I don't know why but that statement makes my jaw clench up everytime I hear it.
I had a patient the other day ask me how I was going to insert a foley since "the head is down there, wont that hurt the baby?" For the love god, people .... come on .. 2 HOLES! SERIOUSLY!
and my favorite of all time ...
"Does that machine beep everytime I dilate?" .. this one left me speechless
Please share your "omg, no she didn't say/ask that" quotes
Oh ... I can't believe I almost forgot this one, I hear it almost every day:
"Do you have kids?"
When I answer no, most either reply with "I'm sorry" or "Then you don't really know what this labor thing is all about then huh?"
And how many times have we heard daddy's say "can I get an epidural too?", its not original, cute or funny. Try again.
best one i heard-a 17 yr old w/15 or 16 yr old boyfriend tells me and my co worker who has been there 27 yrs, after i try to explain that screaming at the top of her lungs doesn't effectively manage pain and only decreases o2 to the baby etc etc-that i don't understand she has a PAIIINNN!!!. i looked at her and her s/o and smiled and told her the only one in the room who didnt understand was her s/o. I gave birth to 7 kids one at a time with no pain meds no epidural and no screaming. and most of them were older than her. about 2 mos later i go to dunkin donuts and there she was and i sweetly asked how they were all doing and she asked how i wanted my coffee. i ordered a donut instead LOL
Hey, I thought I was the only one that used that Holiday Inn thing..." Are you the nurse " as you're getting ready for a sve....:-)
mentioning holiday inn? pts think they are in a 4 star hotel. the majority of our pts are on service-not privates but they want the best food-is there such a thing in a hospital? one ordered a grilled chicken with cheese and roasted tomatoe on a roll 1 hr post delivery. on l&d were lucky if we can scrounge up a turkey or pbj sandwich. the best was a 17 yr old multip who shook her ice cup at me and said "miss-i want more ice now!" or maybe it was the post c/s that tossed me a cup and said "you can throw this away now" gotta love them. :rotfl:
I'm just barely coming onto this thread and after reading your comments about your patients, I think you need to seriously find another line of work where you won't be involved with laboring mothers. YESSS I KNOW THIS IS A PLACE TO BE ABLE TO VENT AND I HAVE HAD PTS WHO MAKE ME WANT TO SCREAM TOO!! But one of our main jobs is to also educate the patients and answer their questions regardless of how stupid they may seem. I was once told that there are no stupid questions, only the ones you don't ask. When it comes to patient care, there are no stupid questions!!!!! :uhoh21:
Do you honestly think that any one of these nurses on this site are NOT educating these patients? Do you really think they are laughing in these pts' faces and walking out of the room???? You are obviously a newcomer to OB. You are right, stupid is a very harsh word and people say and do weird and crazy things when they are in pain.
Specializes in Medical/Surgical/Maternal and Child.
Do you honestly think that any one of these nurses on this site are NOT educating these patients? Do you really think they are laughing in these pts' faces and walking out of the room???? You are obviously a newcomer to OB. You are right, stupid is a very harsh word and people say and do weird and crazy things when they are in pain.
I've worked in facilities where patients have overheard nurses gossiping about them at the nurse's station and I've been in the OR and have heard some pretty nasty comments about patients from the staff while they're out and can't defend themselves. But I'm also broad minded enough to realize that some of their patients have been real stinkers too and the stress level on some of these units especially L/D, is so thick you can cut it with a knife. But we still have to remember that we are there for the patients and we are there to educate them regarding their illnesses. Been an RN for 12 years and nope I'm not a newcomer to OB. Did prenatal and post partum nursing for 8 years. I stand by my comments in my prior post!!!
i think most nurses try their best to keep things in perspective. we always have to be nice to the patient but it doesnt necessarily mean they are nice to us. most of the time they don't even appreciate how you care for them. in l&d we wipe vomit/blood/poop, hold hands that almost break ours, cry sometimes for our patients out of empathy and happiness. the other night i pushed with a woman who refused to push had her foot on my ribs and foot in my hand trying to get gravity to help so she wouldn't have to go to section and have the baby pushed back up the birth canal. i still have bruises not the first and not the last or when you cry with a pt because of a demise that they really wanted to be their future is lost, or the tears of joy when a couple look lovingly at their wonderful new child. those are the things that make me go back night after night though i want to see my own children fall asleep and laugh and cry with them. i think that we just have to let some of it out somewhere and since we know that we cant and dont in front of the patients, where else are we going to be understood?
I'm just barely coming onto this thread and after reading your comments about your patients, I think you need to seriously find another line of work where you won't be involved with laboring mothers. YESSS I KNOW THIS IS A PLACE TO BE ABLE TO VENT AND I HAVE HAD PTS WHO MAKE ME WANT TO SCREAM TOO!! But one of our main jobs is to also educate the patients and answer their questions regardless of how stupid they may seem. I was once told that there are no stupid questions, only the ones you don't ask. When it comes to patient care, there are no stupid questions!!!!! :uhoh21:
I'll have you know that I am an EXCELLENT L&D nurse. I am very caring and provide exceptional care to my patients.
I'm just barely coming onto this thread and after reading your comments about your patients, I think you need to seriously find another line of work where you won't be involved with laboring mothers.
Someone vents here and you automatically draw (JUDGE) to this conclusion????
Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.
Actually, I wouldn't be a bit surprised if SOME, not all, but SOME of the nurses on this board have been real stinkers to their patients. I've worked in facilities where patients have overheard nurses gossiping about them at the nurse's station and I've been in the OR and have heard some pretty nasty comments about patients from the staff while they're out and can't defend themselves. But I'm also broad minded enough to realize that some of their patients have been real stinkers too and the stress level on some of these units especially L/D, is so thick you can cut it with a knife. But we still have to remember that we are there for the patients and we are there to educate them regarding their illnesses. Been an RN for 12 years and nope I'm not a newcomer to OB. Did prenatal and post partum nursing for 8 years. I stand by my comments in my prior post!!!
*sigh* I knew it....
But I will say this: this is a very unfair and judgemental posting. I have never, I repeat NEVER been a "stinker" to my patients. No matter how 'stinky" they are to me, (and boy can they be)----- I always give them my best, treating them as if they were family of my own! My comment cards/critique forms and numerous thank-you's say this enough. Knock on wood, never, in 8 years, have I received or gotten even the faintest wind of a complaint about the care I rendered my patients or family members. I consider that a badge of honor, and I wear it proudly. :)
But I am NOT above needing to vent about the things I am subjected to on my job, just like anyone else. It's not easy, never has been.
Like I said, way back when, and I knew such a comment was coming: You can't have a thread like this w/o someone coming in and chastising the participants. It never, ever fails. We are expected never to ever vent, even in an appropropriate forum such as this.
Tell you what: I feel strongly if you are not happy with what you read here, maybe you should move on. I think it's ok and appropriate to vent among colleagues who have the same issues. I strongly doubt anyone here is a 'stinker" to her patients; conversely, I bet the venting is what keeps most of them SANE.
As long as foul attitudes never present to our patients, nor is our care of them tainted, what is the huge deal anyhow???! We ARE HUMAN and sometimes just need to blow off steam. :stone
This idea that a baby has to go to a "transition nursery" is ridiculous. I would never deliver or encourage anyone to deliver in a place that has that archaic philosophy.
BETSRN, consider your area VERY lucky. I've love to work in a LDRP situation, but none of the hospitals around here have it. I'm talking about a medium large city in the midwest, containing roughly 1 million people within the city limits. We have 3 level III NICU's, but no one has an LDRP setup. I agree with you, this is a very archaic system. If any of the local hospitals do get an LDRP, it will because of public pressure, not through any original ideas brought by hospital administration.
Do you honestly think that any one of these nurses on this site are NOT educating these patients? Do you really think they are laughing in these pts' faces and walking out of the room???? You are obviously a newcomer to OB. You are right, stupid is a very harsh word and people say and do weird and crazy things when they are in pain.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Nurses are human also and it is very normal to do your job, and do it well, and still need to *vent*. This is an appropriate place to vent. You know you can't say these things to the patient so you do what you have to do, and vent later. There is no way every nurse can come home and have nothing but positive things to say, that's ridiculous.
Specializes in Medical/Surgical/Maternal and Child.
Well I guess I got a great deal of flack for stating my opinions and offended some nurses on this forum. It's just that the there was something in the post that bothered me about the way she stated her patients' comments. NurseforPreggers I'm sure you're a very good and caring nurse as are most of the nurses on this forum and I realize that we all have to vent. So that being said I will take my 40 lashes with a wet noodle!!!!
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best one i heard-a 17 yr old w/15 or 16 yr old boyfriend tells me and my co worker who has been there 27 yrs, after i try to explain that screaming at the top of her lungs doesn't effectively manage pain and only decreases o2 to the baby etc etc-that i don't understand she has a PAIIINNN!!!. i looked at her and her s/o and smiled and told her the only one in the room who didnt understand was her s/o. I gave birth to 7 kids one at a time with no pain meds no epidural and no screaming. and most of them were older than her. about 2 mos later i go to dunkin donuts and there she was and i sweetly asked how they were all doing and she asked how i wanted my coffee. i ordered a donut instead LOL