks....but i go to my parents....

i also hear ya about someone getting hurt......someone once fell and this person did have her husband and kids around her at the time but my husband said you should go help.....tell them you are a nurse....i said i will watch and observe...if things get worse i will...thank god they didnt...cuase i really didnt want to help....is that bad or what??

my son is sick today....he was last week too...got better for a few days and now sick again....i deal with it....give him his meds...make up his room with his tv and side table with a drink...wait on him,check him,sit with him....but it is more of a mom thing not nurse.....

so i hear ya.....i loved your post

OMG! This is ME! I am ALWAYS ready to help my pts and coworkers, WHILE I'm at work! Once I get home, I don't want to talk on the phone evn. I check in with my kids, quickly find out if everyone's OK, make dinner and either go knit and watch TV or iron, do laundry, when I do laundry I get "lost" and just don't think at all! My husband gets annoyed with me, I just don't feel like talking. I DO help take care of my mother in law though. She is a nervous nellie and is always asking " can I take a tylenol"? But she's a grand lady and loves me.

I was on vacation one time, this man fell and had a seizure, I thought" oh crap", when a young nurse went running up to help him. I said " great", cops and paramedics came and I walked away!

I read your post and felt instantly relieved!! I'm an LPN and currently a junior pursuing my BSN and when people ask me what I do for a living, I just say that I'm a student. It's hard for me to say that I'm a nurse--I don't want to be questioned or look at the weird growth that someone may suddenly want to show me! One time I even said that I was a CNA. It felt good not to acknowledge that I'm a Charge Nurse in charge of 30 sub/acute patients...I always want to leave work at work.

What you are experiencing is very normal. Care-giver burn out! I take care of work and everyone at home and end up depleted, with nothing left for myself. I get very resentful. I hate drama. At work, I feel I have a job to do and I want to do it and go home without drama amongst my co-workers. Out of work situations, I don't always volunteer to help others in need. I remember at Disney World at MGM a few years ago we were at a show and an obese person was on one of those electric scooters. Well, the thing tipped over for all to see and my husband is telling me to go down there and help. I said, "I'm on vacation!" People did help sooner than I could get down from the spectators seating area, it's just that everyone expects a nurse to help 24/7! I will always hold the door out in public for an elderly person or someone with a young baby/child in a stroller. I feel I can do what I'm able, but yet give myself to be human and set limits to save my sanity. I'm one person and can only do so much to make the world a better place.

OMG,

I am totally the same way. When I am at work the patients/family gets my all, but when I'm at home, my reply is "Call your Doctor, I'm just a nurse."

I even say this to my husband when he is sick.

My home time is for me, not every relative who has an ailment.

Amy