What is the worst thing a patient has ever said to you?

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Is it me, or are patients getting ruder and more disrespectful each time you clock in for work?

I don't usually let rude patients/families get to me, but last night I had to deal with the most insane people ever. I had the misfortune of informing the patient and his family that he had gone into rapid a-fib and his cardiologist was not on call. The patient didn't believe that he was having a rapid ventricular response since "he didn't feel that his heart was going fast," and had me count an apical pulse and call the monitor tech to see if she concurred with my rate. (I was off by 2 beats).

I was also instructed by the family to print a set of strips indicating that he was in fact in a-fib. Mind you, this patient has a history of a-fib and was on amiodarone for a while, but the family decided to stop it b/c the patient is allergic to iodine. Despite the allergy, he never had a reaction to amiodarone, but the family still didn't want him to have it and... ta-da! He went back into a-fib.

I was also yelled at because I had to start a Cardizem gtt and as this patient has a habit of going hypotensive, decided that BP checks q30 minutes was a prudent thing to do. Oh, I was also a bad nurse b/c I put him on 2L NC. Oh, and my hospital is ridiculous because we don't have those donuts for people to sit on... oh and there CAN'T be a good reason for us to not have them in central supply.

Did I also mention that I was lazy because I left the BP cuff on him and set the machine to recycle every 30 mts? Yes... I did that so I wouldn't have to go in the room all night. (He told this to the PCA and she came and told me) So he refused to leave the BP cuff on, and preferred for me to go in every 30 mts to put the cuff on and off (this only went on for 3 cycles... at this time, he fell asleep and I slipped it on over his gown). This is the same man who complained that us night shift don't let him sleep.

I just had to run out of the room at this point and cry... I usually handle these kind of people really well. Before last night I don't remember the last time I let a patient/family make me cry. :cry: I actually felt bad giving report on this patient in the morning... I felt horrible to pass this person on to another nurse!

*oh and the KICKER. During one of my visits for a BP check, I accidentally bumped his foot which he REFUSES to leave on the bed. He prefers to let his foot hang off the bed on the side I do my care on. He totally went off on me! Apparently during my BSN program I was taught not to be careful, but to bump patients' feet and cause them pain. I also after 3 years of working cardiac, am unfamiliar with caring for dialysis patients and I don't know how to monitor an a-fib patient. He can't wait until I'm sick in a hospital bed so he can give me what's coming to me. this is the most hurtful thing ANYBODY has ever said to me. I couldn't even respond. I just turned around and left the room.

Sorry this is so long, guys. I just really needed to vent.

Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.

And to Tiffany Lynn: There is NOTHING that protects you from verbal abuse from a patient except your development of a hard skin or having someone who works with you come in and take care of the problem for you. It is sad, but you have to learn how to put some people in their place, and sometimes you have to get down on their level to do it. And when you are a new nurse they know it and they will try to push your buttons. I hope you get to work with some older, crusty old nurse who can go in and get these people off you. I guarantee you that you will have some of these patients, family members and visitors.

I had a new secretary who was a young college student. Super nice young woman. Would do anything for anyone. One day she is sitting there at her desk entering orders into the computer when this guy comes up to the desk, as close to her as he could get (fortunately the desk has a 4 foot wall around it) and just starts yelling at her. She could not move. She just stood there. He was tall, stringy hair, drunk. I went over there and I won't repeat what I told him but he got the message. And I told him to go back to the room where his relative was and not to come out again until he was ready to leave. And I told him that if he made one more threat to anyone I was going to call the police and he was going to be taken off the property.

This is why I carry a gun. These people are so stupid. I always fear they will be waiting for me in the parking lot. And they are everywhere. No matter what size city or town you live in you will see people like this.

Specializes in sub-accute.

I was working on the sub-acute side of a TLC facility. I love doing sub acute because not all patients are there til death, they are there and they get better and I like that. I had a new admit that I didn't even know about, until the receptionist paged me and told me the admit was there and i needed to help her out of her car. I dropped what I was doing, grabbed a wheelchair and went to get the lady out of her car. She was quite the b**** to me, telling me "that they waited forever for someone to help get her out, and she just had knee surgery, what did I expect her to do? Walk into the building by herself?" When I apologized and took her to the subwing, I stopped at the nurses station to pick up her admit papers and find out which room she was assigned to. This made her mad too. I was called imcompetent and worthless. I just smiled and said "I really hope you enjoy your stay here with us. Just think of how great it's going to be to go back to your own home soon!" I was her CNA the day she got released. While I was helping her pack, she told me that she couldn't wait to get out of here and away from me and the nurses, because we are all quacks. I was so glad when she got back in her car and left us for good.

Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.

I try to talk to people who are just basically angry about something. I sit down with them and try to figure out what I can do to help them. But when they start with the name calling, that is where it stops, especially when it is aimed at another of my younger staff who do not have the experience to deal with this type of thing. Name calling and threats are just not acceptable. I had a friend once who worked in the ED with me in a large inner city county hospital who was called a "cum guzzling ****" which was the WORST thing I had ever heard from anyone. We could not believe it. We all just started laughing. That really made him mad. He was soooo drunk. I told him to shut up and lay down and we finally had to restrain him and put a mask over his face so he could not spit on everyone. What Fun!!

Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..
I was working on the sub-acute side of a TLC facility. I love doing sub acute because not all patients are there til death, they are there and they get better and I like that. I had a new admit that I didn't even know about, until the receptionist paged me and told me the admit was there and i needed to help her out of her car. I dropped what I was doing, grabbed a wheelchair and went to get the lady out of her car. She was quite the b**** to me, telling me "that they waited forever for someone to help get her out, and she just had knee surgery, what did I expect her to do? Walk into the building by herself?" When I apologized and took her to the subwing, I stopped at the nurses station to pick up her admit papers and find out which room she was assigned to. This made her mad too. I was called imcompetent and worthless. I just smiled and said "I really hope you enjoy your stay here with us. Just think of how great it's going to be to go back to your own home soon!" I was her CNA the day she got released. While I was helping her pack, she told me that she couldn't wait to get out of here and away from me and the nurses, because we are all quacks. I was so glad when she got back in her car and left us for good.
Hmmm, wonder what charm school she got her training in.:rolleyes:
Specializes in Neuroscience/Cardiac.

A patient told me that if I drank more water my acne would clear up. I said "wow i've never heard of such a thing! and to think i just started accutane when i could have simply just drank water. thanks!"

Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..
A patient told me that if I drank more water my acne would clear up. I said "wow i've never heard of such a thing! and to think i just started accutane when i could have simply just drank water. thanks!"
:lol2::lol2::yeah:If only that was true, hunh.
Specializes in IMCU.

I had a patient's grandfather ask me if I was about his age. I said well I am a bit younger as he was around 77 and I was 56 at the time. He looked at me and said "well you've must have lived a hard life!" I just looked at him and laughed and said "Not really!" Don't know what his problem was. Just a rude ole' man I suppose.

Mahage

Had a cranky little old lady tell me that I was treating her like a "red headed stepchild" and that she was going to put a curse on me.

I said, "Really? What kind of curse??"

She said, "Im going to make all your pus*y hair fall out."

I laughed and asked her if she could do it in time for bathing suit season.

This week one of my patients told me to go to hell. My first thought was to reply you first but of course I would never blurt out such a thing.

I would- and have.

Specializes in PACU.
I would- and have.

I would've played that one passive-aggressively.

"I'll look forward to meeting you again when I arrive! :)"

I've never gotten anything from a patient that's been especially interesting.

I would've played that one passive-aggressively.

"I'll look forward to meeting you again when I arrive! :)"

..............

Good comeback.

The longer I'm a nurse, the crankier and less willing to put up w/ BS I get.

When pts have been nasty to me, I have often been nasty right back. Not the best way to respond, to be sure

Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..

I would have asked them what charm school they graduated from, and then told them to remind me not to go there.

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